I lost my baby but will keep trying.....

To all my friends here at Medhelp,

Sorry I have been MIA. The past few months have been so tough for me. I lost my baby end of June. Everything was doing fine 'til one day. We came in for an u/s to check my baby's hb and I can still remember the shockedness and sadness on my RE's and dh's faces. I cannot believe it when my RE said "your baby's heart stopped." I was so devastated. I didn't want to believe it at first, even up to the time I was in the operating room for my D&C. I didn't get the D&C 'til after a week. I was scared and hopeful at the same time, that it was just a mistake and a miracle may happen. I even went to my gynecologist to get a second opinion but all was confirmed. My RE did another last u/s to confirm everything before the D&C. I lost my baby.

My husband and I decided that we wanted to do a pathology test to find out exactly what went wrong. My baby was a boy and he had Trisomy 9, a very rare genetic disease. His heart finally gave up. Here is a site that has info about Trisomy 9,  http://www.trisomy9.com/. To make matters worst, I got really sick from the D&C. I picked up bronchitis and my immune system was so low that made me so weak that it took me so long to recover.

My DH and I will take a break for the rest of the year and start again maybe next year. Hopefully, 2009 will be a better year for us.

Thank you for all the support. And please keep me sending news, whether it be bad or good cuz I'm still here and would like to be part of everyone's journey. We are all here for the same reason and will always be here to support everyone.

Good luck to everyone!!!

Melissa

[Maria2707]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Your baby boy is happy with God.  I will pray to God to give you and your husband strength to go through this difficult journey.

I lost my baby in the 19th week in feb 2007. I conceived with first IUI. we were very happy. On Jan 31st I completed 18th week and was at the gynecologist for monthly checkup, she said everything was fine and we heard our baby's heart beat.

Next day when I was in the bathroom I noticed a speck  of blood on the panty and I panicked. I called my mom and informed her, she told me to call the doctor. I called the doctor and she asked me to go over for a check up . She was such a cruel doc I feel. She started laughing at the tiny blood stain on the panty. She said that she had seen far worse than that. She did an internal exam and she got to see some blood on her glove. She told me to go for an u/s. Baby was fully formed and was very active. my dh was very happy to see our baby. Everything looked fine in the u/s. so doc concluded it must be an infection and prescribed some antibiotics and asked me to go home and rest for two days. Everything looked fine..On friday(2nd feb) night I saw some more blood and I started getting pains. The pain was like cramps initially and later became unbearable. I called the doc and she said she was sorry and I might be miscarrying and told to check to the hospital. 1:45am my husband rushed me to hospital... I was in so much pain. No doctor came to see me whole night. I heard my baby' heart beat till 5am in the morning. My doc came in the morning did and internal checkup and said the sac was down and asked me to push. I could not believe it.. my baby was out.. I was not alive.. I refused to see the baby initially as I was still in a shock.. My husband made me to see her. My baby was girl.she was fully formed.. I cannot forget that sight... I cant stop crying every time I think about her. I can understand how hard it might it might have been for you both. I hope 2009 will bring happiness with your baby. good luck!!

[mommyin10]

We haven't talked before, but your story really touched me & I'm so deeply sorry for your loss & all that you're going through.  My eyes started to well up when I read you were having a boy.  It's just so devastating & my heart aches for you.  Take care & I hope you're healthy & ready to try again soon. :)