painful sex life

[megonce]

Hi all. i have recently joined the new forum as I am really interested in chatting to other woman about endometriosis and how it has affected there life.
I have been having sex since I was about 15 and never had a problem until about the age of 19. Sex is painful bearable but not enjoyable. I also have very painful period pain and if i do strenuous exercise I experience painful discomfort in the lower areas of my stomach.
I have seen a gynocologist and they have found nithing but have said i should have the procedure done to see if i do have endometriosis.

It has been a strain on my relationship as I never want to have sex with my oartner. does anybody else feel like this?
Thanks
Megan

[misskay31]

I know exactly how you feel!! I am in the same boat as you!!. I have had pain during sex for about 2 years now. I wasn't diagnosed with Endo til last December. At first, I didn't know what was going on. It wasn't until my doctor had suggested a Lap. My b/f has been amazing through all this. And now, I am almost sure I may be pregnant but I don't know how Endo will affect it.

[am511]

Sounds very familar. Sex hurt me badly the last couple years until I had the lap to diagnose endo. I would refuse or cut it short and it was def a strain on the relationship.  I would strongly reccomend have a lap done to diagnose so you can be appropriately diagnosed!

[Lalou8725]

I am in the same boat! Honestly its nice to chat with girls going through the same thing! I have endo and over 50 fibroid tumors. Sex is extremely painful most of the time. I am lucky that right durin and right after my period sex is not as painful but all the rest of the time sex is so painful during and mostly after. My boyfriends falls asleep and I am left by myself for almost an hour in the bath tub just crippled with pain. It's horrible to have this at such a young age.. I'm 25 but thankful I found. A man that really understands. I told him about everything when we first started datin and I told him if he couldn't handle it he could leave . But he stayed and has been super supportive. Although I know it gets hard . I hope everyone finds someone like him!

[Tracy030989]

I too have discomfort with sex :( my fiancée gets frustrated because I am not into sex as much as I was before. He does not understand the pain it causes me during and after. He will be all pleased and sleeping and I am still there griping my lower abdomen because I am in such pain. I haven't been diagnosed with anything yet but it's been a six year battle with many Dr.s. one Dr tol me it was a pulled muscle, this was two years into my symptoms, I'm a pulled muscle for two years :| I think not. Second time it was stress, third time it was constipation :s even though I had been having regular bowel movements fourth was IBS now they are just throwing **** out there. It is so frustrating. But finally I went to the hospital and they found cysts on my ovaries. So I got a referral (finally after six years) for a Gyno. Hopefully she listens a little better then my last Dr's and does not make me feel crazy.

[jess4412]

That's exatly how I always feel! Everyone always says you're so lucky to discover it young before you find out you are infertile, but, It's so diffuclt dealing with, when everyone else your age is always out and about, and enjoying sex, and dating, and physical activity, and it just frustrates me so much, being 20, and feeling like I have the energy of someone at least twice my age. The idea of care-free is completely out the window; kind of forces you to grow up.

But seriously, I would get checked out for PFD.  That can be treated without surgery, so if that ended up being a large factor of your problem it would be a relief to get that fixed.

[jess4412]

That's exatly how I always feel! Everyone always says you're so lucky to discover it young before you find out you are infertile, but, It's so diffuclt dealing with, when everyone else your age is always out and about, and enjoying sex, and dating, and physical activity, and it just frustrates me so much, being 20, and feeling like I have the energy of someone at least twice my age. The idea of care-free is completely out the window; kind of forces you to grow up.

But seriously, I would get checked out for PFD.  That can be treated without surgery, so if that ended up being a large factor of your problem it would be a relief to get that fixed.

[megonce]

WOW. sounds to me like you have had such a rough run, very unfortunate.
I wish i was a guy sometimes. My sex life is not that painful as what yours sounds like. it is very unfortunate to have this so young when we are meant to be running around having fun and enjoying sex. Thank you for your input u dont get to see a gyno unti 25th may so nearly there. Goodluck on your journey and thanks!!!

[jess4412]

YES. I am in the exact same situation.  I just turned twenty and I have never, ever experienced even just comfortable sex.  It's been three years and I still can't do it, it is so painful.  I also get really uncomfortable and often have pain with exercise, and really extreme cramping as well as bleeding between periods.  I have endo (on my bladder, ureter, and behind my uterus) and as a result have also developed pelvic floor dysfunction.  I had the endo removed in march 2011, but about six months later I started having symptoms again, so before considering another surgery they decided to treat me for my apparent pelvic floor dysfunction (pfd makes sex and exercise painful! just an fyi).  I've been taking valium everyday, an anti inflammatory topical cream and physical therapy once a week, as well as monitoring my tone in my pelvic floor and it all definately helps.  However I still am not finding a true recovery :(  I still can't even handle any penetration, and still get pain flare ups so easily it's really rough.  Definately get yourself checked for this stuff because it is treatable, but it does take time.  I wish I had started all this sooner so I could just be done with it already!  best of luck.