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by carlo1970, Oct 08, 2009 01:02PM
My step son is 15 and has down syndrome, traits of autism and a tick disorder. He is not the typical ds child and is very agitated, angry and abusive, he is not very happy with me at the moment and continues to spit, swear and sometimes attack me. he is on rispidol on a .25ml dose at the moment and we are going to the docs next week to review his dose.
The behavioural expert says that we should ignore this kind of behaviour as he will do it more if he gets a reaction but my bone of contention is that when he goes to respite is that he can do what ever he like ie not get a bath, shout, swear, spit etc etc. I know that he is going to be difficult most of the time but at respite they have limitations due to best practise but there he gets no repurcussions so in the intrest of consistency we try to do the same. For example if he is not or anyone else is in danger or surrounding area ( damage to property) , he is fed or clean then that is the best outcome. We do not even try to get him in the bath anymore as he is very strong and we have to use physical endevour to bathe him. He may get a bath for his older sister who he is getting on very well with at the moment but she only comes once or twice a week and he needs to get a bath more than this.
He is very noisy at home and has an imaginary friend who he fights with upstairs and destroys his or any one else room which is left unlocked, we have locks on most doors to keep him from escaping and breaking every thing but it still happens as he should be allowed to have some freedom in his own house and garden but at what cost?
This is a brief outline of my step sons disorder and I do feel that the logger head with my step son is quite disruptive to the house lod and needs resolving. I am really struggling to keep my patience with him when he spits at me and mostly me all the time he is in the house, I am not allowed to talk to him or tell him what to do like turn the lights off in the middle of the day or lock doors ( the list is quite big but you get the picture)..
Please any suggestions are welcome like my way to deal with it or ways to work with him or just anything...
The behavioural expert says that we should ignore this kind of behaviour as he will do it more if he gets a reaction but my bone of contention is that when he goes to respite is that he can do what ever he like ie not get a bath, shout, swear, spit etc etc. I know that he is going to be difficult most of the time but at respite they have limitations due to best practise but there he gets no repurcussions so in the intrest of consistency we try to do the same. For example if he is not or anyone else is in danger or surrounding area ( damage to property) , he is fed or clean then that is the best outcome. We do not even try to get him in the bath anymore as he is very strong and we have to use physical endevour to bathe him. He may get a bath for his older sister who he is getting on very well with at the moment but she only comes once or twice a week and he needs to get a bath more than this.
He is very noisy at home and has an imaginary friend who he fights with upstairs and destroys his or any one else room which is left unlocked, we have locks on most doors to keep him from escaping and breaking every thing but it still happens as he should be allowed to have some freedom in his own house and garden but at what cost?
This is a brief outline of my step sons disorder and I do feel that the logger head with my step son is quite disruptive to the house lod and needs resolving. I am really struggling to keep my patience with him when he spits at me and mostly me all the time he is in the house, I am not allowed to talk to him or tell him what to do like turn the lights off in the middle of the day or lock doors ( the list is quite big but you get the picture)..
Please any suggestions are welcome like my way to deal with it or ways to work with him or just anything...
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