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Failed IVF - heartbreaking and very tearful.
My first IVF didn't work. I actually didn't think that this can be so painful and emontionally wreckless. I just hope that my second time will be more successful. I don't even know what is wrong with me, no freaking explanation from the doctors either.
I actually had a blood test yesterday, which was 14 days after ovulation and was negative. I just want to know why am I still having the symptoms. My period is late (but then again it is the progesterone) and I am feeling very shaky and the abdominal pain and pelvic pain is just overbearring. I am also very light headed right now. What is happening, is this a normal reaction after failed IVF, does anyone knows what is going on with me.
I actually had a blood test yesterday, which was 14 days after ovulation and was negative. I just want to know why am I still having the symptoms. My period is late (but then again it is the progesterone) and I am feeling very shaky and the abdominal pain and pelvic pain is just overbearring. I am also very light headed right now. What is happening, is this a normal reaction after failed IVF, does anyone knows what is going on with me.
I have had a total of 6 stimulated cycles and 6 Fets and have 1 baby boy after the 4th stim cycle. I have no known issues, my husband has very low count of 1.2 per mil. I understand the pain this causes, I am still going through it for a 2nd child. I know I have 1 beautiful boy which makes it better but the pain is just as bad trying for no.2. I want so much to give him a sibling, he's already 3 so the age gap is getting bigger if we do concieve again. Life is so unfair, but then I guess things could be worse...that's what pulls me through.
I have had a total of 6 stimulated cycles and 6 Fets and have 1 baby boy after the 4th stim cycle. I have no known issues, my husband has very low count of 1.2 per mil. I understand the pain this causes, I am still going through it for a 2nd child. I know I have 1 beautiful boy which makes it better but the pain is just as bad trying for no.2. I want so much to give him a sibling, he's already 3 so the age gap is getting bigger if we do concieve again. Life is so unfair, but then I guess things could be worse...that's what pulls me through.
Wow to all the listings,it's like looking at our experiences in a mirror. I am 29 and have stage 4 endometriosis with a frozen pelvis.have undergone a laparotomy,2 laparoscopies,4 iui's and as of today 1 failed ivf,all within 4 years.my husband is 32 and his sperm is of super quality.he is extremely supportive,Im stronger when handling the disappointments and together we get each other through.our friends are also excellent stressrelievers.tomorrow we see our doc for a feedback and planning discussion and he will probably suggest GIFT as he assumed beforehand that normal ivf would not work.my husband though said he finds it difficult to see me go for operations.id like a break,but am unsure,cz endo does not take a break.we dont go out much because the comments of colleagues and family are disappointing and of course the finances keep us grounded.some comments include oh you know other people only got kids after 10 years, your case isnt so bad,other people had to get bankloans,you at least dont.you're still young,others arent that lucky and so on and so forth.of all the discussions iv read on the internet this is the one that has run the longest,im definitely signing up.with others you can see its old an not sure if anyone's reading it.
Hi guys I am new to this forum. I just tested negative in my 1st beta test,reaaly feeling sad cause I had high hopes. If I decide to try and conceive naturally after a failed IVF, do I stand a chance of getting pregnant? I am 38yrs old I can't afford a second IVF
I just had my 1 st failed IVf too. I am upset and at this point deciding on what to do next. i am not sure if I want to do IVf again right away or just try IUI next month because my job will get so busy during that time and I dont what my body to be stressed out and waste the time and money if I am not in a stable state. It is definitely a tough situation and I am considering canceling my facebook as everyone has pictures of their children on their and I really find it upsetting after attempting this pregnancy. I do know that friends of friends have had to try a few times and it has worked for them. However, needless to say a very emotional rollercoaster. I wish you the best with yours. My mom had the best advice when I spoke to her before she passed...Sometimes you have to give it up to GOD. It is something I tell myself for comfort. I hope it brings comfort to you as well.
Had my first round of IVF this month (July). None of our fertilized eggs (8) qualified to be cryopreserved and I did not get pregnant with the two eggs we transferred. Ugh. This is very devastating. Just found this forum and am thankful to everyone sharing their stories. Does the sadness ever go away?! I stopped my Progesterone injections and am about to start birth control again. We meet the doctors in two weeks to discuss the next step. We want to do IVF again, but I can not imagine how upsetting it would be if it failed again. I know I have to do this if I want a child, but the thought of another failure scares me so much!
