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1134544 tn?1264685102
2 years and no baby :( what am i doing wrong?
Hello.
My fiance and i are both in our 20's and we have been trying to conceive for OVER 2 years now.
i have seen my doctor, i should have no issues bareing a child or getting pregnant, same with my fiance, hes been check and everything seems fine.
i have been eating healthy, exersicing ( not to much) i have always been healthy and always been around 120-130lbs all my life. we have tryed having intercourse every single night for at least 8 months :|  and after nothing happened after SO MUCH work we where both very upset. i tryed taking prenatal vitamins, more folic acid, taking my temp everyday when i first wake up, useing my ovulation calender kit ( and been having sex on my ovulation days and every darn day inbetween!!) its been 2 soild years now and NOTHING! i get all the pregnancy symptoms at the end of every month, but i always get my period ( i thinkits my my brain giving me these sympotoms because we both wont a child SO DESPERIATLY!)
i should mention that 1 1/2 years ago i had a egtopic pregnancy, i did not know i was pregnant until i had a small rupturer. a couple months after that i had a misscarriage not even a month long into the pregnancy.
im really starting to get depressed. all the doctors EVERYONE thats checked us both out say we should be able to make babies like its going out of style! so why cant we.. :( this hurts my heart, and my fiance's! we also own about 5 different "why cant i conceive, fertility issues" books and advice from all 5 books have obvuisly failed...

i should also mention that i was on the pill for about 2-3 years, and had 1 shot of depo provera. HOWEVER i have not taken any form of birth control in any form ( including condoms) for the past 2 years.(about 2-3 months off being a full 2 years). how is it that i had an egtopic and a misscarriage while i was still on birthcontrol or just coming off it, but now that im completly off it i cant seem to conceive.

someone please help us. please offer some advice, anything.. we dont know who else to talk to or who else to turn to for advice. i feel like a failer, my fiance feels like a failure, and we feel we are not going to have the family and start our family/ life together the way we finachially planned, and thought about for a LONGG time.

im looseing faith in my humanity...or so it feels... im deperatly,begging you for help!
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522984 tn?1299512681
I'm so sorry you have been going through this, i know its hard and hurts so bad. Have the doc checked your tubes to make sure they are not blocked? dont give up and dont lose faith, we are all here for you.
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Yes, ask your Dr for the HSG test.  Good Luck
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Remember most infertile couples will get pregnant!
Go to a fertility specialist!(not a regular ob)
Make sure to get fiancé to have 2 sperm analaysis too (make sure they test for motility and morphology not just count)
get your tubes checked, as well as have hormone levels drawn... Ect.
And try to focus on your relationship with your fiancé as much as possible. (
baby will need 2 parents that can hold on to each other and work together through all that lies ahead.
Good luck
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luvbug9109,
am sorry you are going thru all that. My dear you and your fiance are still young. DOn't stress yourself and your partner. If you and your partner hav eno problems [you chk hormones such as FSH, LH, Testosterone..etc, ultrasound, tubes,and he made sperm analysis more than once]. then probably your problem is the stress. being "DESPERIAT" will affect your hormons. Enjoy your moment right now and one day soon you will find yourself pregnant.
Am much older than you, and I get stressed sometime because I say "Am getting OLDER", then I go back and say baby will neve come if am so stressed.
It seems things we want so bad, too hard to get.
Good luck my dear.
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I am in the same position as you (2 and a half years of trying...when people ask my husband when we are going to have a baby he likes to say "we try everyday" haha), and I know how each month you try not to let yourself get too excited or attached to the idea that you are pregnant but inevitably you do... and then the disappointment is all the more extreme.  Many of my friends have recently had babies or become pregnant (5 in fact) with two having a lot of trouble initially falling pregnant. My advice, though it will be difficult, is to drop the idea of pregnancy from the top of your list. Make a pact with yourself that you are not going to let the thought dominate your head (even just for a definate space of time, say three months), because pregnancy will happen when it happens and stressing and thinking about it will not benifit you, it may even be detrimental, as stress is not conducive to pregnancy.  Of the two friends who had trouble getting pregnant, one was on her last round of IVF and had decided to stop after this round...and she thinks this "giving over to inevitabliliy" helped her get pregnant.  The other friend is 40 years old and told me after years of stress and tests and heartbreak, she decided to stop trying and to stop having doctors appointments and blood tests every week, she thinks that by putting a stop to all the pressure on herself and her partner she was able to become pregnant without any medical assistance.  So there you have it.  Get all the tests that you think you need to get an idea on any medical problems you may have, but then let go a little and try to enjoy life with your partner without a child for a while, because as you probably can guess, although it will be amazing with a child, once you have one your life will never be the same again.  Goodluck and best wishes, Susie.
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1601869 tn?1441314348
i tryed for 3 almost 4 years before getting my son! i didnt go in and talk to anyone but if you are that worried i would! nothing wrong with asking for answers
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9561708 tn?1406912441
Hey I am so sorry. I just I am in the same situation, but I am 37 now. And never never get pregnant. I have with my husband 6 year and no baby :( we when to tha infertility,  doctor, pill. Try to eat good. Is nothing happened.  But the only I can told you.  I cry some time like a babie because I cant do this anymore. But I still have faith and God. Now I try to do again,  see my ovulation day. :) because we need to have faith. Trust me dont lose you faith. Keep going.  Be strong. I know exactly how you feel. This is 6 years ha been so bad for me and my husband.  And a couple years we when to infertility and nothing the same we ok. The want me do do IvF, IUI, but we dont have tha money and I don't feel happy to do this too. Because I know God can do my babies. I will pray for you. Please keep going and have faith.
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1756475 tn?1330542313
i agree with Canes02 ask to see a fertility specialist and not just your OB.  
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8096155 tn?1401894211
I am in the same boat hun. My husband and have been trying for 2 and half years.  I am still waiting on my BFP and hoping to get it this month.  I had test done as well. My husband has too and we both are fine. Have you gotten a hsg done to make sure your tubes are opened??  I really know how you feel though. I hate seeing those negatives all the time it's so depressing.  I feel like giving up all the time. I'll be praying for you as well and hope you get you BFP soon. If you need to talk you can private message me.
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I am so sorry to the both of you. However, don't worry about nothing. Keeping a calm mind and staying stress free is first. Second is eating right and drinking plenty of water, orange juice and milk. Eating fresh fruits and vegetables with plenty of protein in your diet. Iron pills is a plus with one aspirin everyday is great. Third is exercising with walking and yoga being at the top of this list. Asking your doctor to check for fibroids, blocked ovaries and to check hsg levels is highly recommend. Try meditation to keep you calm and in no time you should be pregnant. I wish you and your husband to be the very best and may God bless you always.
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