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1846629 tn?1319011642

My dog had to be put down yesterday and I'm distraught.

I am an emotional wreck and desperately want my dog back even though I know it's not possible, I had a fantastic bond with him, he was only 8 years old and didn't deserve to die. He had a tumor on his kidney and we only found that out the day he died, I was shocked and I am only 15 and haven't gone to school for 2 days now, i miss him more than anything, It still doesn't seem real, has anyone got any advice, I could really do with some (ideally non-religious)
                                        Thank you
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1846629 tn?1319011642
Thank you for those great ideas :') I must admit every time I think about him I cry and cry, in fact earlier I thought I was going to black out but it feels like there's a huge hole in my heart and I keep thinking about our memories and how it's not fair that Sid ( a wonderful, loving dog) would be taken away from my family and I . Oh and bless your heart, I feel exactly the same maybe I should try some thing similar. I won't. thank you for the advice :')
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1846629 tn?1319011642
I meant * i won't.  And then..... thank you for your advice. I read it back and it sounded horrid.
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1846629 tn?1319011642
Thank you for those great ideas :') I must admit every time I think about him I cry and cry, in fact earlier I thought I was going to black out but it feels like there's a huge hole in my heart and I keep thinking about our memories and how it's not fair that Sid ( a wonderful, loving dog) would be taken away from my family and I . Oh and bless your heart, I feel exactly the same maybe I should try some thing similar. I won't thank you for the advice :')
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675347 tn?1365460645
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There's no easy way when you've lost a friend and companion, whether that friend is human or dog. You will feel very very sad. And go over all the things you think you did wrong, or think you should have done, etc.
But let yourself grieve. It's natural. You're right, to take a few days to let out the pain and grief, and be on your own, or do whatever you need to do. Maybe you could make his grave beautiful with crystals or flowers, or carve a headstone for him...or if you have his ashes, maybe you could go to a special place to scatter them.
Or maybe you could write about him, or some poems or something.
Those things will help.

When my last dog died, I spent so much time working on his grave to make it pretty. I cried my eyes out evey night. I wandered about like a little lost soul. But other people knew what had happened to me, and invited me out, etc, and it gave me something to do -not to take my mind off him exactly, but to just help me along, day to day.
It was 2 years before I could get another dog. She is beautiful, and like my little sister.
Don't shut your parents out though. They must miss him too.
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1846629 tn?1319011642
I'm also very sorry, you lost your dog Rebel :(
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1846629 tn?1319011642
Thank you very much, i actually feel a bit better and I don't judge you for doing that, whatever works for you. :)
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Of course, and I hope you feel better soon.
Personally, (and everyone grieves in different ways), I took his collar, bought a stuffed dog, and put the collar on it. I cuddled that stuffed dog every night till I felt I was okay to let him go, then I wrapped up the collar and put it away. It took me months.
And although other people may frown upon it and be insulted, I bought a puppy the day Rebel went to sleep, from the same people I got rebel from. I didn't get the puppy for another month, but having something yip and yap and lick and jump all over you does help lessen the pain of loss. Its not replacing, simply filling in the void that's left behind by that personality.

Like I said before, I wish you the best, and hope you start to feel better soon. :)
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1846629 tn?1319011642
Thank you very much :')
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1846629 tn?1319011642
Please comment, I'm desperate :'(
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Hey there,

I'm terribly sorry to hear about your dog, and offer my sincere condolences. When I was your age, I lost my best friend of 10 years as well, Rebel. He had developed thyroid cancer on his lower spin, and lost the function of his back legs. They diagnosed him in November, about mid way, and by December (Within a week his health went absolutely downhill) we decided it would just be too cruel to let it continue.
I still remember that day, and its been 6 years now. I cried pretty hard, and didn't go to school for a few days. I wanted him back more then anything, but like you, I knew that was impossible. I drawled on him for quite a long time, till a friend told me, "This isn't how his memory should be treated, and he would want you to be happy." Which is true, no matter what context its in.
The best advice I can give (it worked for me at least), is to gather the pictures you have of him, put them in a special photo album, and just remember the good times.Laugh and smile and move on with life, no matter how hard it may seem to be. It all gets better eventually. I'm sure if your pup had a voice (And to most of us, they most certainly do), he would tell you to be happy, and that everything is and will be okay.
As hard as it is, putting down an animal you love because they are sick and in pain, is the most humane and loving act. Your allowed to grieve, never tell yourself anything different. Tears are the best relief.
But I'm sure he wouldn't want it to stop you from 'living'. :)
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