5 year old kissing 3 year old's vagina. Is this normal?

[knhst8]

On two known occasions my five year old niece has been sexual with my three year old daughter and I am very concerned. My daughters father and I are no longer together so I cannot supervise these visits (believe me I would). On the second occasion the five year old cousin was caught kissing my less than three year old's vagina and was verbalizing next my daughter should kiss her on her butt.  Upon talking to my daughter she told me the cousin was kissing her butt and pp and she kissed hers too.  In the days that followed I noticed my daughter putting a bathtub crayon inside her vagina while taking a bath and touching her genitals more. I don't like my daughters behavior at all and feel helpless because my daughter's father says he supervises the visits BUT what the cousin did is completely normal behavior for a child (Her doctor said so, he says).  Ok, I accepted the first time (that I actually interrupted) it was normal even though I didn't like it. But that time she was touching my daughters genitals (cousin was 4, daughter was 2).  But to be placing your mouth on my daughter's vagina... is that normal for a five year old?  The second event was about 5 months ago and I haven't noticed any unordinary sexual behaviors for a long time until today.  Yesterday she visited this cousin with her father and this morning my grandmother saw her put a brush bottom at the entrance of her vagina while taking a bath. So answer me this... Is it considered molesting if the person is only five years old?  
I have had extensive talks with my daughter regarding private parts and appropriate touching so I do believe my daughter knows to say no and tell an adult.  As a result I have to believe it isn't still happening.  But is this behavior truly 'normal'?  Do 'normal' five year old's kiss younger children's vaginas.  I need to protect my daughter!

[pmdelgado]

I came across your article by accident and read it carefully, I believe the 5 year old is acting out a learned behavior, you should approach your ex and confront him as what he might think is happening, don't accuse him since he probably does not know what is going on. I understand is normal for a small child to "touch"there and to explore but this situation is way beyond normal. I'm not sure why you continue to allow your child to visit that house, I would have stopped it immediately and have spoken out your concern with all adults involved to try to find out what's going on. Perhaps the 5 year old is been molested by someone outside the immediate family or a bigger child.

[Motherof2468]

This is not normal and the older child should be spoken to in very strong terms to deal with it.  Her parents and your ex need to be involved in the conversation as well.  

The older child is sexual abusing your daughter and if you get no help or positive response from the parents and your ex I would definately approach child services to protect your daughter.  It is your responsibility to protect your baby girl, this will affect her for the rest of her life.

[jimpy9]

well the 1st thought that came to my head is how these children do this r wher they r learning maybe 1 of them has been sexually abused (putting a crayon in the others vagina!)crazy stuff stranges thing iv heard in a long time i would u make the necessary arrangements to make this stop..if u can send me amessage with ur progress im very interested in this.