is it ed or bull sh it?

My guy.....can't finish sex with me the old fashioned way....but can say up and finish with oral sex....is it ed or bull???  cause i'm starting to get angry now....i need a answer from someone since he won't give it to me....please help

[halstead124]

  wow ok personaly i have never heard of that but i could be wrong but i cant say that i would bet on it with being a man myself thats something i have ever heard of it seems more of a preffrence but like i said i could be wrong  unless he is one out of alot that suffers from a rare sexual problem that i havent heard of hope that helps

[jr_inmex]

that he can't finish during sex  - what does that have to do with "won't give it to me" ? Is he avoiding sex altogether?  If he can have sex for 5-10 minutes (but without finishing), but makes an effort to please you, then you should be okay with that.  But if he's not making that effort, and wants to focus mostly on oral for himself, then he's being very selfish.  I do know a guy who almost totally prefers **'s and handjobs, he admits he just doesn't like sex very much (because he has a much easier time finishing those ways - and he's now 'stuck in his ways' so to speak).  For your boyfriend, maybe try other positions or add something to the equation (mirrors) to get him more excited.  

[RangersWife]

No he isn't avoiding sex all together...he starts it...just most time can't finish with out the oral.  He does make effort to please me....but this is the same man who has asked me to have a baby with him.  I've had cancer twice kindey and cervical...for now i'm in remission but the cervical cancer can come back anytime and if it does I would need a historectomy and that option will be gone.  We know if we want a baby it probably needs to happen sooner then later...thats one reason im so frustrated with this.  I am the only girl who has started and finished oral sex on him...he likes it....thats great...i don't mind that...I was victim of rape at 15...at one point during this the guy tried to *** in my mouth i moved my head...well i had a problem with giving oral for a long time...I don't mind doing it, but its not my favorite thing to do even still. It seem thats all he wants or expects it on demand.  I just don't understand...if its true ed..fine, go to the dr and well try to work though it...but it kinda feels sketch cause he can finish in my mouth...i'm just frustrated with it...then i'm wondering whats wrong with me that we can't do it the normal way??  We cant have a baby at this rate..i just don't know.

[jr_inmex]

that fills in a lot of details.  Very sorry to hear about your horrible experience, I hope the guy was seriously punished, legally or otherwise.  Knowing that, your BF should be even *more* sympathetic about the oral thing - but as you are learning, guys like what they like.  As far as the baby situation - he hasn't possibly changed his mind has he?  If he appreciates sarcasm (lots of people dont), you might point out that babies come out of a vagina, not a mouth.   I'm still a bit unclear on what goes on - when talking about his oral preference you say "seem thats all he wants or expects".  Is he really making a sexual (intercourse) effort or not?  My semi-buddy seems to be very similar - a half-hearted attempt at sex for a few minutes, followed by an expectation of 15 minutes of oral - and no oral for the gal.  It allows him to say he tried, but just barely.