sounds like possible blepharitis. in fact to me it sounds like staphylococcal bleparitis, which would need medical intervention and Rx-only medications, both topical and oral depending on severity.
there is no "lotion" that i would consider
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vasoline wont hurt you any, but probably wont help, either.
you could try lid scrubs:
http://www.agingeye.net/otheragingeye/blepharitis.php
but if the
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