When will I be ENOUGH for my husband?

I'm been with my husband for 8yrs, married for almost 2 and I am still figuring out why he needs porn. Just as an example for this valentines' day I bought an outfit, had practiced a strip tease dance for at least a month to do for him. I know I'm not as good as the strippers but I guess that doesn't bother me, it's what I consider personal and I put forth the effort.  I think we have sex a lot and i'm not sure why he needs to look at porn every free moment I'm not at home.
I do think it's affected his ability to keep an erection. I am also aware that he's now in his 30's(always hear that the sex drives slows down for men), he's gained some weight(wish i love!!), his job isn't as physical as the one he had prior to this one. The most important thing is that I've lost some weight, feel much better and I'm more active than I was before.
I really can not see why men can't grasp the fact why women can not deal with their man looking at porn. I mean, some do, but i'm only talking about the ones that don't. I am sure you've all heard that we feel like we are not pretty or sexy enough for you. It IS true. That is how it can and does make us feel. We need to know that we are your fantasy!

I despise porn. I think it's a very nasty and disgusting thing women and men do. I also don't understand men when say that a women who has cheated or had several sex partners are ******'. Ummm do you not understand that porn stars are ****** too????? Worse, anyone can view them.
I don't care how different they say men and women are because I think that as humans we can choose to be faithful and honest. I think that women know men like to have sex. So I'm not sure why some relationships are sexless... i think that may not be always fair to the male. Same sorta with men. Men know women like to be swept off their feet. We are pretty simple I think. I mean, the time it took you to load, watch, and masturbate you could have written your women a little love note, took out the trash, walked the dog, something! Things that make us happy are even free!!! Romance is SO easy and it can make expressing love to you much easier from a women. I do also know that some women are materialistic and are harder to please... but we all have flaws.

It comes down to "Men Why don't you RESPECT us if you say you love us to quit, I mean it's real vs. fictional??? I am aware that some women and men can do this jointly or the women doesn't mind, so if that is the case, then be very very happy men. You get your cake and get to eat it too!

Please, men and women, let me know what you think??
MEN, it does effect how you perform in bed. You become so used to your own hand that we are not gonna compare. Think about which feels better your hand or a women?????

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It's understandable that you are frustrated. I teach anatomy and physiology, and I like to see this through an evolutionary perspective.

It's real simple: We are hunter-gatherer brains living in a modern world. We are in no way prepeared for the overstimulation of Interent porn, and how it can alter our brains. His brain has changed.

I suggest understanding this problem by watching and reading, and maybe getting your husband to look at the material on our site. We run a non-commercial, non-religious education site.

Here's a 6-part series on porn addiction. It's unlike anything else out there. When completed, you will really understand the problem
Your Brain on Porn - Porn Addiction:
http://yourbrainonporn.com/your-brain-on-porn-series

This link leads you to several articles on porn addiction and recovery.
http://yourbrainonporn.com/understanding_porn_addiction

There are many othewr tolls and info there,
good luck