Difficulty maintaining an erection

Ever since I hit puberty, I been a typically horny guy.I'm 26 now. However, the past 10 days or so my libido has signficantly dropped. I'm just trying to find out the cause. I've been seeing a girl and last night was the first time we had sex and I had difficulty maintaing an erection. The first few times I tried on the condom and my erection went away. With my girl friend's stimulation I was able to finally get it up, but still it was an extremely frustrating and worriesome. I'm very attracted to her but am baffled by my inability to perform. Like I said all week though my lobido was low and before I was with her that night I knew something was wrong because I couldn't self arouse my penis anywhere near an erection. So her presence did illicit a much better result than I could have alone which i suppose is a positive. However, today I'm still have trouble getting and maintaining an erection. Usually, they come all the time even in seemingly innocous moments. I was annoyed by those moments at the time but really I want them back. You don't missing something til it's gone. I just want my normal hard erection back. I'm hypothesizing that my decreased libido could be the result of my starting a new semester in nursing school and my lack of sleep. For the past week, I haven't had a night of 8 hours of sleep and most nights I've been getting 3-5 hours. Despite my lack of sleep. I'm not tired just really wired. My sleep schedule is definitely not existant. Could sleep deprivation be the source?

[gina204]

Yes it can, if your not taking care of your health it can make a great impact on your sex life. Sleep is part of taking care of yourself.

[gina204]

Try getting in 6-8 hours, try for 8 and do this for a couple days, see if their is a change by trying to stimulate yourself and if not then go see a doctor but from what you said, sleep could be the answer. When your body is exhausted so is your lets say, friend? My bf can't get in the mood himself when he is exhausted, its most likely it but if that don't work then try a doctor.

[NOHARD]

Sleep is a thing we all have trouble with sometimes, but we still carry on with life.
A couple of things you could try is erection tea and the 5G's, just Google them and look for pegym, these may just be the thing for you to get back in action, you could also try some cayenne in your diet you can also Google about cayenne for ED lots to read on it, you can also add some cayenne in erection tea to give it that extra perk up.
Good Luck

[zman85]

Thanks for the suggestions. I"ll try to get more sleep but it's difficult with school. Still I think I've been sleep deprived before and have had no difficulty getting an erection. May be it's a comibination of lack of sleep, stress with school, and the stress of being with someone new. I still can't get self aroused fully which makes me doubt that it is a performance anxiety thing in front of my girl friend. It was really driving me crazy for a while but I'm trying not to let overwhelm me some much. I'm seeing a urologist tomorrow. Hopefully he can help me figure out if it's physical or psychological. May be I'll try some of the 5Gs if things don't improve.

[Jman2012]

Well how did it go? Im basically that story .. nursing school and the new gf.. Im freaking out..

[NOHARD]

Remember when you do the 5G's follow what they say, its important to do just one a day the take the 2 days off.
Also remember that sex is about relaxing and enjoying one another, so take it slow, dont foreget to let the little head lead the way, dont let the big head try and take over, thats were all the mistakes come from when it comes to sex.
Good Luck

[zman85]

Thanks again for the responses. No hard I think your spot on when you said let the little head lead the way. The past week I've been trying to think myself into an erection rather than letting it come naturally. It was actually driving me mad. I was racked with worry giving me the worst headache of my life. Finally a couple nights ago I was able to have and maintain an erection and in the next morning I was hard too which is a relief. Therefore, I cancelled my appointment. Plus, I have a high deductable on my insurance and very little money. I haven't seen my girl since Sunday since she and I live far apart and are both busy with school/work. I might see her tonight and definitely tomorrow night. I hope it goes better. The key I know is to not overthink it and let it come naturally. I just have a difficult time with not being so self critical especially since I really like this girl. My previous girlfriend I wasn't as enamored with. So I wasn't worried about it then hence it wasn't a problem.

[zman85]

Well, the night has passed, and my trouble continues. I had impotence issues again, and I know now that it is all in my head related to performance anxiety. Repeatedly, I would get hard and then it would go away by the time I was going in for intercourse. So frustrating! I wanted to punch through the wall. The next morning I was able to finally able to penetrate but of course it didn't last long. It felt great once I was in of course and I was hard but right away I felt like ejaculating so I had to take it slow and even then I didn't last long. Sex I know should be about relaxation and enjoying yourself, but all I can think about is my erection or lack therof. On the bright side, my girl and I are still close. I would be devastated if she left because of my shortcomings, but the fact that she is hanging in there and supportive makes me want to overcome this block even more. It's performance anxiety I know. I'm thinking I should see a sex therapist. Any other suggestions? Thanks.