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This is for all the women who have had an ectopic pregnancy and the hard-ships we go through and overcome when it comes to the emotional pain. TTC after an ectopic pregnancy may be harder, but there is a fight within us all that can beat the odds together.

Founded by Jenni1187 on February 3, 2010
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Still hopeful

I miscarried 12/22/09.  I eventuall had a D&C done 1/14/10, and a little bit after that I had methotrexate injections.  Later they discovered that my pregnancy was ectopic, but there was a possibilty there was more than one baby the entire time.  I was rushed to the emergency room the same day as my appointment and I actually saw my baby on ultrasound, but he/she was not formed completely because of the injections that I had.  It was in my fallopian tube and couldn't be saved.  That was devastating to me and my husband.  I just wanted to know about when does a menstrual cycle come after that type of surgery?
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I'm so sorry to hear your story.  After 1.5 years of TTC and 5 unsuccessful IUI's, we finally got pregnancy the ol' natural way.  Our 1st prenatal visit ended in turmoil.  I was rushed to emergency surgery within 1 hour because my pregnancy was ectopic too.  After the surgery, shots of methotrexate, and numerous blood work, my hcg levels finally went down to 0, which took 3-4 weeks.  I got my 1st cycle about 6 weeks after my surgery.  We got the thumbs up to start trying again.  It has been 10 months and still no success.  It's easy to lose hope.  Lord knows I've fought with myself over and over again.  Maybe it won't happen?  Maybe it's not meant to be?  But I can't do this to myself - I owe it to myself to keep trying.  Going through an ectopic pregnancy was hard...painful...cruel.  I mean...you can literally feel your heart breaking.  It's something you'll never forget or really get over.  On the other hand, we did get pregnant.  That's sort of good news.  I'm just hoping we'll get pregnant again and hope the baby plants in the right place.  Didn't mean to write a novel - but to answer your question - my 1st cycle came 6 weeks after my surgery.  Good luck to you and your fertility journey.  
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I'm so sorry to hear about both of your losses. :( I went through something similar in the beginning of February and I had a normal menstrual cycle almost four weeks later. My doctor said that it could take up to six weeks though, but it should definitely be back to normal by then. I don't think you said, but I'm assuming when you went into surgery that they had to remove your tube as well? My tube was removed so if yours was also, then it should be the same. If it was saved though, then it might differ slightly. Good luck to both of you, and tons of sticky baby dust!!
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Thanks so much for the kind words.  My left tube is blocked, leaving me with only my right fallopian tube, which was where the ectopic was.  My doctor was able to save it.  We did an HSG 2 months after the surgery and luckily, it is clear...may not be in the best condition due to scar tissue, but it is open.  My doctor gave me a 50/50 chance that an ectopic could happen again.  It's discouraging as I don't ever want to go through this experience again.  But the other 50% is still huge - you just never know.  I just have to stay positive and keep on trying.  Good luck in your journey and lots of baby dust to you too.
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As discouraging as only a 50% chance sounds, you just have to keep in mind that any chance at all is better than nothing. I feel sorry for any woman who has to go through this kind of pain. But it's women like us who make the best mommies, who have been through the pain and heartbreak, and know that pregnancy isn't something that just happens and it can be taken away from you in a flash, we know not to take it for granted. We just have to stay positive (easier said than done). The body can do amazing things and miracles happen every day!!
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Hi Jenni1187.  I was reading your story in the other forum and didn't realize how much our stories were similar.  I, too, had a history of PID.  When we got pregnant last year, I expressed my concern to the nurse who didn't seem worried.  In our 1st ultrasound, that's when we heard the bad news and was rushed into emergency surgery within 1 hour.  You are right - we do have to stay positive.  We do have to keep trying.  I know this, but sometimes I just feel like it's never going to happen.  It's been 1 year since the ectopic pregnancy, but a total of 2.5 years of TTC.  We don't want to opt for IVF yet, but the disappointment month after month is so draining.  Are you back on the TTC road?  Did you ever get an HSG after your surgery?  I do have to say that I am on CD 33 right now and that's a little late for me (My cycles are usually 28-30 days).  If AF does not come by tomorrow, then I am definately doing an HPT.  Take care and speak to you soon.
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Well, AF showed her ugly face today....
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Booo AF! :( And it's crazy how as much as our intuition took over in our situation and as much as we pushed for that early ultrasound, nothing could prepare us for actually hearing the words and facing the reality of our fears. I'll never forget that moment. I'm not TTC just yet, I was told to wait two full cycles before doing so. I'm nearing the end of the second cycle though so I'll have a green light soon. Honestly, I'm still deciding on whether or not to "try". I know it sounds crazy. I'm not going on birth control or anything but I feel like actively trying (charting, OPK, etc.) is emotionally draining like you said. That and I feel like if I tried again right now, I wouldn't exactly be emotionally prepared. I'm scared to death of the same thing happening, so as great as getting pregnant again would be, it would absolutely terrify me at the same time. So I think I need more time to deal with the loss before I could try again and be positive about it. And in our situation, it's HARD to be positive. I don't know if I said this in my post that you read or not, but we hadn't been "trying" but weren't stopping it either when I first got pregnant. And it took three years for me to get pregnant. I haven't done an HSG yet. I figured I would TTC when I'm ready for about a year before I do that. Have you gotten one done? I wish you the best of luck and keep me updated, we're pretty much right on par so I'm interested to see what works for you. Tons of super sticky baby dust!!!!!
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Hello there.  Yes, I've actually had 2 HSG's done.  We started TTC in summer of 2007.  After 5 months with no success, I ended up going to an RE just to get a check up.  Blood work came back fine.  Husband's SA came back fine.  HSG showed left side blocked but right side open.  My RE wasn't too concern as it only takes 1 tube anyways.  We continued to TTC for another year.  Nothing.  I did 3 cycles of Clomid + IUI and 2 cycles of Injectibles + IUI.  NOTHING!  By this time, I simply gave up on all treatment and decided to just take a break.  Well, 3 months later we ended up pregnant on our own and that's when the ectopic happened.  My doctor ordered another HSG 8 weeks after the laparoscopy to make sure surgery didn't cause any blockage in my right tube.  The x-ray showed that my right tube was slightly contracted but fluid did go through so that's a good sign.  What HSG's don't show you is the condition of your tube.  Although it appears to be open, it may not be in the best condition.  I'm just hoping for some miracle....or $15k for IVF - whichever comes first :-)  In my situation with one good tube, it'll take me twice as long to get pregnant compared to others with 2 healthy tubes.  
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I just found out I am pregnant on Friday after my first round of IUI. I had an ectopic pregnancy last year and although I am scared to death that it will happen again and I will lose my other tube I am staying positive. I want this baby more than anything, my docotor will start monitoring me at five weeks because of my risk-I just want to go in for an ultrasound and see that baby. Good luck to all.
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