There, there. You need to calm down and realize that your relationship isn't threatened by Cowper's gland secretions. This is a physiological response, and it can happen at any time and is not under voluntary control. How can this possibly "hurt" your relationship?
However, if the two of you would like reassurance about this, I'd suggest your fiance see his urologist for a thorough exam and also ask about this issue. Perhaps confirmation from his doctor will reassure you both. Dr. J
Thank you for your answer it was very helpful. My fiance has been treated for an enlarged prostate and to his physiological condition that does prevent blood flow to the penis. He can not keep an erection for very long even with medication, yet he has this fluid that he releases when we are not being intimate. I am just so confused. This is hurting our relationship. Again..Thank you
When men become sexually aroused, a gland called the Cowper’s Gland, secretes a milky fluid, also known as "pre-ejaculation." Some men produce large amounts of this fluid, while others produce very little. Everyone is different. This fluid clears the urethra of uric acid prior to orgasm. Without this fluid, many of the sperm carried in semen would be killed or damaged by the acid contained in urine. So when men get turned on, that’s what happens:
You mention "ED," which is a term that is meaningless, because people use it to refer to anything from "I had six beers and a fight with my wife and couldn't get it up" to someone who has a physiological condition which prevents blood flow to the penis and requires medical intervention.
However, so many people see those drug commercials which refer to "ED," that now many folks think there's actually some sort of disease. Not true. Erection concerns run the gamut from those which happen once and are totally psychological to those as serious as the one to which I referred above. An awareness of these issues can help lessen the stigma attached to this term. Dr. J