Hi.
I can't believe you live in San Francisco (my home town), and yet you've bought into some myths in a magazine. It's NOT true that self-pleasuring leads to high risk of prostate cancer. In fact, almost everything you read in any popular magazine is junk.
You're 16, and your hormones are raging. Sex is your JOB. That's what your body is telling you. Accept it, and it will serve you well. Here's some accurate information for you.
Let’s talk about what we DO know about self-pleasuring.
It’s the surest way to orgasm and the most effective way to learn about our sexual response cycle, as well as the surest way men to learn orgasmic control. If you feel you come too quickly, the surest way to slow down is to teach yourself a new pattern via self-pleasuring.
Another advantage is self-knowledge: How can you show a partner what you like if you don’t know yourself?
And the #1 reason for self-pleasuring: it’s fun!
Self-pleasuring is a part of who you are sexually—for your whole life, not just when you don’t have a partner. People self-pleasure from birth to death, when they’re alone and when they’re partnered. It’s just one of many options we have as sexual beings. It’s not better or worse than partner sex, just different—like steak is different than chicken.
Remember that all our scientific data show that the people who take responsibility for their OWN pleasure have the best sex lives and rate themselves as happiest about their sexuality. So please stop torturing yourself, accept your sexuality as a gift and start enjoying life. Oh, and since you and your girlfriend are being sexual, be sure to use effective risk reduction. Remember: with great sex comes great responsibility. Dr. J
OK. Don't accept it--and be miserable.
OR, here's another idea: Go to www.scarleteen.com, learn all the facts about self-pleasuring, and get on with your life. Dr. J
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I read eating a vegetarian diet reduces your need for sex/masturbation, you should read up on that.
And then try to get the willpower and self discipline to control your mind instead of leting it control you. It's damn hard and lots of people fail so don't get upset if you don't make it at first,but keep trying and it'll make you stronger.
Thanks for helping though. I really appreciate you for doing so Dr. J. It is much easier to talk about this subject with an expert online than in person.
Thanks for clearing somethings up Dr. J. But I still can't really accept the fact that masturbating 6 times a day daily as being quite normal. =\