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FIRST FAILED IUI

I just had my first IUI earlier this month well today I started my period. I am so depressed I almost just want to give up. Can anyone tell me if they have gone through this and how they dealt with it any comments would help. And could anyone tell me what IUI with injectibles is they gave me a hcg shot but I heard they can do other things with IUI other than that anything any one could tell me wouldnt hurt at this point.                  thanks and good luck to you all.
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I did my 1st IUI 4 years ago. I was blessed that it worked the first time. I have a 3 year old daughter, now we are trying for number 2 and the IUI didn't take...2 days before my 2 week mark.... I'm really sad... but I'm willing to try this again. Just have to be positive, If not I will give up.

Thanks for reading  
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I did my 1st IUI and its fail...I'm so depressed and I'm crying the whole day. Just wondering how some ladies can conceive so easily... And why its so hard for me.....
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i am also new to this site i also on first iui have blood test in few day i am staying postive ,been trying for 7 years ,dont give up i know it gets hard but you got to keep getting back up i belive it will happen its just not now .wishing all you ladies the best and your dreams of been a mom come true
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I did IUI and took pregnancy test like dr told me to on Monday and it came back nagative i still haven't started my period yet and it is now Wednesday. How long for some of you did it take for you to start after you tested?
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I did IUI and took pregnancy test like dr told me to on Monday and it came back nagative i still haven't started my period yet and it is now Wednesday. How long for some of you did it take for you to start after you tested?
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Iui is sooo stressful.amazes me how anyone can get pg under such stress. I swore i wouldnt do that to myself and the day after iui the obsessing started.Mine failed first try.taking a month off due 2 cysts from clomid:(
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1882836 tn?1324024086
So sorry to hear... I know the feeling of being sure an IUI worked only to find that it did not. But keep positive, it will happen.. you just can't always predict when. And that is the difficult part. Wishing you strength and good luck in Feb.
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well sad to say that i have my 1st failed IUI ds month  i really taught thaT im pregnant den when im ready to test if im pregnant den der my blood is coming ....so sadddd.any suggestion what to do to make the sperm count high my husband has very low sperm last month coz his sick for two wks so the dr.just gamble and inject me w/his sperm.maybe ds feb.we gonna go back to the dr.wish me luck...
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1882836 tn?1324024086
That's wonderful news!! So happy for you!!

We did get a positve blood test result btw!! Phew!! I think I had decided not to let doubt creep in, but my husband was doing his nut!! (I think it's harder for the men becuase they don't really know what is happening to our bodies: they only know what we/the doc tell them. Poor things. But he doesn't have sore breasts, headaches on and off, hearburn and weird tiredness, now does he?).

My progesterone levels were within the normal range, but on the lower end, so tha doc has put me onto a VERY expensive supplement (which I am going to have to try to get the medical aid to pay for!!) 1st Scan on Thurs/Fri next week!! So excited.
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1422615 tn?1334064234
Don't let the doubt get u . I am sure you will get that hone call today with the results. i bet your numbers are high.  i cant wait to hear about the scan.

They put me on bcps this month because they found a cyst. I feel like i went back wards.  although we did sign the adoption papers yesterday. I am beyond excited about that.
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1882836 tn?1324024086
Thanks for putting my mind at rest!!
Well, We went to the doc/fertility doc today and he insisted on another blood test to confirm the pg and test my progesterone levels. I was so mad at him!! Irrationally so, I suppose (maybe it's already the crazy hormones talking?) but I just felt that he was doubting me and what if by some crazy fluke, the test comes back negative??! I couldn't cope with that!!

And then because tomorrow is the start of a long weekend, the bloodwork had to be sent to an external lab and we have to wait until tomorrow for the results!!Talk about going through Helll!! But I still have symptoms (feel asleep like the dead 2x today-I never sleep during the day unless I'm sick (or pg, I guess) so i won't let doubt creep in!
1st scan next week at 6 weeks like u said!! :-)
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1422615 tn?1334064234
Girl i am so excited for u!!! I pray u have a happy healthy pregnancy.!!! Have u call your re/ fertility dr. yet? they will do blood test to check your actual levels. and then set up ultra sound. They will do one earlier then if u just go to a normal ob.  They give u one at 6 weeks.  That would be in 4 days.
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1882836 tn?1324024086
Thanks for all the comments!! I took the plunge last night and took a home PG test, well, 3 actually!! ALL POSITIVE!!!!!!

I am so overwhelmed and happy! Puzzled too as my doc, when she did the blood tests said they can detect a pregnancy 48hrs after conception!! Could not understand this as I understand they measure HGH and there can't be any until implantation, so??? She caused us some stress, but in the long run, she may have done me a favour because after I got the negative blood test result, I could relax and let go of it. And badda-bing, we are pregnant!! Grinning form ear to ear!!

Best wishes to all who are trying to conceive!!
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1422615 tn?1334064234
Baby in progress. a blood test will not show ujp + until after the baby implants and starts making hcg. that usally starts around day 8-10 for implantion and then add 24 hours for for your body to start producing it so u are looking at day 9-12 before u would get any hcg and if it is below 5 they still say neg so then add another day 10-12 days after ovulation with blood test at the earliest some people implant late and then  dont get bfp until 15-20 with blood test or hpt.  With u being 8 days late now 9 then i would say u r ok to test. it seems that u have a good chance of seeing a bfp!!!! I know it is hard to take one after seeing so many bfn;s but it is the only way u will know.  plus then your re will do blood work to see how high it is and if it is doubling. then u will get an us.  believe it our not u are only about a week away from the 1st us.  if it is a bfp!!! I am praying u get good news. Let us know!!!!
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1882836 tn?1324024086
Thanks to everyone who responded
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It's a strange comfort to know we are not alone (and yet it isn't). It is startling to hear how many couples are sturggling to conceive!! And to hear how much stress and dissappoinment is out there. I hardly know what to write and how to respond. I just feel like crying for all of us.

