How can I get help?

Hay, if you've seen my other question and can help with that thanks, but I think I got it. I'm over eating because i feel lonely and left out. I'm the black sheep in the family, I hate how my two older sisters and mom all intract with each other but I'm so left out. So, I hide (only making it worse) and find comfort in food. It also dosnt help that my parents never told me to stop eating. How often do parents tell there kids to stop eating? They're always telling them to shut up put their butt on the chair and eat their dinner. And then I they eat all that they get rewarded with dessert, aka more food. I'm not blaming my parents, I'm just pointing out that it's rare or some one to tell me to not eat. Only time I was told not to was when I would eat tons of cookies right before dinner. But now that I'm older I'm allowed to take care of myself but sence I turn to food cookies can be my bff, then later cause huge stomach acks. Thing is I eat until my stomach hurts or until it's all gone. Rare will I stop only web I'm full, and because of that I got used to always eating a ton and I get hunger a lot more often and it takes more to fill me up.

Although I am not overweight yet I can be called chubby/heavily built. I'm not lightly build but I am not heavily built so I have gained some body fat. I swim too, and I'm scard that my bad unhealthy chooses of foods will effect my performance. Also I do notice that I do become a little short of breath and I'm sure that eating tons of peanutbutter and chokolate each an everyday isn't the best for me. Especcaly when this is one of the only sports I can do due to hives appearing when get to warm and flat feet and slightly crooked knees land sports are ussaly rules out. (biking is okay if it's cool out) I want to tell my parents that I want help with over eating. I do extremely over eat abd I have mentioned it before. All that I was told was "then don't eat it" and "then we won't buy any cookies for awhile" glad I can't eat cookies but we still have other foods. Thanksfully we have less foods that I like to binge on but I still do. My top three foods I do binge on are bread (whole wheat thankfully) peanutbutter chokolate. If I can get all three together I might do so.

So question is, how can I ask for help without seaming anorexic cuz there was a point when I did starve myself. I'm so scard I will make myself unhealthy with it. Not only that but my stomach hurts when I over eat but I can't stop. Bottom mention I threw up a few times becuase of bingeing. Like when I ate the whole box of ice cream sandwiches and then half the box of corn dogs, or when I tryed to eat 3 cups of rice and half the loaf of bread plus apples yogurt and other stuff today. I think te rice was bad, it was old and I threw up like five times. But I'm better now but I still did eat after that. Now my stomach hurts, and I really want to stop over eating and eat normal amounts! I can't help feel "hungry" all the time. How can I get help?

[Zoelula]

I did respond to your other question, but it sounds like you have a lot of insight into the causes of your overeating. That's good! We tend to eat for lots of reasons that don't have very much do do with hunger or fullness. For some of us the saying, "Eat when you're hungry, stop when you're full"  may as well be another language. We don't recognize either thing and we eat for lots of other reasons. Understanding this is a start to breaking this pattern, but you are right that you might need some help to do this. One option is to ask your doctor or your school counselor for a referral to a therapist with experience with eating disorders. They will work with you to see how your feelings are affecting your eating and to work through those feelings in other ways. Another option is to go to meetings of OA. You can look in your phonebook under Overeater's Anonymous. Meetings are free. If you live in a larger city there might even be special meetings for young people. Good luck. I was a lot older than you when I got recovery from my eating disorder. It can get a lot worse if you don't do something. Hang in there and let us know how it goes.

[Libby2999]

Thanks a bunch. I'll look up some groups in my area. There should be. I want school to start cuz then I'll be to bussy to east my time eating. I'm mostly glad that there are poeople who do understand, :) thanks