6 Days Post-IVF Transfer; no symptoms. Is there still hope?

[m_aloha]

Hi There,

I have read so many uplifting experiences of a successful pregnancy and I am so happy for all of you.  My heart goes out to everyone who is going through what we all are going through.  But right now, I am going through my own ordeal and could not find anyone who is going through the same experience...I have no symptoms at all.  Is it the obvious?  That I am not pregnant. Or is there still a possibility and that I just need to wait until my HCG appt.  I have read everyone's experience and their symptoms, but none on someone who had no symptoms but was pregnant.  I have read and searched all forums but found no information on my experience.


Sincerely m_aloha

[mhv]

Well, I used donor embryos, so I helped save s few of those precious embryos :). I never ever take it for granted where my babies came from, and I am grateful everyday to the person that donated them to us..  I understand your position, and I agree some clinics are in it for the $$... But not all.  Believe me, I have been to both kinds.  And even the well meaning one's cannot take over Gods hands and decide which transfers work, and which transfers don't.  That can only be decided by God.  At least that is my opinion.  I can tell you this, the 2 children that we have been blessed with were meant to be ours, and if any of those other 6 transfers would have been successful, I would have never met them.
My husband and I love each other very much, and while we struggled everyday fir yearsvwith pain and disappointment, and my friends drug addicted daughter gets pregnant, and only stays clean for her pregnancy because she is in prison, and has 7 men tested to find out who the father is, only to find out none of the 7 were....I don't believe God has in his mind who should and shouldn't be parents.  

Fertility treatments are not for everyone.  I understand that.  I believe with all my heart though, if you choice to take that path, no one should deter you.  I would spend every cent we have spent again if given the chance to be a mom to the two precious angels sleeping in the room across the hall.  Not everyone disregards their embryos.  I have 6 remaining, and plan to pay it forward once again.  Is it traditional???  NO!  But,  we could never destroy them, I too believe they are souls.  I have living proof of it.

I wish you so much luck in your next transfer, I hope you never have to face the reality of being childless.  

[Kricket2609]

I am 3dp BFN :(  I feel much less sad today and needed a few shoulders to cry on. We have 2 more tries left but we will will probably not try again if these next 2 transfers don't work. My husband and I refuse to be part of this money making industry that preys on vulnerable desperate couples that are TTC.

I completely understand why my pastor and friend advised against IVF....they have very good reasons. I don't feel like they are completely wrong.  Every child deserves to be born with dignity and love between man and a woman. While thousands of children are being born via IVF, thousands of embryos are being disregarded without so much as a thought. I believe embryos are souls. Does the end justify the means. Only God can answer that. I don't judge anyone but I do understand the arguments against IVF....ultimately I made the choice to do it. In doing so, my husband and I have refused to have multiple embryos made and for the ones that don't make it - we will have a moment of silence once we receive them. Treating them with respect and dignity was very important to us.

Thank You so much for your support!

[mhv]

First off, don't let anyone tell you not to do this.  God made ivf possible for a reason.  I have 2 beautiful children to prove that!  If it weren't for ivf, I would have remained childless forever.  People,who have not experienced infertility first hand, will never, could never ever imagine what we go through.  I don't care how well meaning they are, they are wrong.  I bet 95% of the ladies on here who haven't given up, and kept trying, are now parents.  It was my 7th transfer, 2nd with donor embryos, that we were blessed with twins.  we tried for almost 10 years before we were successful.
You will NEVER hear a person who has experienced infertility tell you to give up on your dream, and not to try every avenue open....NEVER!  

I think my nurse stated it perfectly, you can have the perfect environment, the most beautiful embryos, but the one things doctors cannot predict is mother nature.  No one can explain why 1 cycle may fail and another work, but if we pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and keep trying, we will most likely be successful.

You hold your head high, and you tell your pastor and your devoted friend, that although you hear them, you will be trying again, and God willing, it will be the cycle that pays off.  

You can look here for support...we all understand....more then anyone else.

[Kricket2609]

We have 3 embies left! I just spoke with the RE and I just wanted to put some heat on him as to WHY this didn't work. He said everything went smoothly, we had 2 beautiful embryos and for some unexplained reason it just didn't take. He said we had a 60% of it working. I guess there is still hope.
Furthermore, I am a Christian and my pastor and good devout friend told me not to do this...I can't help but feel that they were right about everything. Ughhhh.
Sorry for venting so much!

