D&C or miscarrage(miscarriage) and trying again

Hello ladies.....for those who know me, I was 6 weeks pregnant..went to u/c today and doc didn't see embryo in gestational sac which means that it stopped developing....on Tuesday Im going for another u/c to confirm...after that I either going to have a natural m/c (btw, does anyone know how to make it happen?) or going under D&C (how is the procedure done)?

My question is, how soon can we start trying for a new cycle after miscarrage (miscarriage)?????

Im soooo depressed right now and would like some input.......

[ashort]

Anya- I'm so sorry to hear your news.  I have had 2 m/cs one at 7 weeks and another at 6 weeks.  I had a D and C with both.  So I really can only give you one point of view.  With my last m/c I was given a choice and I chose to have another D and C b/c from what I've read from other girls it can take a while for it to happen naturally.  I'm a teacher so I can't really miss work to wait so I chose the D and C.  Also with the D and C they can test the chromosomes of the baby to determine if it was a chromosomal abnormality.  Sometimes they kind find out info from that and sometimes not.  I'm an unusual case, but I had a molar pregnancy which they wouldn't have discovered had I not had the D and C.  You can start trying after you have had one period some doctors say 2.  I have to wait 6 months b/c of the molar pregnancy....5 months left and counting.  Good luck to you and I'm sorry for your loss.

[Anya1984]

Hi there,
I am sorry for your loss too...
I just want to hope that second time will be a normal full pregnancy and I won't get another m/c!!!
How painful is D&C?
If they give you choice and let's say, I want to have a natural one, why do you say that you need to take off from work? I thought it just going to come out? Are there any stimulats they give you to have a natural m/c???

Im just scared for D&C....is it painful afterwards?
See, because I have pcos syndrom (syndrome), I might not have period after D&C...then what? I would like to start very soon because I can't wait....I have been waiting for such a long time, for 3.5 years!!!!!!!!
Gosh, it is soo depressing!

[tamjun03]

Anya
This is so strange.  I am literally in the same boat that you are.  This is our first try with invitro.  My husband and I went on Thursday for what we hoped was to see an ultrasound of the babies heartbeat.  We implanted two and the first one the Dr. saw blood around and the sac was going down....the second one was not developing and would not be viable.  I think our Dr. was just as shocked as we were all of my numbers were really high and I had all the symptoms nausea, br tenderness etc.  but I am 39 so the Dr. believes the age of the eggs is the reason for the miscarriage.  I am going to have a D & C on Wednesday morning.  I too was very nervous about the decision but felt that this is the best option for us.  They really want you to wait at least one full cycle before trying and as ashort said 2 is the ideal.  We want to try again asap because of my age but I don't want to jump the gun and do anything rash. I read that with the D&C that the lining to your uterus needs time to build back up suffieciently.  It becomes pretty thin due to making sure everything is removed as to prevent infection.  Letting nature take its course and waiting for a miscarriage can be quite painful both physically and emotionally.  It can take awhile. Ulitmately the best you can do is educate yourself on both and make the decision that is right for you!!!  I'm really glad I have found your post it was such a fluke!!!  Hope some of this helps, and if you have any other questions I will check back!!!  Tami

[Anya1984]

Thank you Tami...
Wow, I am sorry for your loss too...I know it was such an ordeal for me to hear the Doc say that she can't see the embryo......I was so depressed, I cried all morning....Im going in on Tuesday just to make sure its not there and I guess they will let me know if I should wait for a natural m/c (which like you said may take a while, but I heard that D&C is not pleasant either), and if they do tell me that natural mc may take a while, then I will have D&C done too....im just very scared, you know!!
Im only 24 but I really need this baby!!!! Gosh!!!!!
I already have problems with absense of Ovulation due to PCOS...so it was hard to get O this time, you know? I can't believe I will have to start over in few months?!!!! that's crazy!! That's soooo long!
2 cycles  you said after D&C?
:(((
that is soooo upseting.................
Im still griefing...i was so hoping to have this baby!!!

[tamjun03]

I know it all just pretty much sucks and throughout this process you are not supposed to stress!!!  I think I need to get a t shirt that reads "Cautiously Optimistic".  It's such a roller coaster and nobody can truly understand what you are going through.... I will give you an update on the D & C and can hopefully let you know what to expect.  

