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Scared to Death - 25 and Erectile Problem
My entire life I was the horniest kid in the world, checking out any hot girl that walked past me, fantasizing about any hot possible woman. Then something happened. I lost my virginity. It took a while, until I was 25 to be exact, but after then, some strange things started to happen. After only a few weeks, I noticed my usually EXTREMELY HIGH LIBIDO take a nosedive for the first time in my life. This was in mid December 2009. The experience basically freaked me out but at the same time I almost considered it completely normal based on the fact that what I wanted for so long I finally got, and there was no longer a need for me to be an extreme horn dog. But it gets worse....
In the beginning of January I broke up with the girl I was having sex with in December and went on my own way. Then, in mid january something very strange began happening. I was now not only losing my libido, but also my rock hard erections. Spontaneous erections during the day and frequent ejaculation began to seem like a rarity, and I am now beginning to lose my mind. It didnt REALLY hit me until a few days ago when I realized that it just doesnt feel the same anymore "down there". Even when thinking of normally hot things that would turn me on, I find myself going limp after a second of not trying to maintain it. This is truly scary stuff and have absolutely no answer for it. I remember a phase once or twice years ago of me not masterbating for a bit, but for whatever reason, this time things feel different, mostly b/c of the complete lack of libido.
I am trying to tell myself that this will all "pass", but its already been over a week now and i feel like my **** has literally just about died. My libido has dropped a whole lot as mentioned and i just have NO answers. I need help. Serious help.I love women and have my entire life, and the thought of possibly having a problem at 25 makes me want to vomit. Is ED genetic? Anyone please help me
In the beginning of January I broke up with the girl I was having sex with in December and went on my own way. Then, in mid january something very strange began happening. I was now not only losing my libido, but also my rock hard erections. Spontaneous erections during the day and frequent ejaculation began to seem like a rarity, and I am now beginning to lose my mind. It didnt REALLY hit me until a few days ago when I realized that it just doesnt feel the same anymore "down there". Even when thinking of normally hot things that would turn me on, I find myself going limp after a second of not trying to maintain it. This is truly scary stuff and have absolutely no answer for it. I remember a phase once or twice years ago of me not masterbating for a bit, but for whatever reason, this time things feel different, mostly b/c of the complete lack of libido.
I am trying to tell myself that this will all "pass", but its already been over a week now and i feel like my **** has literally just about died. My libido has dropped a whole lot as mentioned and i just have NO answers. I need help. Serious help.I love women and have my entire life, and the thought of possibly having a problem at 25 makes me want to vomit. Is ED genetic? Anyone please help me
Hi, Im a man, and recently i have been getting hard but then just becomes soft, and it is really stressing me out, cos i do find my partner very attractive, and its only been a week since we last had sex and now all of a sudden nothing. Im 24 and tbh kinda worried, cos my partner thinks its cos i dont think shes attractive anymore, which couldn't be further from the truth, and i need to know what i can do to sort this thing. cos i really think this could ruine things with us , i have been very sexualy active with her and now this. please help.
hi ive been reading this discussion and i am too in the same boat as you i was he hornyest kid ever even from a young age all i could think about was sex and i lost my virginity when i was fifteen and it was all i had dreamed of and more and as time went on i was more adventurous and then during the last few months its just started to go down hill and im seeing this girl and she is steaming but its just not happining its like theres nothing there at all and im going out of my mind here like i was in a relationship with this girl and i thaught she was the one and we broke upp and ever scince then its just gone and i thaught it might be her but it happened when i was out with her one night and i went back to hers and beleve me it used to be like if a girl even looked at me the right way or i thaught of sex i would be up like a shot now days its just nutin at all none of the feelins or de eruptions of joy inside and its not nice i can never stop thinking about sex its all i think about and im dyin without it i just want to be the way the way i was a horny mo fo because i loved it and so did the women from what i have been told but its just not there anymore HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Im only 18 please help me
Dear Friend
I have been through the same trauma and that too in your age. Until I stopped thinking and started treating it. I will tell you somethings you have to do if you want to recover from ED. Here it is. Please strictly follow it
Two miles a day jogging
Honey three times a day before every meal in luke warm water
Three dates which is an arabian fruit every night before sleep
Amidren supplement of GNC company for two months
Stop all sorts of unnatural sex arousal if you are practicing it
Follow the above strictly and you will be completely cured in all respects. I call you my brother thats why I am helping you.
best regards
Imran from Pakistan
I have been through the same trauma and that too in your age. Until I stopped thinking and started treating it. I will tell you somethings you have to do if you want to recover from ED. Here it is. Please strictly follow it
Two miles a day jogging
Honey three times a day before every meal in luke warm water
Three dates which is an arabian fruit every night before sleep
Amidren supplement of GNC company for two months
Stop all sorts of unnatural sex arousal if you are practicing it
Follow the above strictly and you will be completely cured in all respects. I call you my brother thats why I am helping you.
best regards
Imran from Pakistan
It sounds to me that alot of ur problem is your thinking about this way to much. The mind can cause impotenece. Just relax and go see a doc.