Hello Ria. I totally understand you and feel the same. I had a failed IVF and now I am waiting for the results of the second one. Friends say be positive, but that is just a word. I dont want to think about it and keep myself busy. I dont know, just pray for the best. take care
Mine came back negative as well today. I am at work and don't know how to deal with it as I am still cramping and was told to continue the meds and re-test in 2 days time or until my period comes, which ever happens sooner. My heart is very heavy.
I just had my thiird failed ivf today, been married for 13 years, had 4 ectopic pregnancy and 3 failed ivf. i am truly devastated. had 10 eggs retreived, only two were transfer on day two. my doctor decide to go on vaccation and didn't attend the retreival and the transfer. all my sibling have children, was so sure this would work but i cannot afford it anymore. it is ver expensive here in the USA, waiting on my husband to come home to get the bad news, my birthday was yesterday, turn 41 and today is my niece birthday, she is turning one. have no strengh to go to the party and see my all family. i am so ashamed to be such a failure
Yesterday April 1, 2013 I got the news my first ivf was negative ever since I got the news I have been crying one thing that hurts the most is I work at a childcare center and not sure how it is going to affect me.
I hope it works out for all of us. My first ivf failed. I just had 2 frozen embryos transfered and is waiting for my blood test. I have so many abdominal pains. It's so difficult with all tgrse symptoms. I wish we all didn't have to go through this. Good luck everyone x
After 6 failerd rounds of IUI, I just had my first IVF round. It failed. Just got the news yesterday. I never thought I would be this devastated. Everything was so great, I had great blasts, they retrieved 8 eggs, 5 got fertilized, three implanted and one frozen. I am 40 and have been trying to get pregnant for 8 years. Just can't stop crying right now. Here in the US, each round is $13,000 meds included. How often we will be able to afford this I don't know. Maybe another two times, but then it's definitely over... gosh, just can't stop to crying right now. The joke is: I am originally from Europe, moved here 3 years ago. If we stayed there, we would pay like 2,000 EUR per round and the first two are free...
My first IVF failed. I had fresh donor egg transfer. Private treatment (UK).
Two were transferred. Beta was 3 on Wed 2nd Jan 2012. I've stopped the oestrogen and progesterone. Waiting for bleed to start. Been told it can take 3-5 days, depending on how long drugs get out of my system.
Emotionally I've cried a lot, screamed a lot at my husband who screamed back! There's no aftercare from the medical team. I've had to find all the information on the net.
My plan is to drink plenty water to flush these synthetic hormones out of my body before they cause me more harm. They all have a cancer risk. Then I'm going to wait for a bleed, and then have my uterus and cervix checked to make sure it's not been traumatised by the drugs and transfer technique.
And i will get some counselling to recover. I'm not having anymore treatment. I blame everyone - the donor egg, my husband, the Guys ACU team & Dr & ivf nurses. The worst clinic team in my experience. Poor communication, lack of empathy and understanding, poor information giving, kept losing my results, and never having any time during consultations even when we were paying for each bloody consultation!!
I'm getting on with my life. At age 40 I'm not prepared to pump more hormones into my body. Good luck to everyone else, but I'm off the ivf treadmill. It's soul destroying.
Two were transferred. Beta was 3 on Wed 2nd Jan 2012. I've stopped the oestrogen and progesterone. Waiting for bleed to start. Been told it can take 3-5 days, depending on how long drugs get out of my system.
Emotionally I've cried a lot, screamed a lot at my husband who screamed back! There's no aftercare from the medical team. I've had to find all the information on the net.
My plan is to drink plenty water to flush these synthetic hormones out of my body before they cause me more harm. They all have a cancer risk. Then I'm going to wait for a bleed, and then have my uterus and cervix checked to make sure it's not been traumatised by the drugs and transfer technique.
And i will get some counselling to recover. I'm not having anymore treatment. I blame everyone - the donor egg, my husband, the Guys ACU team & Dr & ivf nurses. The worst clinic team in my experience. Poor communication, lack of empathy and understanding, poor information giving, kept losing my results, and never having any time during consultations even when we were paying for each bloody consultation!!
I'm getting on with my life. At age 40 I'm not prepared to pump more hormones into my body. Good luck to everyone else, but I'm off the ivf treadmill. It's soul destroying.
My first IVF failed. I had fresh donor egg transfer. Private treatment (UK).
Two were transferred. Beta was 3 on Wed 2nd Jan 2012. I've stopped the oestrogen and progesterone. Waiting for bleed to start. Been told it can take 3-5 days, depending on how long drugs get out of my system.
Emotionally I've cried a lot, screamed a lot at my husband who screamed back! There's no aftercare from the medical team. I've had to find all the information on the net.