[Anya1984]

So what did your doc say about natural miscarrage (miscarriage)? it might take more then 2-3 weeks to miscarry? Than it is better to do D&C....If on Tuesday I will sstill have no embryo (and Im pretty sure I wont....) then I will probly do D&C too....I wonder if Insurance pay for that? And I guess I can start as soon as I will be allowed to...its just that I will have to go through THE SAME LONG A** process again!!!! grr....and I was so hoping...I don't know, its so oooo hard...

[scienceteacher79]

Oh sweetie - I am sooooooo sorry!!! As for the natural M/C vs D and C - I can say I had both WITH ONE PREGNANCY! Ok, heres my tale: I started bleeding March 4th, went to RE on March 5th and they confirmed M/C and said I ddin't need a D and C because most of it had gotten out of my uterus by then and was basically sitting on my cevix waiting to leave. Yeah right! After bleeding for about 5 days, I stopped bleeding. All the tissue had come out, I thought. It was tiny bits here and there and then a big one I pased in the middle of the night. I think I was so numb I just kinda said "ok, that has to be all of it". On the 21st of March I started to bleed bright bright red blood and my Sis in law, who had lost the 2 she concieved this year, knew this wasn't good and sent me to the ER and I ended up having a D and C. Here I was over two weeks past my miscarriage thinking I was 2 weeks closer to trying again and this happened. Apparently there was still a lot of tissue in there. So, if I had to do it again, I would have had the D and C to make SURE all of it was out so I could heal quicker and get back to TTC as soon as possible.  Now, my RE said that as soon as I get my 1st AF I can get back to TTC and she even wanted to put me back on the meds right away. I don't know if this is what all RE's do, but mine was raring to go again  :) Hubby and I think we will wait and try naturally this month (whenever AF shows - should be in a few days based on my tempertures) and go back to meds if w don't succeed this time. It is basically our feeling that we do not want to waste money if my lining is not back to where it needs to be from the D and C. The docs scrape it pretty thin to get all of the tissue out so you don't get an infection or need another D and C. I hope this helps you. If it were me, I would have the D and C to make sure all of it gets out and you can get back to TTC quicker. With a natural M/C, you will have to wait for it to happen. I think there are some meds the docs can give you to get it started faster, but I am not sure.

Still hold on to a little hope, 6 weeks is still early. You never know what might happen. DId he do bloodwork to see if your HCG is rising. You need to do that before you make ANY decision. Tell him you want to see the numbers. Have B/W done one day and go back 2 days later and see what the results are before you make ANY decisions. Good luck, you will deal with this. I promise and it will be that much btter when you get pregnant again. Big hugs.

PS: If you have a D and C, it doesn't hurt, I barely bled after mine. And I popped an egg out about 12 days later :) HUGS!

[Anya1984]

Thank you for your tale...you reassured me that I should do D&C as oppose to wait till it comes out naturally which might take forever.....
My HCG numbers were VERY high and everything was good but then Doc said today that at this point, there should be something visable in gestational sac and it wasnt...I don't think anything appears by Tuesday, the embryo just stopped growing, you know...how far along were you when you had your m/c??

[scienceteacher79]

6 and a half weeks. just make sure they do another bloodtest to see what the hcg is doing...if you do have a m/c, we are here for you as you go through it. Been there, done that and I survived, you will too. HUGS!!

[Anya1984]

so your baby died at that age, same as mine...I am 6 and a half weeks today...so how soon after that did you have a natural? Cuz my baby didn't grow from week 5 so it has been a week already and I have no symptoms of m/c.....how b/w is going to help though? If they can't see embryo in gest sac then I need to have d&c done...If I had it natural soon, I would be ok, and if not (im giving it a week) then I would prefer d&C...although I heard crazy stories about it, lots of pain and other stuff....cuz they ipen your cervix and so on....:( I just want to start again...
how soon after d&C were u allowed to start trying?
Cuz with my syndrom (syndrome), I can't have period and O, so they will have to put me on provera to get my period....I don't know...

