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Erection Concerns (Expert Forum)
erection problems
Answered by
Janice M Epp, PhD - Female sexual issues, Adolescent sexuality, Male sexual issues
Private Practice
Palo Alto - CA
Questions in the Erection Concerns Forum are being answered by Janice M Epp, PhD, a Clinical Sexologist from The Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. This forum is for questions and discussions about the psychological aspects of Erection problems
erection problems
by nick240477, Sep 29, 2009 12:25AM
Hi doctor. i am a student and my age is 25. I have a habbit of masterbating (masturbating).On an average I must be doing it once a day or less. I am getting erection problems. i couldnt do sex when my partner wanted to do it. i have been in to this condition many times. I have got embarassed with it a lot. I do get erections but it is not enough to penetrate or even wear a condom and it goes away in seconds.
If i dont masterbate for 6-7 days i do get erections properly but even if i do it for once than it is like that again till i dont do anything for 6 days. i mean is it like week or i have a medical condition?
Also i get erections in mornings but that is again if i dont do any masterbation (masturbation) for 3-4 days otherwise i dont get any morning erections.
I have no sex life since 3 years but before that i had a good sex life. I dont know if having no sex life can be a problem?
i will really appreciate your help..thank you so much for your time.i will wait for your reply
If i dont masterbate for 6-7 days i do get erections properly but even if i do it for once than it is like that again till i dont do anything for 6 days. i mean is it like week or i have a medical condition?
Also i get erections in mornings but that is again if i dont do any masterbation (masturbation) for 3-4 days otherwise i dont get any morning erections.
I have no sex life since 3 years but before that i had a good sex life. I dont know if having no sex life can be a problem?
i will really appreciate your help..thank you so much for your time.i will wait for your reply
Doctor's Answer
by Janice M Epp, PhD, Sep 30, 2009 05:09PM
, Sep 30, 2009 05:09PMTo: nick240477
Hi Nick.
It also sounds as though you believe that self-pleasuring is somehow harmful or can be done “too much” or that you've become desensitized. The truth is that everyone has different needs and different sexual interests. Some people self-pleasure five times a day, some never, some 5 times a week, some once a month, some 10 times a day, etc. You get the picture, right? Whatever works for you is what works for you.
However, building up erotic tension can be fun. If you are anticipating being sexual with someone, try not having an orgasm for a day or two and see what happens. Perhaps a little erotic tension might just be the spark you need. Or just play with building up erotic tension before self-pleasuring and see what happens.
Welcome to your 20’s! When you're younger and just beginning to be sexual with others, erections pop up everywhere--including when you don't want them! Post-pubescent men are highly excitable. After all, sex with a partner is new, and anything new is terribly exciting. As you age, you'll find that erections sometimes take longer, and even come and go. This is not an indication if ill health, but just part of life.
Since you experience erections during self-pleasuring, it’s probable that there’s no medical or physiological condition interfering—it’s all in your head. However, to be sure you have no underlying physiological cause, you might want to see a urologist for some tests--especially your testosterone levels. Sometimes low testosterone can interfere with erections, as can depression. If you're feeling low-energy, loss of interest in activities, etc., it's possible that you're depressed. If this is true for you, see a therapist for a diagnosis.
Worrying about erections is a dead-end street. All it will do is make you anxious, which will make your penis very uncooperative. And remember you don't need an erection to be sexual, have fun, experience pleasure, etc. Relax, enjoy your own unique sexuality and stop judging yourself.
For more information about male sexual issues, I recommend “The New Male Sexuality,” by Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D., widely available online, both used and in paperback. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
It also sounds as though you believe that self-pleasuring is somehow harmful or can be done “too much” or that you've become desensitized. The truth is that everyone has different needs and different sexual interests. Some people self-pleasure five times a day, some never, some 5 times a week, some once a month, some 10 times a day, etc. You get the picture, right? Whatever works for you is what works for you.
However, building up erotic tension can be fun. If you are anticipating being sexual with someone, try not having an orgasm for a day or two and see what happens. Perhaps a little erotic tension might just be the spark you need. Or just play with building up erotic tension before self-pleasuring and see what happens.
Welcome to your 20’s! When you're younger and just beginning to be sexual with others, erections pop up everywhere--including when you don't want them! Post-pubescent men are highly excitable. After all, sex with a partner is new, and anything new is terribly exciting. As you age, you'll find that erections sometimes take longer, and even come and go. This is not an indication if ill health, but just part of life.
Since you experience erections during self-pleasuring, it’s probable that there’s no medical or physiological condition interfering—it’s all in your head. However, to be sure you have no underlying physiological cause, you might want to see a urologist for some tests--especially your testosterone levels. Sometimes low testosterone can interfere with erections, as can depression. If you're feeling low-energy, loss of interest in activities, etc., it's possible that you're depressed. If this is true for you, see a therapist for a diagnosis.
Worrying about erections is a dead-end street. All it will do is make you anxious, which will make your penis very uncooperative. And remember you don't need an erection to be sexual, have fun, experience pleasure, etc. Relax, enjoy your own unique sexuality and stop judging yourself.
For more information about male sexual issues, I recommend “The New Male Sexuality,” by Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D., widely available online, both used and in paperback. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
i have taken appointment with urologist to check testosterone levels and i have also purchased the book..thank you once again your reply was really helpful.have a nice day