"I have so many other problems in my life too" . I think that's your main problem - state of mind. If you are distracted by too many other issues, sex will suffer. You have two choices: wait till some of those other problems resolve themselves *or* , decide that even in spite of bad luck or whatever, you aren't going to let them dominate (really 'destroy') your life. I had my car impounded last week, and I knew it was going to cost big $$$ to get it out. Did I let the cop, and the towyard, and the DMV ruin my date? Not a chance! Why let them win? So unless your problem is physical (hope not), your sex problem is in your head ... and each failure or scary episode is re-inforcing the problem, making it more entrenched.
One other thing I completely forgot to mention, and i dont know why..
When I DID lose my virginity in the beginning of December (we had sex a few times) she TOO was a virgin and was absolutely HORRIBLE at sex. At first it felt great and i was happy, but after getting more comfortable and trying a few new things, it just wasnt happening. She even admitted to it saying how she knows she needs help and that shes "never watched porn" in her life. YIKES!!
I remember just sitting on the bed during what i think was our 3rd time, screaming on the inside, trying to think of things that could have made it better. She is also not a very sexual person at all, in her look, and in her personality.
NOW...... IS it possible that this "bad" experience tramatized me and made me think that sex, something i've been building up in my head for years and years to be the most amazing thing of all time, is actually nothing special at all? Perhaps I just need to find a different partner, someone who knows what they are doing to bring my mind back at ease?
FINALLY....... ONE other theory I have thought about. I bought a laptop back in August of 2009 and used it on my LAP for every single day until this started happening because guess what!? I found out that the heat released from the laptop can mess you up down there as far as sperm quality and things go! Look it up on the internet... all sorts of articles on how Laptop use on your lap can cause male infertility!!!!!
When I DID lose my virginity in the beginning of December (we had sex a few times) she TOO was a virgin and was absolutely HORRIBLE at sex. At first it felt great and i was happy, but after getting more comfortable and trying a few new things, it just wasnt happening. She even admitted to it saying how she knows she needs help and that shes "never watched porn" in her life. YIKES!!
I remember just sitting on the bed during what i think was our 3rd time, screaming on the inside, trying to think of things that could have made it better. She is also not a very sexual person at all, in her look, and in her personality.
NOW...... IS it possible that this "bad" experience tramatized me and made me think that sex, something i've been building up in my head for years and years to be the most amazing thing of all time, is actually nothing special at all? Perhaps I just need to find a different partner, someone who knows what they are doing to bring my mind back at ease?
FINALLY....... ONE other theory I have thought about. I bought a laptop back in August of 2009 and used it on my LAP for every single day until this started happening because guess what!? I found out that the heat released from the laptop can mess you up down there as far as sperm quality and things go! Look it up on the internet... all sorts of articles on how Laptop use on your lap can cause male infertility!!!!!
This is just some messed up stuff. Believe me when I tell you that I was THE HORNIEST KID in the universe. You wanna talk about being open to having sex with just about any girl as long as she was remotely good looking, that was ME! Any hot girl would turn my head and sexual fantasies were routine. How in gods name did this happen to me? I have so many other problems in my life too that I honestly wont be able to deal with this insanity any longer.
I too hope this is just some sort of temporary breakdown of my hormones but my god, who knows. This is a very weird thing and I suppose getting my hormones checked would tell me if this is all in my head or not.
I CAN tell you that yes, I can get an erection still, but certainly not as easy as I once did. I used to be able to get erections at will just by thinking of a few things that turned me on, but now it seems like a process. Also, as mentioned in my first post, its the maintaining of the hard on that is the scariest thing.
Nothing is perhaps more scary however than the fact that I have been seeing this beautiful girl lately and she is everything I have ever wanted as far as looks and personality go. We havent gotten to the point where anything sexual has happened but the fear in me about possibly having an "issue" when that time comes scares me to death. To even THINK that this is REALLY a possibility is absolutely insane!!! I CANNOT believe this happened to me and I dont know what to do.