[tamjun03]

Hi Anya

My doc basically said that both a D & C and natural have + and -.  The thing is that even if you let the m/c occur naturally you may still have to have a D & C.  Tissue can be left up there and also they don't want to increase your chance for infection.  That is why I chose to go with the D & C.  I did not want to wait for it to happen and then still have to have the D & C anyways.  Now I am not a Dr. and I am only repeated what mine told me but he explained the procedure as this.........I have to ****** the night before. I will have anesthisia and antibiotics given to me that morning ( similiar to the transfer but instead of putting in they will be taking out ). My cervix will be dialated.The procedure itself will be a small straw - like tube inserted they will be able to follow exactly where it is placed and clean out any fetal or placental tissue. The process itself should be about 10-15 mins.  My post op instructions tell me to"  Spend the remainder of the day resting and taking it easy.  ** Advises that I may experience:  Fatigue, Vaginal Bleeding, Abdominal discomfort, often a burised or cramping sensation.  These discomforts should improve rapidly.  Symptoms usually  resolve in the day following surgery.....but may persist for 2-3 days.  They tell me not to have sex for one week. No baths, swimming, hot tubs  at least 5 days.  No douching or tampons.  They advise me to use tylenol as needed - so I don't think that it's going to be any worse than a natural m/c.  Last night my husband and I went to the movies just to get out of the house.  I am wearing a pad everywhere I go and paranoid that the m/c could happen at any moment.  I just feel that for me having that clean slate and not having to keep agonizing over what my body is going to do is better for me.  Hope this helps!!!!

[ashort]

Anya-  A natural m/c can take a while.  The D and C's don't hurt mine were about 20 mins.  You are in and out.  It isn't painful.  Physically you will feel better in no time.  My baby didn't grow from 5 weeks to 6 either.  I was on progesterone so my RE said that's why I didn't have any symptoms.  I really only bled for about 1 or 2 days after my D and C.  I hope you make a decision that is good for you.  We are here if you want to talk.  I wish you the best!

tamjun-  I'm so sorry for your loss too!  Good luck with your D and C.  I hope you have a fast recovery and will be ttc again soon!

[Anya1984]

Thank you very much for your story....I m not sure what you mean about what you have to do the night before the procedure....It will be good if your cervix will dialte so it will be open for the procedure.....So you are going in this Wednesday, GOOD LUCK! Tell me how you are going to feel later...Im going for u/c on Tuesday and will ask my doc to do D&C as soon as possible, I want it out of me so we can start trying soon again..I heard that docs usually tell you to wait 3 months before start trying......WOW, that seems forever! I hope it will take much less with me....I hope!!! And I hope that next pregnancy really works out for both of us!!! Im so tired of this....
We walked the whole day today just to clear my head...it helped but stilll....every time I see a baby, I want to cry....what a life!

[Anya1984]

Ohhhhh, I see....I had no symptoms cuz I m on progesterone as well, that must be it!!!!! wow...that makes sense!! I hope that my D&C will be also in and out... did they put you to sleep though? Did you rest for the rest of the day? Were you ok the next day? How fast did they schedule the D&C ?? I want mine done this week cuz I don't want to wait...
How long did they say you need to wait before start trying again?

THANKS!

[ashort]

Yes, I think you have to be put out for a D and C.  The thing is...until my first D and C I had NEVER been put out for anything.  It is a very light anesthesia.  They put it in your IV.  I just remember my RE saying we are going to do another u/s just to make sure.  I looked at him and said sure.  I told him I was feeling a little dizzy then I was out.  I talked a lot of nonsense to the nurse when i first came out but you wake up quickly.  You feel a little buzzed...LOL.  They send you home about 45 mins later.  Dh and I went to the grocery store.  I was a little off but I was okay.  Actually later on that day, I went out to sign up for yoga.  So I felt fine.  After my first, I went to work the next day.  This time my D and C was done on a Friday so I went back that Monday.  I would say you could go back the next day.  Emotionally you are drained though.  I went in on a Wednesday and had a D and C that Friday.  It all depends on scheduling.  Is your RE going to do it.  Becasue I had a molar pregnancy I have to wait 6 months...5 left...it stinks...I think we are going to start trying a little early like in July.  He told me 6 months was being conservative.  Let me know how things go!

[skipili]

Anya....I'm really sorry.  I've been following your posts and my heart really goes out to you. I had a m/c last summer. I thought I was starting my AF but that wasn't the case.  It was a chemical pregnancy the dr said. It was early on so my body just m/c naturaly. I bled for about 2 1/2 weeks but only heavy for 3 days or so. I started trying again in 2 months. I know how you feel. I was sad when it happened. Still am. I would be having a baby this month. You hang in there ok!!!  

