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How to deal with depression and disappointment?

Ladies....I need help. I'm 28...ttc since 2 years...all our tests are clear and we fall into 'unexplained fertility'....had 2 IUIs...test for pregnancy on 25th....can already feel AF coming :(. I don't know how to deal with this. Am so depressed and gloomy nowadays. Please help!
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Thanks for the support! Its very heartening to know that there is hope :)
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178107 tn?1315947630
I know what your going through.  We went through it for 10 years.  I first had a tubal reversal, after about a year we started with IVF.  We went through 5 cycles which were all unsuccessful.  Talking about an emotional rollercoaster, I couldn't stand to see a pregnant woman or a baby.  It is really hard on marriage.  I had 2 children from a previous marrige but I felt like I was letting my husband down by not being able to give him a child.  He never felt that way, he was always very supportive. Everyone would tell me to relax. but that was impossible, my every thought was consumed with thinking about having a baby.  Finally, I just made my mind up that I had done everything I knew to do and spent over $60,000. try to do it, so I was putting it in God's hands and when or if He wanted me to have a child I would. About eight months had passed and I wasn't even keeping up with my periods anymore.  I thought I had the flu, but the doctor said I was pregnant.  I couldn't believe it.  We had a beautiful baby boy.  Then two years later at age 40 I was pregnant again, this time with a beautiful baby girl.  I have since had a hystorectomy and my baby days are over but my heart goes out to all of you that would give anything for a child, because I was in that same place not that long ago.  I now have two girls 23 and 3 and two boys 20 and 6.  I have two in college and just starting with the other two, but I wouldn't change it for the world. Good luck
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I too fell into the unexplained infertility group. Had all the tests, clomid, laparoscopy's, you name it. After 4 years of that I was exhausted emotionally and physically and couldn't take the stress anymore. After a few months rest I started the adoption process and 9 months later I had a newborn baby boy in my arm. I went on with life raising him but adoption only cures childlessness and does not cure infertility and the desire to experience a pregnancy. Month after month I hoped and prayed for a BFP. Well 16 years after I first started trying I got it. Wasn't even trying..as in, no charting, no drugs, just hope. I went on to have a healthy pregnancy and a full term baby boy. 8 years later, after about 9 m/c I had my daughter. So here I sit at 44 years old with a 23 year year old adopted son, a 10 year old bio son, and a 24 months bio daughter.

The good thing about having unexplained infertility is that they  have not found something wrong and your chances of conceiving are really good. 2 years trying my seem like a lifetime but it could be just bad juck and a bfp could be just around the corner.
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Bless your heart. I am sorry that you are going thru this. I have been TTC since Oct, had my first pg end in m/c. I wish there was something I could say....just know that there are millions of us out here who really know what you're going through, and who care!

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