Chalazion 4 year old getting bigger and red

Hi,
I have a four year old daughter with what I think is a Chalazion.
It was a small and almost unnoticable lump in her upper eyelid but it seems to have moved down towards her eyelashes. Now the area in the eyelashes are slightly red and she seems to have more eye boogers / rheum on the bottom eyelashes where it comes into contact with the redness.
We first noticed her small lump about three weeks ago and decided to just leave it be and see what happens.
Now it's kinda reddish and like I said, it seems to have moved down a bit.

I took her to an ophthalmologist and this woman immediately wanted to perform surgery... She literally had a nurse hold my screaming daughter in a headlock and was going to stick her with anesthesia and perform this procedure. Now I was not into this so I took her out and said forget it.

I've been doing some reading and they say this isn't really necessary. I don't trust this ophthalmologist because everytime me and my mother go to get a simple check up, she never fails to squeeze the crap out of our eyes saying that there's fatty deposits on the eyelids... and her actions with my daughter was just unacceptable.

I'm in Korea and my experience with Korean doctors is that they always take it to the extreme and perform procedures that aren't 100 percent necessary.

I'm going to see another ophthalmologist tomorrow but I'm hoping this will go away on its own.

Any advice?

[Ray T Oyakawa, MD]

Initial treatment in most cases is with warm compress four to five times per day.  If this does not work, consider
surgery.

Dr. O.

[djyoung214]

Thanks Dr. O, I should get that started.
First I'm going to another place tomorrow to make sure it's a chalazion and then begin with the warm compress.
Could the fact that the swelling moved down towards the surface of the eyelashes and the slight redness mean it's ready to pop or clear?
It's really different then how it was before.
Do the extra rheum at the surface signal some kind of release?

Young Kim