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QUESTIONS ABOUT CASA PALMERA
by BenHawk, Oct 18, 2009 07:18PM
Hello all...
Does anyone know anything about Casa Palmera?
My girlfriend was recently there and is now coming home.
It's really been a rough time for me while she's been gone...Not because of the separation, but because of what I heard from her while when we talked.
Before she went, she told everyone that that's where the therapist said she should go...
Well, that's not the case.
Her parents and her were really the ones who planned everything, but I feel like they put too much on her and really gave her too much freedom in some aspects.
They're the classic "enablers" in my opinion. At the same time, I understand what they're going through...
They're relatively wealthy and continue to "bail her out" just enough, but then are really upset and "let down" when she doesn't do what "they expect".
So, from what I see, it really doesn't help break the cycle.
There's a lot more to this story, but I'm just trying to help you understand a little.
And, I'm sure most of you know the story all too well.
I myself have dealt, continue to deal, with my own addiction. And, her destructive, manipulative behaviors are so glaringly obvious to me.
Before I start to go on any further, can anyone tell me what they know about Casa Palmera?
Is it known as kind of a "cake walk"?
I've never been to rehab, but is it normal to be able to use your cell phone at any time? Or, the internet? Or, go out for manicures?
I honestly don't know...That's why I'm asking.
And, for the money "HER PARENTS" spent, I hope it was worth it.
That's another thing. Before leaving, she said that insurance finally okay'ed everything at Casa Palmera. Well, 5 days before she came home, insurance supposedly called and changed their decision. So, her parents were left with a pretty HUGE bill.
It just doesn't add up that insurance would okay something, and then call a month later (during the program), and take back their decision.
That's kind of where I'm going...I'm thinking this place was luxurious and beautiful and expensive and kind of "easy" if you will...So, she had to lie to everyone to get there...
What can I do about all this?
Nothing, really.
But, I am very very very worried about her health! I have seen many horrifying things in my time with her. I can honestly say that I don't think she had much time left. And, it's frustrating to watch her parents "think" they're helping her...When they're only making things worse. It's really sad to watch, honestly...
She's been dealing with bulimia/anorexia for over 10 years now. And, her parents are in denial, to a degree.
I don't know. I'm just looking for information.
I'm honestly totally lost. But, before I say ANYTHING to anyone, I want to be informed.
I'm not going to accuse her of anything or attack her.
But, there are people that love her dearly, that I think need some direction.
I would be sooooo crushed if something happened to her, and I "knew" things but was afraid to tell anybody...
Does that make sense?
Okay...Haha! I don't know how to end this.
;-)
I'll just wait for a response, and talk back.
Thanks for listening.
Does anyone know anything about Casa Palmera?
My girlfriend was recently there and is now coming home.
It's really been a rough time for me while she's been gone...Not because of the separation, but because of what I heard from her while when we talked.
Before she went, she told everyone that that's where the therapist said she should go...
Well, that's not the case.
Her parents and her were really the ones who planned everything, but I feel like they put too much on her and really gave her too much freedom in some aspects.
They're the classic "enablers" in my opinion. At the same time, I understand what they're going through...
They're relatively wealthy and continue to "bail her out" just enough, but then are really upset and "let down" when she doesn't do what "they expect".
So, from what I see, it really doesn't help break the cycle.
There's a lot more to this story, but I'm just trying to help you understand a little.
And, I'm sure most of you know the story all too well.
I myself have dealt, continue to deal, with my own addiction. And, her destructive, manipulative behaviors are so glaringly obvious to me.
Before I start to go on any further, can anyone tell me what they know about Casa Palmera?
Is it known as kind of a "cake walk"?
I've never been to rehab, but is it normal to be able to use your cell phone at any time? Or, the internet? Or, go out for manicures?
I honestly don't know...That's why I'm asking.
And, for the money "HER PARENTS" spent, I hope it was worth it.
That's another thing. Before leaving, she said that insurance finally okay'ed everything at Casa Palmera. Well, 5 days before she came home, insurance supposedly called and changed their decision. So, her parents were left with a pretty HUGE bill.
It just doesn't add up that insurance would okay something, and then call a month later (during the program), and take back their decision.
That's kind of where I'm going...I'm thinking this place was luxurious and beautiful and expensive and kind of "easy" if you will...So, she had to lie to everyone to get there...
What can I do about all this?
Nothing, really.
But, I am very very very worried about her health! I have seen many horrifying things in my time with her. I can honestly say that I don't think she had much time left. And, it's frustrating to watch her parents "think" they're helping her...When they're only making things worse. It's really sad to watch, honestly...
She's been dealing with bulimia/anorexia for over 10 years now. And, her parents are in denial, to a degree.
I don't know. I'm just looking for information.
I'm honestly totally lost. But, before I say ANYTHING to anyone, I want to be informed.
I'm not going to accuse her of anything or attack her.
But, there are people that love her dearly, that I think need some direction.
I would be sooooo crushed if something happened to her, and I "knew" things but was afraid to tell anybody...
Does that make sense?
Okay...Haha! I don't know how to end this.
;-)
I'll just wait for a response, and talk back.
Thanks for listening.
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