[mommyluv02]

I am so terribly sorry that you are having to go through this and i hope you have support at home as you already know we are here for you but its nice to have a "real" shoulder to cry on:) Now as for the natural or the D&C i have had both with two different m/c i would deffinatly go for the D&C with the natural you actually see all the tissue and stuff passing, and for me that was the hard part and with the D&C you see nothing unless you ask to see it. But for me it was alot easier emotionally and the pain isnt really that bad just a bit of cramping and they will give you pain pills and if that is what you decide to do then your HCG should drop pretty fast *** all the tissue will all come out. I want to wish you the best of luck and i hope there is still room for a miracle:)
Hugs and Prayers!!
Amanda

[scienceteacher79]

Like I said before, I would go with the D and C, just because you can get back to TTC faster and everyone is right about feeling much much better physically afterward. I am a little woozy after because of the anesthia (spelling?) but the next day we had a BBQ and i played volleyball for a few mintes and felt fine. I barely bled afterwards too - compared to how bad i bled with the natural m/c. The natural m/c was hard on me becaue I had to see everything come out. So I do think the D and C will help emotionally. We are here for you. Hang in there. It will be ok - I have found it almost relaxing to not have to worry about whether I am pregnant or not since I am still waiting for my period to show up. I am much calmer and less stressed this time around. Just waiting for AF and then we will try right away again. HUGS!

[Anya1984]

Thank you girls for supporting me...I woke up today and had another hysteria, Gosh!! I cried and cried, and I am so empty right now....Im really scared of doctors period and the fact that I will be put in sleep and people will be inside of me opening my cervix is totally KILLING me......I was put out once when I had a stomach procedure done and damn I felt SOOOO bad afterwords....not a little buzzed but vomiting and dizziness for the whole 2 days..coundn't even eat!! Oh well, that  is something that I have to go through.....
My BIG concern is.......are there success stories to get pregnant afterwards and actually KEEP the baby????? What's my percentage of getting another m/c????
Im just very scared that I will have to go through with this again.....

[ashort]

I"m not sure of percentages....I have read about a lot of people that have gone on to have healthy pregnancies after having a m/c though.  I think the anestesia is different from anesthesia they give you for stomach surgery.  It's very light...and you aren't out for long.  I'm so sorry you are having such a hard time.  To be honest, I felt the same way with my first D and C...I was so scared about being put out but it really wasn't that bad...let us know how you are doing.

[scienceteacher79]

I have read that having a M/C does not up your chances at having another one. It is the same as if you had delivered or if you had never been preggo before. Every pregnancy is different. Worrying about healing first. All that other stuff can come later. HUGS!!

[andykk]

So, so, so sorry...I really hope that when you go in you have better news...
Reading the posts, I would agree w/ the D&C....I chose to wait for natural m/c...like said + and - mentioned from the docs, and I guess in my mind I wasn't ready to "give up" hope...although I knew that it was the inevitable (u/s at 6 wk and confirmed at 7 wk w/ only a sac, no fetal pole of h/b although my hcg levels kept increasing) so waited for the m/c and it didn't occur until I would have been 9 wks...and it hit me when I was out and about and was very painful. Plus, as also mentioned, I still had to go have a hysteroscopy, since I didn't lose all of the tissue and continued to bleed for about 3 more weeks (had attached and wasn't letting go) Going under for the procedure and everything afterwards went just fine. Hardly any pain, and I, too, was worried about going under, just because of when I had had two previous IVF's after retrieval I felt terrible from the anesthesia...but this went great. I even went to my 8 yr olds play that same afternoon of the procedure (he was Peter Pan...I HAD to go).
I sure hope everything goes well for you. And I have had many friends w/ successful pregnancies after m/c. Many women have m/c, not even knowing they were pg, just thinking they are having their periods. As my doc told me (trying to be reassuring, but at the time I wanted to smack the heck out of him) "natures way of fixing things that would have been terribly wrong w/ the pregnancy or baby". Now I feel a bit more understanding of that. Oh, and I was wanting to do another cycle ASAP after m/c, so our clinic had me wait only one natural cycle of AF before starting again. It took from Dec. m/c, waiting for that all to pass, surgery, and AF, and now we are on track for FET on the 24th. Having the d&c would have had me doing the cycle quicker...but I guess the timing is happening for a reason (whatever the heck that is!!!)
Again...thinking of you...:O)

[Anya1984]

Thank you sooo much for the comforting words.......you are great...
although I can't stop crying and my heart doesn't want to understand my mind that the baby isn't there, therefore d&C is inevitable....I have decided for myself after reading all the posts that d&c is the best option for me..

