19 and unfertil???

i am only 19 years old and i know this may sound silly, but i have been having unprotected sex with multiple partners multiple times sence i was 16. i have never been pregnant and i am wondering if i am even able to. my periods are irregular, i go a month or two with out having one, and giving the odd's and the number of times i have had unprotected sex, i am starting to think if i am able to get pregnant i would have been already.

i have controlled my sexual activity and i am in a commited and very loveing satisfying relation ship with a great man (who by the way has a daughter) we have had unprotected sex over 50 times and i still have not been fetalized.

this may not be a big concern now and i should concider myself lucky, but i do want to have children in the future and im wondering if i should talk to a docter about getting a fertillity test.
tho i dont know if they would even to it at my young age.

[samnaz]

you could have unprotected sex 1000 times but if it's not at the right time you won't get pregnant. You mention that you want kids in the future and that you have been lucky that nothing happened thus far so why not use protection till you're ready cos surely there are other ways to test fertility than having unprotected sex.  

[gillianl]

If you were having unprotected sex since the age of 16 years old i would get tested for any STD's.  If you have one this might be the problem with your irregular periods and not being able to conceive.  Some STD's have NO symptoms at all unless tested.

A doctor won't give you a fertility test as you haven't actively been ttc, i myself have been trying for over 2 years now and only just started getting tested for things.  You are also only 19 years old and a lot of doctors won't see you at this stage.

Best of luck for the future and try and be careful in future always use protection

[090380]

thank you,

i have realised the ways of my actions and i have completely turned around. i have been tested for everything multiple times. i have monthly pelvics, and i have limited my self to never having more than 1 sexualy partner a month. i practice safe sex now.

this issue has jsut become an anxianty to me and i find my self obsessing about my ovulations and fetility constantly. it overwhelms we with fear and feelings of meaninglessness, i fear that if i do not have children, i will never know real love and i will die and my whole life will have been pointless and incomplete.

i know that it is hard for alot of women to get pregant, and i can see the pain of it, and i feel it and i feel like im going through it.

my life has barly even begun and i want to be released from these feeling. everytime i have sex i take a pregnancy test. ive taken more than i can count and every time its negative it like beats down my soul and i dont want to live my life with this constant fear and pain and self pity