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Life & Death of our Pets...from my Heart..Plz Read
by Sandra_G, Nov 07, 2009 01:58AM
Hi all....This is an upbeat letter to all of you who suffer the heartache & constant worry of a sick pet, and/or the loss of your precious fur baby.
I watched an adorable video tonight of a tiny puppy "falling in love" with the family cat. It was mutual love.
It made me think of my Poodle Julie, when she was a puppy & how lucky I am to have had the pleasure of experiencing her adorable, fun & loving life, , from a puppy to now, at 10 yrs. old.
She is my first dog as a adult. When I look back at the 10 years that I have had with Julie, I say thank you God for giving her to us. Julie is a loving learning experience...every day is different. She is a child to us.
Julie traveled with us everywhere we went, every Hotel, Motel, Holiday Inn, around the USA & Canada.
She is a pleasure to take anywhere. When I look at her & start to cry, knowing that I am losing her, I try to think of the fun times with her, & she still is fun, it helps a bit.
It took me a long time to believe that I am losing Julie. In my crazy mind, I couldn't comprehend that I'd lose her. I felt that people were wrong, NOT MY DOG, I thought. How WRONG I was.
I spent mega bucks to "save Julie & to try to make her better". Thats short lived. Something always happens again & again.
I lose my precious Mom one year ago. She & I both went thru the the Five Stages Of Dying & I now realize thats what I am going through with my Julie..... (sadly, my Mom never came to Acceptance.)
They are...1. Denial, 2. Anger, 3. Barganing with God, 4. Depression, & 5. Acceptance.
Acceptance is NOT doing nothing, defeat, resignation or submission.
Acceptance IS coming to terms with reality. Death is after all, a part of LIFE.
I wrote alot on Cushings in the past & when other people in the forum said what a awful disease it is & most dogs don't live too long, I knew she was very sick yet I cringed & thought of how wrong they are. My baby will NOT die, I will get her cured.
How wrong was I??? I was so very WRONG. I was in Denial & Anger. Than I Bargained with God, every day.
Right now, I am somewhere between Depression & Acceptance, as best that I can handle it, because I have no other choice.
Whats was so hard to accept is the LIMITED years that we have with our precious Pets. After all, I had my Mom for 81 years, (although thats never enough). This is what I am starting to accept about Julie.
This is not meant to be depressing, I am telling all of you my learning experiences with Julie. There is so much more good to tell, but I will stop now, because I am hoping that you will all think of the great times with your own pets, past & present. My heart goes out to everyone. Keep your spirit up & your pet will live in it.
I watched an adorable video tonight of a tiny puppy "falling in love" with the family cat. It was mutual love.
It made me think of my Poodle Julie, when she was a puppy & how lucky I am to have had the pleasure of experiencing her adorable, fun & loving life, , from a puppy to now, at 10 yrs. old.
She is my first dog as a adult. When I look back at the 10 years that I have had with Julie, I say thank you God for giving her to us. Julie is a loving learning experience...every day is different. She is a child to us.
Julie traveled with us everywhere we went, every Hotel, Motel, Holiday Inn, around the USA & Canada.
She is a pleasure to take anywhere. When I look at her & start to cry, knowing that I am losing her, I try to think of the fun times with her, & she still is fun, it helps a bit.
It took me a long time to believe that I am losing Julie. In my crazy mind, I couldn't comprehend that I'd lose her. I felt that people were wrong, NOT MY DOG, I thought. How WRONG I was.
I spent mega bucks to "save Julie & to try to make her better". Thats short lived. Something always happens again & again.
I lose my precious Mom one year ago. She & I both went thru the the Five Stages Of Dying & I now realize thats what I am going through with my Julie..... (sadly, my Mom never came to Acceptance.)
They are...1. Denial, 2. Anger, 3. Barganing with God, 4. Depression, & 5. Acceptance.
Acceptance is NOT doing nothing, defeat, resignation or submission.
Acceptance IS coming to terms with reality. Death is after all, a part of LIFE.
I wrote alot on Cushings in the past & when other people in the forum said what a awful disease it is & most dogs don't live too long, I knew she was very sick yet I cringed & thought of how wrong they are. My baby will NOT die, I will get her cured.
How wrong was I??? I was so very WRONG. I was in Denial & Anger. Than I Bargained with God, every day.
Right now, I am somewhere between Depression & Acceptance, as best that I can handle it, because I have no other choice.
Whats was so hard to accept is the LIMITED years that we have with our precious Pets. After all, I had my Mom for 81 years, (although thats never enough). This is what I am starting to accept about Julie.
This is not meant to be depressing, I am telling all of you my learning experiences with Julie. There is so much more good to tell, but I will stop now, because I am hoping that you will all think of the great times with your own pets, past & present. My heart goes out to everyone. Keep your spirit up & your pet will live in it.
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Making matters worse are people who will never understand that the loss of a pet can be soul destroying so we don't get the same support as someone who is grieving the loss of a person. I'll never forget my boss laughing when my dog died a few years ago. He never understood what that dog meant to me and was shocked that I took it so hard.
Thanks for the great post. :-)
I really do understand how you feel. I feel that way already & Julie is still with me.
Please, for in the future, read what I wrote about anesthesia...the one the Vet gave Julie & she pulled through, against all odds. It is used on babies & now dogs. How great is that! I gave the name of the anesthesia too. I was always afraid of sedatives too.
They slow down the heart. Did the Vet tell you why Chloe died?
Jaybay & Chasha... As for what other people think & say about your love for your pet...
(I say...please Lord, don't let me curse them out like I want to do. Hold me back)
My neighbor just came out & told me to put Julie to sleep because she had the runs a few months ago & she knows that Julie has Cushings etc... Oh did I get pissed.
I said to her.." how would you like it if I told you to put your daughter to sleep when she was real sick"?? Oh boy, we got into it for half an hour or so. The bottom line is that she realized how important my Julie is to me, as her daughter is to her.
I told her thats an ignorant thing to say about my dog & I will know when it's time to say goodbye to Julie, not her. She apoligized & we are still friends. How come the ones who have something to say...all have no pets & don't want pets??? Hummmmmmm
Jaybay...I don't know how you survived your boss laughing. I would have went off on him.
He is cruel & heartless. You must have the patience of a saint.
Before Julie, I always felt so bad for anyone who lost a pet.
Understanding how a pet owner feels about thier pet, should be a no brainer to others. Yet this world is full of cruel & heartless people. Enough said.
Peace sisters....
I don't know if my dog is like a 'child' to me, or not. She feels like my little sister or something similar, But I always think of this analogy: having a dog and loving that dog is very similar to having a child or close family member, and KNOWING, all their life long, that beloved little Soul is not going to live beyond its teens.
Now knowing what I know about the way people feel about their fur-babies, (and how I feel about my Misty) that is an unthinkable situation to be in. Can you imagine any mother who knows that about her kids? How she would feel?
But, knowing all that (and the older they get, the more we think about it) -we still push away the thought of 'tomorrow', and the inexorable march of time, and give them all we have, right up to the last second. That's brave. I think we're all incredibly brave.
Yeah, peace, sisters. Shine on!..........
I had a boss so great that she let me leave when my best friend's cat was dying. Granted, I could walk from work to the vet school, so I didn't miss all day, but still, it was great to have someone understand.
Take good care of your Julie; she'll let you know when she's ready.