I wonder how long I will have to wait to start trying again if I don't get my periods??? I can't wait to speak with a doc, and I go to u/c tomorrow to make sure that the embryo isn't there.....on Sat we checked , and it wasn't there....I will be 7 weeks this Wednesday and I just want to have it all over with very soon!!!! I just can't not sleep anymore...how do I cope with stress? What did you do? how can I stop thinking about it? I just keep crying and can't stop...Im killing myself, and my hubby.....I don't sleep and I can't work....Im sooo misarable, its horrible......
I just really really hope that the next time it will happen and my pregnancy will go fine......right  now, I just want it out of me so I can start over....gosh, what a pain....!

[Anya1984]

thank you...I just read so many posts saying that they keep having m/c over and over again..so Im just being very scared......I just don't want to wait sooo long before I can start over.....and what are the odds that next IUI wil get me preggo???? probably very slim....

[Anya1984]

I had a gastroskopy which is basically a very small stomach procedure, not even a surgery, and the anestesia they gave me was pretty light to, I was back in 45 minutes....so that's why I am worried, this type of anestesia got me vomiting and not able to eat for 2 days....I think I just deal badly with any type of anestesia....oh well, if that's someting that needs to be done...I just want it done asap so I can get over the pain I have right now in my heart....
Thank you for the support!

[rene67]

Hi Anya,

I am also very sorry for your loss.  I've had 3 m/c, all followed by D&Cs.  All stopped growing around 6-7 weeks.

The first D&C was in hospital with a light general anesthesia, I felt OK afterwards but did get a little nauseous later in the evening, but not severe.

The 2nd two were in-office procedures without anesthesia.  You do get some pain meds to take before and after, the procedure itself is uncomfortable but not really painful (just some cramps). I brought my Ipod and listened to that to relax me, plus drown out any clinical talk I didn't need to hear.

If your doc is OK with this, I would do instead of gen anesthesia.  It is actually less of an ordeal plus you are generally OK to go within a few minutes of the procedure.

May be best just to take it one day at a time, just try to get through this first, don't worry about getting pregnant again just yet.  You are still young and did at least get pregnant, even w/PCOS.  Did your doctor suggest you need to hurry and get pregnant?  My doctor is concerned about this for me, but I am 40 and probably only have a year or so left to try on my own before moving to more aggressive options.

[jen023]

Oh girl... I am so, so sorry for your loss... I had two m/c both were earlier than yours, one about 6 weeks. To be blunt, my doctors were idiots... they assumed I had m/c naturally, never even checked me out. Back then, I was dumb too and thought, well, that must be all there is to it. Now I wonder if I have scar tissue or something that is preventing me from getting pg and hope my HSG will show that. Anyway, I'm glad to see you chose to have a D&C done... I think that is the best way... just make sure they double and triple check to make absolutely sure that the baby stopped growing. My heart goes out to you and I hope you are able to conceive again very soon. Good luck to you - and I am here if you need anything at all...

[tamjun03]

Here are some stats from a book I recently purchased. About 9% of natural pregnancies in women in there 20's ends in a miscarriage.  The numbers double when you use fertility methods.  And the numbers increase with age. The majority of miscarriages cannot be prevented.  80 % happen in the first trimester. Many women miscarry more than once in there life. About 1 in 36 women will have two miscarriages due to nothing more than chance.  Most often they are unpreventable , and no cause is found.  ***Having a miscarriage does not affect your ability to carry a baby to term in the future.
Basically a fetilized egg simply fails to develop for unknown reasons.  Most of the time, for no reason other than bad luck, some chromosomal or genetic info is lost during conception.  When the needed genetic info is not there at the developmental point when the fetus needs it to continue growing the fetus dies, and you will miscarry. The book was written by a mother daughter team along with a bunch of Dr.s and I recently bought it at Barnes and Nobel.  Its called Great Expectations -your all in one resource for pregnancy and childbirth.  Sandy Jones and Marcie Jones are the main authors.  Its really been quite helpful to me.  There are a million books out there that can help.  For me educating myself and looking for answers wherever I can has been a big help.  It makes me feel that I am at least doing something!!! Especially when I feel like my body is working against me.  I know the wait is the worst everything with this whole process is testing and waiting- hoping for the best and preparing for the worst.  And even then everything is such a gray area. Not alot of black and white. Different things help for different people.  It sounds silly but for me learning what I can, keeping busy and taking care of my dog has really helped me ( he doesn't have a clue what I am going through and still needs me) .  I've cried my share of tears believe me.... but if this is a process that I may go through again and again and in the end result there is a baby I am willing to take that chance. I will keep you in my thoughts tomorrow and hope that many of your questions get answered to ease your mind.  You've been a big help to me getting through this weekend !!!   Thank you!!