My plan is to drink plenty water to flush these synthetic hormones out of my body before they cause me more harm. They all have a cancer risk. Then I'm going to wait for a bleed, and then have my uterus and cervix checked to make sure it's not been traumatised by the drugs and transfer technique.
And i will get some counselling to recover. I'm not having anymore treatment. I blame everyone - the donor egg, my husband, the Guys ACU team & Dr & ivf nurses. The worst clinic team in my experience. Poor communication, lack of empathy and understanding, poor information giving, kept losing my results, and never having any time during consultations even when we were paying for each bloody consultation!!
I'm getting on with my life. At age 40 I'm not prepared to pump more hormones into my body. Good luck to everyone else, but I'm off the ivf treadmill. It's soul destroying.
Two were transferred. Beta was 3 on Wed 2nd Jan 2012. I've stopped the oestrogen and progesterone. Waiting for bleed to start. Been told it can take 3-5 days, depending on how long drugs get out of my system.
Emotionally I've cried a lot, screamed a lot at my husband who screamed back! There's no aftercare from the medical team. I've had to find all the information on the net.
My plan is to drink plenty water to flush these synthetic hormones out of my body before they cause me more harm. They all have a cancer risk. Then I'm going to wait for a bleed, and then have my uterus and cervix checked to make sure it's not been traumatised by the drugs and transfer technique.
And i will get some counselling to recover. I'm not having anymore treatment. I blame everyone - the donor egg, my husband, the Guys ACU team & Dr & ivf nurses. The worst clinic team in my experience. Poor communication, lack of empathy and understanding, poor information giving, kept losing my results, and never having any time during consultations even when we were paying for each bloody consultation!!
I'm getting on with my life. At age 40 I'm not prepared to pump more hormones into my body. Good luck to everyone else, but I'm off the ivf treadmill. It's soul destroying.
I hope you have achieved what you wished for!
Will turn 39 in 2 days, first ivf failed yesterday and stared a heavy period with cramps and pain.
Everything is normal so far per nurses and doctors...thus, it really makes me to doubt my luck, faith, health, my gene, personality and life style...heavy guilt is left for me now...I don't deny God's roll here, but i am asking please have mercy on women who failed ivf cycles and hoped to try again...oh my God....please...it's so hurting...
If I could believe the odds of pregnancy per doctors, how come I cannot hear nor believe God's voice on this?
Will turn 39 in 2 days, first ivf failed yesterday and stared a heavy period with cramps and pain.
Everything is normal so far per nurses and doctors...thus, it really makes me to doubt my luck, faith, health, my gene, personality and life style...heavy guilt is left for me now...I don't deny God's roll here, but i am asking please have mercy on women who failed ivf cycles and hoped to try again...oh my God....please...it's so hurting...
If I could believe the odds of pregnancy per doctors, how come I cannot hear nor believe God's voice on this?
This was my first IVF and I am 44 years on as of 9/20. I had 4 embryos fertilized and all 4 transferred because of my age and yet... I feel like I will never have children and that I am a failure, but the one thing that has helped me is knowing that I am not alone and reading all the stories that offer positive energy.
I can only affor one more try so I believe I am going to go for it and if that doesn't work, who knows, I may become the next Angeline Jolie and adopt (which was always my plan B).
Good luck everyone and keep posting..
I can only affor one more try so I believe I am going to go for it and if that doesn't work, who knows, I may become the next Angeline Jolie and adopt (which was always my plan B).
Good luck everyone and keep posting..
Wow, thanks for that story. I, too, just had a failed ivf and I feel physically and emotionally awful. I have mild PCOS, but have known so many women wwith PCOS who did not even need fertility treatments.
And before that, I was dealing with regrets I had in my life. At least I do not feel that way anymore. I began to think what the purpose of life is and that is to experience stuff. Really. That is all it is.
But thank you so much for this story. I feel a little better now.
And before that, I was dealing with regrets I had in my life. At least I do not feel that way anymore. I began to think what the purpose of life is and that is to experience stuff. Really. That is all it is.
But thank you so much for this story. I feel a little better now.
It hurts.no one can understand what it does to you to have hope taken away. I am in my mid-40s. I am afraid my dream will never come true.My relationship, body and emotions have sufferd but i would risk it all knowingly for it to work out.I hate to admit it but all the kids around and friends who talk of nothing else are making me sad and mad. I feel like half a woman. Disappointment is suffocating me and oddly enough i thought that i was prepared for it- but guess not.
