Need some advice Ladies!!

So, one of my best friends got engaged on christmas...which we knew was going to happen soon, but we thought it was going to happen in february when they were planning their vacation together. (Hes in the Marines based in California, we live in NY). Well, she calls me today and tells me that her wedding is going to be February 21, 2009 and that she wants me to be her matron of honor!!! I gladly accepted.....and am now realizing that I am due February 12th...how do I work this? Is it manageable? THe dress would be the hardest part not knowing if I will go overdue that long or if I will have her early....but do you think it is too much to take on right now? Im second guessing myself right now and am not sure what I want to do. We have been friends for so long....and our other friends kind of drifted apart from us but we managed to keep very close throughout the years. We have been throuh a lot together and she was so excited that I accepted on being her matron of honor! I have never been a matron of honor before and I know it entails alot. My main concern is if I do have her before than.....am I going to want to leave my baby girl yet......even if it is for just the day....I dont know...

what does everyone think??? I would greatly appreciate responses....do you think I will be up to doing it?
I want to figure this out now so I dont have to tell her in a couple weeks that I have changed my mind.
I am also posting this in the Pregnancy 18-34 forum to get their responses as well!

[Lance06]

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[emmiemac]

shes obviously a close friend of yours and should totaly understand your position, i would still take the oportunty and just leave it with her on the understanding that obviously your baby comes first and if you have her in between this time then are you able to possibly bring her along with you or bring someone with you to help out so you can see to your child and still share your friends big day? normaly weddings are family events with children so she may let you bring her even if it means running off every couple of hours for feeds ect but your friend is only doing this the once and your baby isnt going any where fast so personly iwould go and try and fit itall in somehow. on the other hand if baby isnt here yet defo go but maybe leave the dress shopping till the very last minute!

[Lance06]

Well, I did let her know i couldnt do it....and thank goodness bc the next day I was taken out of work and put on bed rest!

thanks for the advice though...right now I have to concentrate on keeping my little one in a little longer.