[WanaBabi]

OMG....Anya I just read what happened...Are u okay?  It seemed like I had just spoken with you an everything was great.  Did they say why?  If you need any answers I can help you I work at a OB office and we specialize in stuff like that....OMG...I am so sorry..just let me know if I can help you.....just let me know.  I'll be praying for you.

[Anya1984]

Wow, you were so brave to have the procedure done in the office? Isn't that very painful though? did you feel anything, did they give you local anastesia?> I think I would like to sleep for that...as lons as I don't feel too bad afterwords....
Thank you for support!

[Anya1984]

So Jen, how are you? Were you able to get pregnant again after your m/cs? Im just so scared that it will happen over and over and I just really don't want this..It was such an ordeal to get preggo in the first plac,e you know?!

[Anya1984]

yes, it seems like your book really helps you ....it is great statistics, but I would really not want to have another m/c, it could kill me :( I was not able to work today, i cried all morning and then I left  to go home...I couldn't work anylonger...Im so heartbroken...although I am hoping for the best, Im really preparing for the worst..
right now i need my mind somewhere else but it is very hard.....Thank you for your support....I just want this d&c done to me asap so I can move on with my life and start trying again as soon as I can....my sis in law just had a baby and it is painful for me to not be able having my own.....
I wish this is my last m/c...I also wish you the best with your problems!! I wish all of us to have children!!

[jen023]

Hi Anya - I do know... it's so hard and then to lose it after all you go through... I haven't gotten pregnant after my m/c's... but I think the reason I had two is because I had a doctor that didn't follow up on anythng, didn't want to run any tests or anything. If he would have, maybe the second one could have been avoided. I had low progesterone and also a slight blood clotting disorder.. there is no way I can know for sure if that's what caused the m/cs, but I'm sure it didn't help. Anyway, I assume you've had the normal blood tests run since you've been ttc for awhile - that's how I found out I had these problems. I'm sure you will be fine... and will be able to have a normal healthy pregnancy very soon. I know how scary it can be - I feel the same way... even if I do get pg again, I will be scared to death to lose it again... but else can we do, right? Like tamjun03 said, the end result will all be worth what we all go through... hang in there... I'm praying for you! ((HUGS))

[Anya1984]

Hi Jen, thank you...
I came back from doc and we will schedule a d&c procedure either this week or next week...after that, my doc says that my hcg level should go down to 0, so we will not even consider a possiblity of trying again until July....that seems like a LIFETIME!!!!!! :(
But I got to go through with this somehow....he says that the chances to get another m/c are slim, 20%.....not slim to me but I hope that my next pregnancy will go healthy!!!!
Good luck to you too!!!!!!!!

[mommyin10]

I just saw your post !  I'm sooo sorry for you !  :(  I don't have any advice for you, just wanted to let you know I feel for you & although you're obviously saddened, you still sound positive, which is great :)  I'll be thinking of you.
Take care !

[Anya1984]

Thank you....I was actually very depressed for a few days, but its time for me to move on, you know? I need a d&c scheduled and then prepare my body for a second round to get preggo......God I wish this time comes fast and I will get pregnant soon!!!

[Kat0513]

I just saw you post I am soooo sorry.  I know exactly what you are going through and how you are feeling.
I had DNC 16 weeks due to a missed miscarriage.  My second pregnancy, I found at a 10 week u\s that my baby died at 8 weeks and decided to miscarry that one naturally.  I had more peace with that for some reason.  Hang in there and if you ever need anyone to talk to, I'm here.

[mommyin10]

Hi.  I'm glad you're doing okay, and I wish you peace & comfort while you prepare to start ttc again.  Keep in touch & take care :)

[tamjun03]

Had the d&c this am.  I was out the whole time don't remember a thing.  I am very happy with my choice.  I slept most of the day.  Slight cramping and light bleeding ( I haven't even taken anything for pain.)  You're right I think it is the quickest way to get back ttc.  Good Luck with everything!!  

