I am hoping someone can help me a little. I am 35 and married (10yrs w/ 2 kids) and have very recently had an errection problem. I had been "waiting" for sex due to wife's period and when the night came I failed to produce. I had been thinking about it all day, she was dressed specifically very sexy... she knows i am a big heel fetish and lingerie fan, but after a minute of kissing... nothing... totally limp. She was understandably offended as it had been awhile and I was leaving town for a long weekend. When I returned, she did the same thing, and the same thing happened. I am (by nature) very high strung so I spent the week between the two instances in constant panic.
Some background: By most "standards" i would say i have low sex drive (1x a week... maybe 2x), I am not obese, and don't smoke or drink excessively. I do (and have for 1.5 yrs) take Wellbutrin, Liprinosil, and a cholesterol med. I have, with these drugs, been in the normal range for awhile. This kind of thing has happened in the past... and has gone away slowly. I find myself also unable/difficult to give myself an erection and I haven't been waking up with one. Sadly, the morning of the 2nd experience I did have a semi-hard one... which is why I was optimistic for the night.
Not sure if this is too much information as I have never posted to a site for help. Is this normal/common for someone my age? Clearly, this (along with the fact it has happened in the past) has really been a seemingly unsurmountable blow to my wife. Is there anything I can do... does it sound psychological or something else? I, on a previous occassion, got so nervous that I went out and had blood work to test my testesterone level... which was fine.
Any help, suggestions, or direction would be appreciated. I hope you can sense my frustration and anxiety.