Well, I'm sorry that you were taught different info. then I was taught. We were taught from different Dr.'s.
I just want to clarify:
I was taught that you should never ever put something in a seizing person's mouth! It is dangerous both to the victim and to the responder - it could break and truly cause choking, hurt their teeth, etc.
I was also taught that it is nearly impossible to choke on your own tongue and that the best thing you can do is turn the seizing person on to their left side to attempt to clear the airway (without sticking anything in the mouth) and take pressure off major arteries for the best possible oxygen flow.
For what it's worth, many seizures do not involve convulsions, and the experience you described with your daughter sounds very much like a seizure to me. Good for you for making an appointment!
I have had seizures since I was 11 and I am now 33. What you have described about your daughter does sound like a seizure, very much so.
Many times I have had seizures and bit the side of my tongue and it started bleeding. Lots of times when I was younger I had gran-mal seizures. My eyes did roll back in my head.
At the time that your daughter was choking meant that she was choking on her tongue. The Dr.'s tell me to have someone stick a spoon in my mouth, down on my tongue when I had gran-mal seizures so I wouldn't swallow my tongue and choke on it.
Also, I have had seizures where I didn't shake either. Some of them I have.
I am on three differen't kinds of seizure med's and the Dr. is still trying to get my seizures controlled with the medicine.
Hope this helped.