Hi Ladies,
I am in tears reading all of your stories. Just like mine. I am sad to hear that so many women go through this. I found out today that my fifth IVF didn't work. Had five egg and four fertilized 8,7,6,5 cell at day three. I am going to Cornell in NYC. I've done two ivf's with them - September 2011 and July 2012. I also had a laparscopy done after the failed IVF in 2011. I was diagnosed with stage 2 endometriosis - behind the uterus and on my colon. But my RE doesn't think its the main issue. After this IVF failed they now think i have implantation issues in the uterus. Arghh. I guess the next step is to do more testing in uterus such as a biopsy and possibly a scraping. I had a termination when I was 17 and i've never been able to get pregnant but I also never tried until i turned 35. I am now 38 almost 39 and time is ticking. I had to pay the last two cycles at Cornell out of pocket since i have no more fertility coverage. I am not going to give up on having a biological child. I have at least another year to try. But it really is extremely hard to deal with. I'm looking into some remedies and going to acupuncture. Need to boost of my supplements a bit and currently take fertilaid for woman.
I'm so happy i found this board. Baby dust to all. Thank you for your comfort.
Kath
I am in tears reading all of your stories. Just like mine. I am sad to hear that so many women go through this. I found out today that my fifth IVF didn't work. Had five egg and four fertilized 8,7,6,5 cell at day three. I am going to Cornell in NYC. I've done two ivf's with them - September 2011 and July 2012. I also had a laparscopy done after the failed IVF in 2011. I was diagnosed with stage 2 endometriosis - behind the uterus and on my colon. But my RE doesn't think its the main issue. After this IVF failed they now think i have implantation issues in the uterus. Arghh. I guess the next step is to do more testing in uterus such as a biopsy and possibly a scraping. I had a termination when I was 17 and i've never been able to get pregnant but I also never tried until i turned 35. I am now 38 almost 39 and time is ticking. I had to pay the last two cycles at Cornell out of pocket since i have no more fertility coverage. I am not going to give up on having a biological child. I have at least another year to try. But it really is extremely hard to deal with. I'm looking into some remedies and going to acupuncture. Need to boost of my supplements a bit and currently take fertilaid for woman.
I'm so happy i found this board. Baby dust to all. Thank you for your comfort.
Kath
Hi Sophia,
don´t worry!!! I am 43, I just had my first IVF - failed. It is disapointing, sad, and whatever negative feeling else, but keep your hope!!! Show must go on, don´t give up, so let´s go for next!!! Good Luck. Pau
don´t worry!!! I am 43, I just had my first IVF - failed. It is disapointing, sad, and whatever negative feeling else, but keep your hope!!! Show must go on, don´t give up, so let´s go for next!!! Good Luck. Pau
Hi, I have just had a first failed IVF- got the beta results on 16th May- it is very devastating- I am 33 and DH is 42- perfectly normal and healthy and already have a beautiful 5 year old daughter conceived naturally and from the first attempt- i so want to giver her a sibling- I am soo sad and disappointed- everything went well- then why did it fail? What kills me is the uncertainty- not knowing if I will veeyr be rpegnant again or not- this is something I have completely no control over- i cry and i cry- I ams inking into depression.
Hi! I'm a woman of 37years and had first IVF in April. It was a failed one :( :( ..... nobody seems to understand the pain I'm going through. To make things worse I have been blamed for the failed cycle. Icried and cried and cried... felt like ending my life....I am still very depressed. I don't know what to do next...too tired of medicines, visiting doc's office....and listening to people blaming me.......I just want to ask God that "is it a crime to want to be a mother?"
well i am a woman who us did her 1st ivf cycle on 4/11/2012 that was day of my embryo transfer and i got a call saying that i was pregnant on 4/18/2012 but my hcg was low and if they don't come up i my miscarry and on 4/20/2012 i got a call saying that my numbers went down and that i am no long pregnant i tired so hard to hold back the tears but i just couldn't and to find out that my 1st ivf cycle has failed has really done something to me.. I must say i am so heartbroken all i do is cry and wonder what went wrong i sometime think that God has let me down. Ireally don't know what to do anymore
I'm so sorry <3 Life is hard sometimes and not fair! Nothing will help except time and the love and undersanding of your friends and family! I would say keep trying that is a personal choice and IVF is very trying and expensive, but do keep you head up! I've hear of women getting pregnant after 10 IVF's have you thought about or tried donor eggs? Do you take asprin? That is supposed to help with attachment and implantation..? Take care <3
~Wendy
~Wendy
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