How long does preformance anxiety last?

[Lester_2]

I have been dating a guy for 10 months now and he continues to not get an erection or losses it from more often then not. We have had about 20 times that have been sucessful but he continues to lose his erection or can't get one at
all. Normally he can't get an erection unless we are in bed for the night or still in bed in the morning. Then he loses it often. He says it preformance anxiety but after 10 months together and sucessful times I don't believe it is fear. Any ideas? How long has preformance anxiety lasted for you? Did it go away after having sucessful intercourse with the same person?

[Lester_2]

It is important that you open and honestly communicate. At first I felt like he wasn’t that attracted to me or I was doing something wrong, he has insured to me that is not the case. Now I wonder if there is a larger underlying issue but he says there isn’t. It makes he feel rejected and confused which makes it hard for me to initiate or pursue him in that way. Physical connection is important for a relationship to thrive in my opinion and it has caused a big strain on our relationship. We are even thinking about couple therapy. A question for you- Does it work for you and sometimes doesn’t or is it a constant struggle? That’s what leaves me most confused about saying it’s performance anxiety because he “performs” good for a little while (about a week) and then doesn’t again for a while(about 2 weeks). That makes it hard for me to get into the whole experience because I don’t know what’s going to happen. He hasn’t been able to pin point why it works sometimes and doesn’t other times.

[wallstreet714]

I am a guy and have this similar issue. I dont know what to do or what to think. I have been with my girl for about 1yr and a half. I just want to know how you feel about this. Does it cause issues in your relationship? I feel a major strain the past few weeks with her and just would like a womens take on this issues. Please , i would appreciate it .