Ectopic and miscarriages

[JennyMae86]

I had an ectopic pregnancy in may, one of my tubes had to be removed. I thought I had miscarried because I started my period after a positive test. We waited the 2 months and started to try again. Another positive test, today my cycle started. This is all to emotional for us. I will be seeing a doctor soon to determine if another ectopic or a miscarriage. We want children, but the ups and downs of pregnant and loss are overpowering. We are in our 30s active and healthy, but time is running out, but how much more can we go through and not fall apart. Today I realized I need counseling for all this sadness, and am concerned I might not be mentally fit to be a parent.
I really just want to hear positive stories of conceiving after multiple miscarriages and an ectopic. I only have one tube and I can't afford to lose another one. Thanks

[nuggybuggy]

I have had two eptopic pregnancy with in a year of each other. I have one tube and was told by the Dr I would have to have ivf in order to have a healthy baby. I can carry just not safe to conceive on my own. I still have days when I suffer from the pain, jealousy, hurt,ect. But I also know that everything happens for a reason even when we can't understand why.  I can't afford ivf so I put my faith in God and pray for a little bundle of joy everyday. I hope everything works out for you. God bless you and your family.

[JennyMae86]

Tausha I am sorry I didn't respond sooner. I hope all is well, and you have had a great summer.
Our ectopic pregnancy has me wanting to talk, but not wanting to expose myself to friends and family. I am vulnerable, but don't want to appear that way. We are trying to conceive, and the emotions surrounding our venture are confusing, sorrowful, hopeful, jealous, happy, ashamed, and anxious.
I am finally mourning our loss. But I took too much time, everyone else has mourned and started to rebuild. I just kept going and stayed strong for everyone else, and now I can feel again. Of course we started trying as soon as the doctor said ok, because that's what we want, a family. I am scared, I am scared of loss. But I am also hopeful, that we can have a family, that so many couples so easily come by. Then my jealousy sets in, why not us? Why do others make it look so easy? Don't they see how hard it is for us, and what it's doing to me emotional and unfortunately spiritually.
There is just so much to process. If I do conceive the fear of another ectopic! The fear of a miscarriage! I am 2 days late, the fear is here. Also I cannot let myself dream, as I once did, of making another human part me and part my man. I have to stay neutral. Guess I will distract myself and go to the barn and play with the goats, they are good at distractions.
P.S. I got back into goats 1 week after surgery. I bought a doe who kidded a month after she moved to our farm. We started bottle feeding goats and calves. I guess that busy farm life kept my mind off my sadness. Now it's becoming fall and I have too much time to think.

[tasha0918]

I got the OK to try again in April, but so far no pregnancies at all. I am temping and got myself an monitor to help track my O because I have only one working tube and I can't miss my chance. It has been a hard and emotional road, but if I can do it and make it so can you. I'm here if you need to talk

[tasha0918]

I know how you feel I had an ectopic last year in Nov. I didn't have to loss a tube because I caught it in time and it was really hard for me to deal with it because it was our first and we were really excited about it and three days later I was told I had to terminate it. It was horrible. I got really depressed for awhile and what helped me was the ladies here letting me get my feelings out and supporting me.