[trh0819]

I know there are no words to comfort you but mhv is right... be kind to yourself, take time to be sad, then get back up and get ready because you are NOT done.

[mhv]

Kricket, I am so sorry.  Please know I know  exactly how you are feeling. :(. It was on my seventh transfer that we were successful.  Do you have any frozen embryos?  Oh honey, I know how hard this all is.  I am so sorry.  Please be kind to yourself.  I am here to vent to, if you need to

[Kricket2609]

BFN for me ....just got the call. Depressing :(

[Kricket2609]

I will definitely let you all know. It's been nerve racking waiting for "the call" from the RE. We have been TTC for 2.5yrs 4 failed IUIs and now unto ivf #1 dt MFI. Thanks for the support!

[mhv]

Good luck today!!!!!  Let us know how it goes :)

[Kricket2609]

I think it's great to have a forum such as this to post question, concerns and whatever and have the support of others going through the same thing. I am really nervous about today's Beta..I will be 9dp FET that I had at one of the best clinics in the country. We'll see if it was worth it.

[Kricket2609]

I also have had no symptoms and waiting for results of my Beta today....I feel great otherwise. I feel like it can't be a great sign that I have no symptoms.

[FatimaL]

hi, i am new here, my name is Fatima.  I'm on my 8days after 2day transfer my beta will be in 3days more for my test. I feel nausea, cramps, and some pain on my back. However, 2 days i feel some discharge on my underwear. Can you tell me  if anybody felt that. I am so worry.

[believer413]

Hi Shapira, how are you feeling? I had my ET Jan 19 and this Monday is when I check for pregnancy test. I have been cramping on and off. Good luck and just take it easy.

[shipraaa]

i had my ivf on 15 Jan and i m not feeling any thing. no pain no noursea no temperature change.....
can i be pregnant ?
please reply soon.

[mhv]

I just wanted to let you know, I had NO symptoms at all during my 2ww.  I kept telling people if I hadn't seen the embryos on the u/s, I would swear they forgot to put them in.   I now have 11 week old twins from that transfer :). I actually had NO symptoms at all until about week 10 or so.....hang in there!!!!

[Nursepoo]

Im currently experiencing NOTHING and I'm curious to know if you indeed were pregnant? I'm getting discouraged......

[wntbabybad1234]

Thank u this list is very helpful ...  :-)

[firstimer111]

Hi

How those it go?  Waiting to read from you dear.  Wish you the very best

[BloggerYen2x]

I'm on my 8days after 5day transfer my beta will be in 3days more. This 2ww is a killer! I been cramping off an on, got sore boobs but disappear after 4days transfer, other than that I feel good, and I have no idea if that's good or not I'm freakin out already! I been emotional and can't stop crying praying for Gods miracle!
This is my 2nd cycle of IVF 1st was a MC. 2nd transfer was frozen embryo left from the 1st retrieval but went negative! Then now was fresh retrieval and I'm so emotional about it afraid of failure again because of not having any freakin symptoms!:(

I'm attempt to do PT but I'm afraid to it:( pls any idea pls to raise my emotion into positive out look.


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[BloggerYen2x]

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[simmo2008]

I had no symptoms and was sure our first go with IVF didnt work how ever it did we are now 6 wks. we only had one egg that could be used and shows it only takes one :) the whole 2ww is the worse but stay positive i feel your pain iv been there - it always seems like you are waiting but hopefully for a positive result x AMY

[m_aloha]

Thanks for the info on your back-to-back.  I plan to do the back-to-back afterall.  I feel positive this time around.
Hearing the result as being negative was not as bad as I thought.  I handled it so much better compared to my first IVF.  I guess the difference was being positive up to 9 weeks and then having a m/c and then 2 weeks later having another m/c made me lose it.
I hope IVF #3 will be my time!!  I definitely am not going to give up.

[mamom15]

I am so sorry to hear about your news, I was hoping to hear something different but oh well.  I wanted to to share with you that after my first failed IVF I did a back to back and that worked for me.  I have hear that back to back is more successfull and it was certainly less stressfull for me

[mhv]

I am sorry to hear your news : (  
but am glad to hear your not giving up!!!  Take care, and we are here if you need to talk.

Melissa