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when to leave

by doggylove, Sep 28, 2009 08:08PM
I have posted before but I have come to s breaking point. I don't know if my husband is cheating but we are not having sex and we are ( I ) am in this limbo state, I want to leave but we are suppose to be moving in three weeks to a new home that HE got and put in a tust with his dad as the executor...........see where I am going with this. He is controlling and I am tired of it. I can now say that I DO NOT love him! Here is the problem, I do not work and have virtually no money (that is mine) I know legally it is ours but I don't trust him cause he has all the power. If I leave now I will have no money to survuve for a while until we get a lawyer or do I wait and make the move and THEN do it........I am scared that once  ask for this separartion/divorce he will withhold money or make me beg......like usual. I am totally lost and don't know what to do. Does anyone has experience with this? What do you do when you leave and you have to rely on the husband to support you? Where do you get the money? Do you have to get a lawyer right away? I am scared
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by Princessa745, Sep 29, 2009 08:47AM
Do you have children? I know you should not leave the house!!! He can then get your for abandoning the home and that would not be good. I would suggest consulting your situation with a lawyer!!! A consultation is free and they may take your case knowing you will pay them once it has been settled.

by teko, Oct 03, 2009 12:09PM
Start to prepare to leave, once you tell him, everything will be hidden or put in someone elses name or sold. No matter how nice a guy or woman for that matter is during the relationship, all that goes out the window when splitting up. Start hoarding money and do not put it in the bank. Get a credit card while you can in your name and do not use it. Or pay it off monthly for now. Be prepared to take your stuff with you when and if you leave, cus there is no coming back for it latr. Choose which vehicle you want and when you leave, take it. If you have no money and have a car payment, you might want to take the one that is paid for. Find employment. You can always file for separation with custody agreement pending divorce, then let him file for the divorce and pay himself. Be prepared because when he does find out you are thinking about it he will.

Close any and all Joint accounts and keep money underground.
He will do whatever it takes to starve you out and get even by not allowing you to have anything.  It is in your best interest to go to an attorney, file, let the attorney freeze all assest, after you got yours that is, until things can be separated, and I know this sounds awful, but if anyone has ever lived with a controlling person, you will know why I say what I do.
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