I too hope this is just some sort of temporary breakdown of my hormones but my god, who knows. This is a very weird thing and I suppose getting my hormones checked would tell me if this is all in my head or not.
I CAN tell you that yes, I can get an erection still, but certainly not as easy as I once did. I used to be able to get erections at will just by thinking of a few things that turned me on, but now it seems like a process. Also, as mentioned in my first post, its the maintaining of the hard on that is the scariest thing.
Nothing is perhaps more scary however than the fact that I have been seeing this beautiful girl lately and she is everything I have ever wanted as far as looks and personality go. We havent gotten to the point where anything sexual has happened but the fear in me about possibly having an "issue" when that time comes scares me to death. To even THINK that this is REALLY a possibility is absolutely insane!!! I CANNOT believe this happened to me and I dont know what to do.
You're not alone. I've been reading about this for a while, and there are plenty others. I find it strange that this happens to people in their teens & twenties. Seems like for no reason, too.
In my recent past, I could have had sex with any woman that passed before me. All I needed was a quick check-out, thoughts about sex, and I was ready to go. It was great! It doesn't work that way anymore. This has been the most worrisome thing that has ever happened to me.
Here's what I think happened with me: I dated a girl for about 5 years, and enjoyed lots of sex with her. When she dumped me, I got very depressed, and never felt the same about sex since then. In fact, my libido plummeted, and has been very low for the last 6 months. I was not able to get an erection with 3 different girls during that time, and that is the worst possible feeling . Made me even more depressed, but I've never had any straight answers about why. I hope it's just depression, and that I will return to my old, normal self once my hormones stabilize.
There have been other factors which I fear may have caused me physical damage. Such as lower back injuries from weight lifting, riding motorcycles too much, and hazardous material exposure at work. The thing is, I can still get erections if I'm by myself. It requires great concentration though.
I feel like it's going to be a long, patient process of ruling out physical causes, and letting my emotions heal and return to normal. That is my only hope at this point. Pills will be my very last ditch effort because I am afraid of dependency.
I don't want to be one of those people who so faithfully tell you to go straight to the doctor, but that might be how to convince yourself that you are physically fine. If it still works, then it might just take time to find your way out of the woods.
In my recent past, I could have had sex with any woman that passed before me. All I needed was a quick check-out, thoughts about sex, and I was ready to go. It was great! It doesn't work that way anymore. This has been the most worrisome thing that has ever happened to me.
Here's what I think happened with me: I dated a girl for about 5 years, and enjoyed lots of sex with her. When she dumped me, I got very depressed, and never felt the same about sex since then. In fact, my libido plummeted, and has been very low for the last 6 months. I was not able to get an erection with 3 different girls during that time, and that is the worst possible feeling . Made me even more depressed, but I've never had any straight answers about why. I hope it's just depression, and that I will return to my old, normal self once my hormones stabilize.
There have been other factors which I fear may have caused me physical damage. Such as lower back injuries from weight lifting, riding motorcycles too much, and hazardous material exposure at work. The thing is, I can still get erections if I'm by myself. It requires great concentration though.
I feel like it's going to be a long, patient process of ruling out physical causes, and letting my emotions heal and return to normal. That is my only hope at this point. Pills will be my very last ditch effort because I am afraid of dependency.
I don't want to be one of those people who so faithfully tell you to go straight to the doctor, but that might be how to convince yourself that you are physically fine. If it still works, then it might just take time to find your way out of the woods.
well let me ask you... do you have ANY clue what might have caused this for you on this one day where it was gone?
are you on any medications? did you have some sort of emotional trauma? anything at all that might be an explanation?
I just feel that it HAS to do somethign with me finally losing my virginity, because for years i built it up to be the most important thing in the world. Now that it happened, maybe my mind feels there isnt all that much to be super horny for anymore. I hope that in time it will gradually come back a bit, but as of right now this is a very strange time for me, and its a time i'm very nervous about.
are you on any medications? did you have some sort of emotional trauma? anything at all that might be an explanation?
I just feel that it HAS to do somethign with me finally losing my virginity, because for years i built it up to be the most important thing in the world. Now that it happened, maybe my mind feels there isnt all that much to be super horny for anymore. I hope that in time it will gradually come back a bit, but as of right now this is a very strange time for me, and its a time i'm very nervous about.
I wish I could help, I'm also sad no one has responded. I'm in the same boat you were. I was horny, then literally lost it in one day. Only I am 17 and have never had sex.
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