After no sleep last night .im not sure i will make complete sense here..but...here goes...My son is 21 and we have had some major chan,tips
in our house,,,my son and grandson have moved in temp....Coty (the son with ds) had a huge meltdown last night, hitting me and hs stepfather after i told him to not yell at the 3 yr. old...unlike u we dont have a grasp on the hold down thing, Hes strong and can really hurt...any tips there would help.All i can say is when Coty has a huge change in his life this happens,,Maybe look for changes in her life that she feels threathened by...He doesnt do this unless the change is too much to handle...This also hapened when he lost an aide at school...just know its not anthing premeditated or meaning to hurt anyone.He loves his stepdad ..he always feels terrible after the incident,,I have today aftet giving him some time,,,explained that i will say 2 words to him before he hits and he needs to pull it back together,,,,go to his room for calm time...this works if i can catch it early,,,look for her signs...that she is loosing it...think of a phrase or words that can bring her back...takes practice buti will say we have gotten this down to about once a year instead of daily....nothing comes quickly but it will come...I am having his thyroid tested this week...have heard this can trigger some behaviors along with sleeplessness and so on.I will hope and pray this passes as ours will get better also....
i truly wish i could give words of advice or direction for you. but, i did want to let you know that you are NOT alone in this. i am the step mom to a 14 yr old girl with ds. it almost seems the day she turned 13 last year, she changed in behavior. she "attacks", hits, bites etc about things that are normal every day things like putting dirty dishes in the sink or putting clean clothes on. i know it is a lot to do with her age and what goes along with it. she is non verbal though. but she does speak some words, roughly 15-20 words, some better than others. she does communicate physically very well though. when out of the house, for the most part, she is a great kid. but, at home, she is totally different. she is the same height as me now and is very strong. i'm searching on line as much as possible to find out if there is anything i can do or what can be done. but, all i am finding out is that this is a very very very common issue with ds people. doesn't exactly make me feel better and it seems no one really has any answers on how to deal with it. she will lunge towards us, bite us, hit us, go after us etc.. she screams on the top of her lungs (she has a "whispery" voice normally). we have mastered pinning her down to get her to settle down and to keep ourselves safe as well. i don't like doing it, but, i need to keep her safe and ourselves safe too. i hope you find the answers you are looking for and i certainly hope you are willing to share with us!! i know i will if i find out anything. i love her dearly and plan on adopting her, she is just scaring me with her extreme aggression.