[maybebaby29]

I'm so sorry about the news. I saw a mention in one of the other boards you replied to. Good luck, take care, and many good thoughts to you.

[Anya1984]

im going to have d&c tomorrow..Im soooooo scared...I can't eat, sleep or work :(

[maybebaby29]

It will be ok. Try to take it easy. Maybe you can ask for a mild valium or something for today? this way you can take it when you get home.

Wishing you all the best. :(

[rene67]

Don't worry, you will be just fine.  I know its hard to relax, but honestly it is a physically very easy procedure.  Since you will be under, you won't know anything until you wake up.  They will give you crackers/juice after you awake and monitor you for awhile until you seem OK to go home (mostly so the anesthesia wears off).  

The hardest part for me was just waiting around before and after the procedure, I really just wanted it over.  The procedure itself is very quick.

Someone will be picking you up, right?  You will just be a bit woozy afterwards.

The in-office procedure was not painful, they gave me valium before and local anesthesia during.  It felt light strong menstrual cramps, but only temporary and went away right after.  But sounds like general anesthesia might be best in your case.

[Anya1984]

Hi, my hubby will drive me there and pick me up...I know that the harderst time for me will be preparation time before the procedure, they want me there 1.5 hours before!!!!!
What is valium? they will give me light anasthesia but I usually don't take it very good afterwards....
When did you have crramps? When and how did they dialate your cervix? That's just sooo scary...even if I am out, I just can't stand the thought that they will be inside of me scraping my baby away..:(

[maybebaby29]

Valium is an oral sedative. It takes the edge off and sometimes makes your sleepy. It's different than anesthesia.

When I had my sinus surgery I told them I was petrified of surgery so they put it in my IV before the surgery. It made such a difference. While I was nervous, it didn't make me a hysterical mess and calmed me down. I literally walked into the surgery room and laid on the table and then they started the real anesthesia and I was out.

When I had my HSG, I asked for valium before hand. I took it an hour before the HSG. Again, it took the edge off. I'm terrified of needles, procedures so if I didn't have it, I would have been a hysterical mess and would have walked out before it was done.

While it's very hard, you can't think of it as scraping your baby away. Sometimes the body knows what is the right thing to do. It will work out for you.

[shayla1]

SOOO sorry.  Go the D&C route....you never know when the miscarriage will start.  My friend had a m/c...she chose to go natural...nothing started for 4 full weeks.
   I found out at 10 weeks I m/c...baby stopped growing at 6 weeks but I had no signs.  D&C is the way to go.
   I completely understand your pain and it really really sucks.

[Anya1984]

Thank you!
When I had my HCG done they didn't give me ANYTHINg, I was a mess, I cried and screamed cuz it was SOOOO painful!!!!I kdon't know , I hate this kind of things.....

So Im off to a d&c procedure today in 5 hours, I couldn't sleep last night, very hungry and very nervous....:(
I hope it goes welll....

[Anya1984]

Yes, it is very painful to know that my baby stopped growing and end of story......
Also Im very freaked out about the whole procedure thing.....its just so unnatural...
anyway, I will have it today so wish me luck :(

[maybebaby29]

Well for HSG they usually don't give you anything. They rely on you to take your ibuprofin before hand. I asked for the valium because when I told my doc "you know, I"ll probably kick you out of nervousness." he goes "ok one valium coming up". It only took the edge off my nerves. It wasn't anesthesia or pain meds.

[Anya1984]

Oh, I see...
Yeah, HSG was horrible experience and I just hope that d&c is a lil better.....I just feel humiliated...

[alikat1205]

Im so sorry.  There is nothing to be humiliated about.  You didnt do anything wrong.  

[Anya1984]

I know..but I can't help how I feel..its because I hate having anything done down there....and picturing this procedure makes me sick and humiliated..
sorry I ve been very emotional lately....:(

[alikat1205]

I do understand that.  I had two natural m/c and two d/c for non m/c reasons.  And it is alot to think about.  But everyone's getting that view when you have a baby, so you're getting over that modesty now!  Really, I spent alot of time horrified over the visual, don't do it to yourself.  It's medical, they're there to take care of you.  This is one step towards your goal try to think of it that way (not easy I know).  Now you can heal, and grieve this baby, and now you will have an angel to watch over you.  That is how I think about it.  I even bought a little baby angel statue, it is a newborn baby angel sleeping with its wings tucked around it, and I wrote the date of my miscarriages on the bottom and it is a reminder of the angel babies I have watching over me.  

