hi dear,wow,life ***** for those with strong sex drives,n deprived.as a 57 yr successfull man,who has had more sex in the past with to many partners.somehow i got lucky at 43 nfound my honie 26,an irishman n dominican.wow.well at 49 surgeries on hands hip shoulder,set me back, but even up to 55 oral n intercourse put us both in another world.well i got hooked on opiods my testosterone was 67n now i get shots .i feel hate when i *** in 2 to 3 seconds.i feel guilty,as shes very understanding n masturbates but i recognize on her bad days,,the neck kills her.allergies n all little things,i realize,if only i could connect intercourse,she wood be less in pain,as orgasns send her to the moon.so dear im going to an outpatient detox june 1 .my urologist wants to insert pellets that last 4 months.but i feel,no guaranty, n u are hearing a man who at 51 at 6 pm n people fishing20 feet from us,we d do each other.i feel u pain n sometimes in life,,its time out or games `o```````ver``,`as```````````````````````````````````````````````````````````my endocronologist says,50 yrs ago,life exectancy was 50,so be greatfull. no way,im depressed n guilty n we fight like we never ever did,n guess what. im sincerely sorry n feel incomplete,but havent given up.even cialistakes me time.the hole thing ***** n ps what a lucky man having his horny wife always available,as many woman close shop,yrs earlier.keep the faith.tom nyc,***@****
Will your wife go to therapy with you? Or maybe she should go alone. Maybe if she had someone to talk to openly about the frustrations that she feels, they perhaps can enlighten her that she is not to blame. And that it is strictly a medical issue that you didn't ask for.
Good luck to you. I hope that you find answers to why you no longer orgasm. Maybe when your wife starts showing some understanding you can relax and......who knows.....since you can get aroused now, the orgasms will probably come back, too.
I wish you well.
I'm a male with a different issue from yours, but we do share similar frustrations. As for me, I don't have a wife that wants me. I had multiple surgeries and now I have lost the ability to orgasm. I had the prostate removed four years ago and both testicles removed due to injury that cause the testicle to lose blood supply and it was not working and only causing pain. I'm only in my early 40s and I don't have any sex. It's been 9 years and after I had these surgeries, I lost the ability to orgasm. I can have erections (I'm on testosterone replacements) and I can stay hard for a long time. The trouble is my inability to orgasm. My wife has taken this personally and feels that it's her fault. I assured her that it was not, but she has lost interest in any sex. Now that I have my hormone levels back to normal, I feel and desire sex, but I just end up sleeping lone. I stopped masturbating because it only makes things worse when I don't feel any relief.
I can relate to your frustration. I did seek help from a sex therapist. After all these years, I started to feel like I was nothing. I did see a sex surrogate with the help of my psychiatrist. I learned how to find other pleasures, but I still wish I had someone that wanted me.
My advice to you is seek help. At least you have the ability to have pleasure. I'm hoping that you will be able to work things out with your husband. You deserve to have a healthy sex life. Take care, Chris