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148691 tn?1260194903

ok, here i go... 'goodbye to Maggie'

Long story short:
in july of 06 I had a very traumatic miscarriage, followed by infertility.
in the midst of dispair, I told my husband I wanted a puppy, to take care of and love. I wanted a schnauzer (had them all my life) and he told me if it wasn't a boxer, no way we got a dog.
we ended up with Maggie, our female very destructive and hyper, huge boxer.
To one point there was so much destruction in our living room, my husband once thought our home had gotten broken into.
we fell pregnant. And now my daughter is 2. She would get knocked down all the time, there were hairs everywhere, slobber, and she'd paw at her (not intentionally to hurt her) and would scratch her delicate skin.
my husband and I decided that was it, and looked meticulously for good two months for a suitable, happy family for Maggie. We found them ad sunday we went to drop her off.
my husband was extremely attached to the dog and he resents me a lot. I loved my Maggie but also feared for the worse with my daughter. She bit a couple of kids and once drew blood of my hand.

.....:( I still miss her.

I told my husband that id love to get a schnauzer. I LOVE Them! But he's so resentful, he told me he was done with dogs.

:(

I do want a guard pup, and they are excellent! We live in town and feel insecure without Maggie now.

Im so sad, and feel like I failed. I didn't tolerate her, so now im scared that if we ever get a small pup (which im used to) it would be conflicting again.

My parents still have my schnauzer from whe I moved out (10 years ago!) And I love him very much! My daughter adores him and plays so cute with him. He doesn't knock her down and doesn't slobber or shed. He doesn't destroy and is content with just laying beside you o. The couch.....

*sighs*

I am not sure what to do.

I miss having a pup.
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148691 tn?1260194903
No, and I think your mouth is full of truth and wisdom.
I need to refocus.... I need to put things in perspective.

Maggie is 4 years old. She settled down a bit, but I wouldn't want her to 'just lay down, ya know? After all, they are dogs and that's what they do: play. She was just very big and muscular. My daughter is tiny.
our dogs (schnauzers) were playful, but due to their size, they would not hurt. I just feel so aweful about the whole thing. My husband would 'scrub my nose' into it some times being sarcastic... and all I can think of is: well, I can't do squat but take it, since I allowed it to happen.... I should have gone with what I was familiar with.

:(

Thank you so much for such wise advise.
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1388999 tn?1370042814
You have a problem first off forget your parents dog he is much older and if Maggie was that age she would have been so much quieter yes !even a Boxer.
The best thing to do is wait till your daughter gets a bit older and then you can buy a puppy for her If she wants one.

Your husband is wrong! but i think if you stopped bringing out his resentment and took a different approach and let sleeping dogs lie for now it would be better for everyone.

Dont get me wrong I adore dogs but you have your child to think about and it could come down to him or a dog.Is that what you want ??
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