HCG Back - What is next?

I just got the results of my second beta.  On Friday, it was only 26, but now, it is negative for sure.
At least I know.

It is just so hard to believe this is happening. I'm 41, and this makes 4 times that I've been pregnant, with nothing to show for it. My doctor seems to think that it is due to my age and my egg quality.  He is recommending donor eggs. What do you all think?  Has anyone done donor eggs with success?  That may be my best option for now.

[SoCalTricia]

I would guess it's more egg quality than age. If that is the case, donor eggs are definately an option. I haven't done it...but there's a poster here who has, and recently got a BFP! (I'm sure she'll read this and share her story.)

I'm so sorry you've had to go through this. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you! :-)

[AndreaG]

Hi Janice!

I am waiting for my beta today..dont feel so good about it right now but maybe I will be pleasantly surprised.

I have no problem with the idea of donor eggs.  I am still hoping I can use my own but of course if for any reason I couldnt (and believe me I've thought long and hard about it), I would 100% use donor eggs.

I live in a big city where a lot of my friends didnt even marry until late 30's or are on second marriages in their 40's and ALL are trying to get pregnant and ALL are considering donor eggs.

In this day and age, why not?  If its important to you to carry and give birth to your own child,  I say go for it, girl.

How does your hubby feel?  In some ways it would be an easier sell than donor sperm...at least it would be for me, I think!

Let me know what you decide to do!

[YvetteY]

Hi Janice...that is what we had to do.  I got pregnant 5 times (after the age of 40) and kept losing them in miscarriage.  I had two chemical pregnancies, once we saw the HB, and the two other times, the hcg would just climb tooo slowly, then it would fizzle out.

We used donor eggs...they transferred two embryos and froze 21.  It worked the first time and if it didn't work the first time then we had 21 to fall back on.  So we had a very good chance at take home baby.   It cost us about $16K and I live in Phx...not sure how much it is in other parts of the country.   I think my clinic charges close to 13K if you use their donor, but we used a donor from X & Y Consulting ... an egg donor agency in Phx.  

I had it will all the miscarriages.  If you have the means to do it, then go for it.   There are many women on this forum who have done this.   Good luck to you!

Also another reason we went this route besides the incidence of high miscarriage was the high incidence of downs syndrome at my age...yikes.    

I know you are going to get posts from a couple women who got pregnant naturaly in their 40s.....Yes I know this can possibly happen.....These women, however, are the EXCEPTION...not the RULE.    I found a good link for the crappy stats of TTC when you're over 40.  I will find it and post it on this thread.

[YvetteY]

Here's that link...http://www.babycentre.co.uk/preconception/activelytrying/forties/

I realize there are just statistics, but you statistics indicate probability and are a general pedictor of outcome.  I am just saying this because there are those who will discount these statistics.    You may be lucky and beat them...it happens.  

[babywanted556]

To JaniceP:  Sorry for the negative.  Please don't give up.  We're here for you.

To YvetteY:  I'm 38 with male factor.  My RE never mention about egg donor, because my good respone, and FSH at day 3 always 7.6-8.  I'm really regular.  However, get pregnant is so hard but to keep the pregnancy is another story.  I start bleeding both at exactly 5 weeks and never see the sac.  My DH is thinking my egg quality, and he's talking about egg donor, but I'm not ready, I want my own.  
How long will need to search the donor matching?  16K is including IVF + egg donor?

[YvetteY]

To babywanted:  38 is still good age for getting pregnant.   I think I would have been successful if started at 38...your fetility just decline so drastically after 40 and 42.  And 40s not as bad as 42.  So at 38 your still in great shape for attaining pregnancy and take home baby.  

Yes...the 16K was what we paid for egg donor agency and fertility clinic. It covered...
Egg donor, egg donor insurance - in case ED had a problem, medications, all the testing, and the egg retrieval, probably the ISCI as we didn't get another fee for that, and the egg cultivation.  

[YvetteY]

To babywanted:    You are still to young for an RE.   You're FSH isn't that bad at day 3....did you ever do the CCT then check your FSH?    

[babywanted556]

sorry, I don't know what's CCT.  After my miscarriage, RE drawned more than 14 blood tubes.  A lot of test came back normal.  I don't know what's wrong with me.  I hate my body, why couldn't I keep the pregnancy.

[YvetteY]

babywanted:  I sent you a PM as I wasn't sure you were coming back to this thread :)....and don't hate your body...this is just mother nature as she intended us to be....we weren't suppose to be having babies in our late 30s and 40s.   Our bodies were evolved to do the majority of our child bearing years in teens and 20s.   Nobody bothered to telll mother nature that we are better now in our late 30s and 40s then we were in our teens and 20s!!   Don't be so hard on yourself.   We are just going against nature by doing what were doing!! LOL!

[wanting4#1]

Yvette - I am curious about why you think that she's too young (at 38) to have an RE?