1ST IVF ATTEMPT NEGATIVE RESULT

I am a new member to this site.
I am 39 and my DH is 45.  I have had 2 miscarriages by getting pregnant naturally - one at 37 and one at 38 about same time in June each year. He has a low sperm count - 2million but can go up to 9mill sometimes.  About 50-60% mobility. Me fine.
We have just completed our first IVF attempt.  I just got a negative result after 2week wait. Did everything correctly but did get the flu a bit on Day 3.  Had a 5 Day transfer with 2 embryos.  Am very disappointed!! and upset.
At my egg collection I got 14 eggs but only 8 fertilised and in the end I only had 2 eggs to transfer on Day 5, 1 Blastocyte and one nearly blastocyte.  We didnt get any to freeze, which is what I was hoping for.
I have to wait to Jan for my second IVF attempt.  Am very upset.  The nurse has suggested we try IUI with a donor sperm as we cant really afford to pay for IVF treatment as its really expensive.  Everyone I know has had babies and I am getting let behind.  Please help me with any similar stories or advise as I feel very upset, alone and feel I may never have my dream met for having babies. Hope to hear soon. Thanks

[ace0615]

i am a new member too!  i am 32 years old and I just did IVF for my third time.  The doctors retrieved 7 embryos, which all fertilized and matured.  I did a day 5 transfer and they put in 2, which were grades 1's and 2's, which meant i will most likely be pregnant.  I was able to freeze 4.  

i just found out on 4/20 that i am not pregnant. My husband and i have been trying for 5 years.  The first IVF i did back in 09 i was pregnant and then i miscarried at 6 weeks.  2nd IVF i did a frozen transfer and it didnt take.  I took a year off and came back to do my 3rd IVF, which did not take.  I am waiting to get my period.

i know what you are going through.  you have to keep your head up high and stay strong and do not give up.

[denise794]

Hi
Thanks for your advice.  I'm am very sorry for what has happened with your IVF treatments. I I know you have to stay strong and not give up hope, but its easier said than done, if you know what i mean.

I have heard IVF doesn't always work, only about 40% are sucessful which is quite low.

Have you heard about IUI using donor sperm? Would you do IVF with donor sperm? We may have to try this.  I have one more free treatment of IVF in Jan but then we have to pay and its about $8,000 which is very expensive and we cant afford it.  IUI with donor sperm is a bit cheaper.

Be strong - Thinking of you