I posted another comment earleir today in a sperate post about how we failed in our 2 & 3rd IUI. And then are left with a huge conundrum this month: in summary we didn't go back to the fertility doc this month (purely due to work constraints) and tried normally. 1 week after ovulation I was feeling odd: v tired, dizzy and a bit "out of it". I was feeling dizzy and just "weird".  Wasn't sure if it was work stress or what. I thought maybe I was aneamic so I went to see my GP. She ran a whole batch of blood tests, incl a pregnancy test. That would have been exactly 6 days after ovualtion. It came back negative and were not too surprised.

BUT NOW my period is LATE!! About 7-8days late!! My cycle is still regular within a day or 2 and I don't know what to think!!! I can't actually bear doing a home pregnancy test-only to be dissapointed again. I can hardly bear this!
I know blood pregancy tests are supposed to v accurate so how could I be pregnant?? I want this so much that I am scared to have confirmation one way or another.

Could my period be late just due to all the stress (and the added stress iI feel now!!), or am I pregnant, or has something else gone wrong??
I really feel I can't cope sometimes with all of this.

But thank you for this forum !!
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im so down and blue ... my DH and I have done intercourse w/ clomid & letrozole & HCG trigger twice... then ive had an iui beginning of this month.. i got my AF at 17 dpiui ..  my DH had excellent sperm count which was 40mil postwash. I'm really frustrated and starting to hate myself. we've been ttc for so long now and im starting to feel like its really not for me. its hard to think positive when u feel like uve tried everything and nothing just seems to work..
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My husband and I had been trying to get pregnant for a year before we went to a fertility clinic. Turns out I have PCOS. I also have Vaginismus. On top of all the horrific side effects of PCOS (acne, hair loss, weight gain in the abdominal area etc etc etc) it also makes it very difficult to get pregnant. I had my first IUI treatment on 10/31 and was supposed to take a home pregnancy test on 11/14. I woke up to my period yesterday. I don't know how to explain the despair that I felt. I went to work against my better judgement and spent most of the day trying not to cry in front of others. Today I'm working from home and trying to feel hopeful again. The ultrasounds are so uncomfortable for me, as is the actual procedure. I can't even bear the thought of going through it all again. I'm sure that one try isn't a big deal, however, it took me 3 cycles of meds to even get to the point where I could do the procedure. It's exhausting. I can't handle that this is something I can't control. I am doing everything in my power to make it possible...  Just seems unfair I guess. Oh, and on top of that, the abdominal weight gain has led people to ask me if I'm pregnant. Nothing makes you want to die more than a complete stranger asking you if you're pregnant when you're not and it's all that you want to be. It's hard. So hard.
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Hey girls,
I'm joining this community because it feels good to read stories similar to mine, and people who understand exactly what I'm going through. My husband and I tried to get pregnant on our own for 1 year then I went to a fertility doctor. The first month he just put me on Clomid, I had a dye test done (ouch), labs, post coital exams etc.... Didn't work. The 2nd month still Clomid, then IUI that was done at a perfect timing.... That was 2 weeks ago, and I just got my period today....I'm crying nonstop (hormones prob don't help).  I was so sure this time would work, I even had what I thought was implantation cramps and spotting 8 days after the IUI. I know it's only my first IUI but it's the 15th time I get unwanted period and the disappointment that comes with it. And the more I do to get pregnant, the harder it is when it fails... My husband doesn't get it and tells me I put too much pressure on myself. I just don't know how much longer I can take this....
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1422615 tn?1334064234
I will pray for u. I did 4 iui's 2 got me a bfp and two bfn. we are stil trying because i miscarried 3 for sure babies and 2 that could have been chemical.  Sty strong and keep praying about it. there are a lot of groups out there that offer support.
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1882836 tn?1324024086
We tried for 1 year to get pregnant normally. When it didn't happen, we went to see a fertility specialist who said my husband has sperm dysmorphia. It means 40% of his sperm are defromed. Then he said that I have endometriosos and needed a laparoscopy and hysteroscopy. So we did all that and still nothing. Then we tried IUI. The first time (last month), it seems I sufffered a very ealry miscarriage. So we tried again twice (on day 14 and 15) last month. I was so sure we had been successful this time.. we even bought a pregnancy test as I had not started a period by day 15 after the IUI. But the test was negative and my period started the very next day. Iam devastated. This is costing us so much, both financially and emotionally. My husband and I are both 40 and running out of time. My stress levels are so high and I just don't know what to do or think at the moment. Any support would be welcome.
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1422615 tn?1334064234
a sperm count of 15mill is low!!! this is the problem. ur doctor should have told u that .
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Hello everyone I'm a lesbian and I'm 29. I really want a baby so badly so my first Iui wa 2 b2b with 15 million spermies at 55 % mobility. Didn't work at all... All natural no drugs. I'm goin I. For next month again but I'm afraid to try drugs b of multiples babies. Can someone help me?
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Hi, i am new here. I am 26 years old and more than three years of marriage now. I tried iui last june 2, 2011, but unfortunately it didnt work with my femara, progynova and duphaston. i felt disappointed and depressed but of course i still want to be optimistic. now i am on day 2 of period, and i had my bloodtest for fsh lh and proclactin. im hoping my 2nd cycle would give me a positive result.
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Had my first IUI done and failed. I'm sad still but will keep thinking positive. We are going for IUI #2 and will remain hopeful. April is the month of my birthday and it would be a great blessing if I were to conceive in that month.  Lots of Baby Dust to all the ladies!! Keep thinking positive!!
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