I am 18 and suffer from performance anxiety, i cant maintain an erection when im with my girlfriend. We've tried many times it just doesnt work cause im nervious. is there any cure or way to maintain an erection for sure? would a penile pump work?
I have the same problem (19, very little sexual experience because of this, and a fear of approaching women for intimate relations because of this), and I would very much like to hear a practical solution.
I spoke to a doctor about it, and he prescribed me Cialis and told me that the nervousness would probably go away once I had a "history" of successful penetrative sex behind me. Basically, once you get used to the fact that you can have sex (pills or not), the fear of it not working goes away. That's the theory, at least, but my last relationship broke up before I could try the pills, so I can't confirm it. The problem with this, though, is that you need to know you're going to have sex within a 36-hour time frame of popping the pill, and it's difficult to know this without talking to your partner about it, which is difficult to do unless you are already having sex. But in your case, since you're in a relationship already, this might be a practicable solution.
Cialis is very effective but before you try any treatment, I suggest you take these simple steps:
a) Do some research and try to learn as much as you can about sexual performance anxiety. Read books, talk to experts, search the Internet. The more you know about these problems, the less stressful they will be.
b) Anxiety is a major cause of erectile failure, so try to find ways to control your nerves. A warm shower or a nap before sex can do wonders for your performance.
c) A good partner is essential. Your girlfriend has to be patient and supportive.
d) If the situation persists for more than three months, go see a urologist. It's no shame to seek professional help. Even if this is 'just in the head', a urologist can help you and prescribe you an effective treatment.
e) Cialis is not the only solution available. There are other PDE-5 inhibitors available (Viagra, Levitra) and a new ED drug called VIGAMED (oral phentolamine). VIGAMED is not available in the US but it is a licensed ED treatment in South America and you can order it online. Again, consult your doctor before you decide to try any treatment.
I have a little different approach. Stop looking a porn. Young guys often watch those naughty flix and are a bit intimidated that they're not gonna live up to that. Addictive use of porn has also been linked to young males not being able to perform in the real situation. If you are a heavy user the comedown time can be up to six months with zero exposure to porn. As cheesy as it sounds it really helps to get to know a girl really well, and then let her know about your problem, and ask her for help.
That can sometimes be a real bonding process, and having a trusted person help solve the issue rather than just hoping to impress someone can really take the anxiety out of everything.
If none of tht works then go back to the pills.
Look at your age the last thing you need is drugs, focus on your girl friend first at just how sexy she is, and her naked body and just let nature take its course, put any s**t to the back of your mind and jusy enjoy yourself.
And if that does't work try edging, just Google pegym and look for it on there and just how to do it.
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