[alikat1205]

One more thing, being sad is normal and you should allow yourself to feel that, but don't beat yourself up about the procedure too.

[Anya1984]

Thank you
I was not only sad, I was depressed in hysteria for 5 days before I let go the fact that Im not going to have this baby....now I just want it over so I can start over....
How are you in your treatment?
You had 2 m/c, were you able to get pregnant asap after your first m/c?
Gosh, I feel so sorry for all those ladies who had to go through with m/c more than 1 time....its heartbreaking!!!!!!!

[alikat1205]

I got pg four months after my first m/c.  :)  Best of luck.  I am BFP!!!!!!!!  You'll get there, you will.

[Anya1984]

WOW!! You are!! Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Im very happy for you, please keep me posted!

[eternidad200]

I am so sorry this happened to you.

[Anya1984]

Hello everyone!
My procedure went OK, thanks for the support.
My only problem is now that it has been 2 days since ,no spotting no pain, and only today I am experiencing horrible severe cramps!!
Does anyone know why and what I should do?!

[rene67]

Glad everything went OK.  I think cramps can be normal even a few days later.  

Maybe take some Motrin and see if they subside. If not, call your doctor. If they are really severe, maybe just call you doctor now.

[Anya1984]

Thank you, my nurse said that my cervix is closing and that's why i have such horrible cramps....I hope it goes away soon..I think I also have a fever cuz I feel very weak and just horrible..
I wish I can go home now but I have a meeting soon and have so much work to do :(

[alikat1205]

If you have a fever, it is VERY important to let your doctor know.  Cramps are normal (did they give you some pain meds?) but fever is NOT, it can signal an infection.  Take your temp and call them back if it is over 99!

[Anya1984]

Yes, I will do so. but im at work and there is no thermometr here...I feel hot but my body isn't hot. maybe it is just super hot in the office....in any event, i just feel fatige and my doc says its normal, I need to rest...and of course I can't :(
So how are you feeling? How many weeks are you now?

[rene67]

Right, fever is not good, could be sign of infection.  Are you taking antibiotics?

http://www.emedicinehealth.com/dilation_and_curettage_dandc/page6_em.htm

[Anya1984]

I think I am just hot...cuz my forehead is not that hot :) anyway, I feel like **** :(
Yeah, I took doxycycle for infection, for  3 days as prescribed.

[Heather5]

Hi Anya! I'm glad the procedure and everything went OK, but I'm sorry you're not feeling to good. I think it is normal to be a little under the weather for a few days after, though, but like the others are saying, take your temperature when you get home...just in case.

I hope you feel better soon!

[Anya1984]

Yes, thank you. Im expecting to spotting soon I guess, many girls say they started to spot later...Im still not spotting...
Anyway, I nearly died there after the procedure because of the anasthesia ..I stopped breathing and docs were fighting for my life.. :) but Thank God, I am ok now.
Docs say that the dosage was too big for my tiny body :(
anyway, I m just trying to move on ...and I really hope to start trying again soon!

[maybebaby29]

Jeese louis, what kind of docs are you going to if they gave you too much dosage? I mean, come on. Seriously investigate that anesthesiologist. This shouldn't be rocket science to them. Makes me so mad.

Good luck with everything.

[rene67]

Gosh, I'm sorry.  Wow, that is pretty insane.  I recall you said you've had bad reactions to anesthesia before, didn't they know that?  Did they just give you the heaviest dose?  Last time I had it the anesthesiologist made a point of telling me it would a "light" one, particularly since the procedure is not long.  And I am petite too.  

I'm glad you are recovering OK though, but maybe change docs once you ready to TTC again.

[Anya1984]

I believe the dosage was right for my body and height/weight but what they didn't know is that I didn't tolarate even that dosage so I just stopped breathing....in any event, I am fine now and when I asked my nurse today about it , she got irritated with me, kinda saying that it was normal....hm....
I like my doc and my nurse so im not going to make a stink about it..
All I want is to get preggo again and GOD PLEASE, don't make me have another m/c!!
Thank you!

[mommyof3andhopefully4]

So glad to hear you are ok and bouncing back.....hang in there and let me know if you need anything!!