IVF BFP results

[Hopeful4aBlessing]

When is a 'safe' time to tell the family about the BFP after going through IVF?

[MommaBee]

I wanted to wait but only b/c I feared it could possibly end, then I felt I was giving up on my faith in GOD who had blessed me with the BFP and so I immediately told CLOSE friends and family that new I was going thru IVF. I'm sooooooo excited I want the World to know I wish I could scream it to the people in planes can hear. LOL. But I'm keeping my faith that Good is gonna bless me with my first baby or babies sometime in September 2011.

[tsinclair85]

Congratulations on you BFP. I don't think there is no definite time when to tell. For my first pregnancy, we waited a week before we told our families and I wish we had waited longer because that next week I begin to have complications and it resulted in a m/c.  As a couple we decided that if I happen to get PG again then we will keep it between us until after the first trimester.  Its totally a personal decision and its totally up to you and your partner. I wish you the best of luck.

[Marietta2000]

I really don't think there should be any hard and fast rule on when to tell of your pregnancy.  It's really just down to how you feel personally.  With my son and daughter, I told my family and close friends pretty much as soon as I knew, I was so excited.  With my daughter, I did think to keep it to myself for a while ie. not tell outside the family, but that wasn't due to being worried about miscarriages, I just thought it might have been special to be carrying around 'my precious secret' for a while, but as it was, I was so excited, I couldn't not tell people!!!  The trend now for many people is to not announce a pregnancy until three months, but the sad truth is, no pregnancy is '100% safe' until you have actually given birth to your beautiful baby, so I often don't always see the reasoning in this. And at the end of the day, it may be of more help for friends to know of a miscarriage etc if it ever sadly occured, as people need all the support they can get in those times.  Just go with how you feel.  If you want to tell people, then don't be worried that maybe you're spreading your news 'too soon', or if you want to keep it to yourselves for a while, then go with that.  It's totally up to you and what you feel the most comfortable with, and if 'outside' people don't understand, just explain to them:0)  ALL THE BEST!

[Kricket212]

I told my family after first sono & learned the hard way I should have waited.  I would never do that again.  

I personally say that should consider waiting until you hear the heart beat.  We always hope that this will be the lucky cycle......only God Knows.

Best Wishes to you!!!

[Hopesx]

If I get a BFP I would tell the world babe, take care you are going to have a little blessing in your family soon, they deserve to know and you need your people around. xxx

[happynifer]

i basically told people that I would want to know if something had gone wrong.  the first several times i got pregnant i did not tell anyone, then when i miscarried i was alone in dealing with it, which was not a good idea.
so we told close friends and family immediately, especially the ones who knew we were doing IVF anyhow.
congrats!

[AnnieBrooke]

IVF doesn't matter as far as when to tell.  (IVF babies are not more likely to miscarry -- it is unfortunately all too common whether you had IVF or not.)  I found that I had various circles that learned sooner or later.  My mom and sisters knew right away, even the times when I miscarried (which was a wellspring of support).  My best friend also knew right away.   My aunts and some other friends, ehhh, I didn't tell them for a while.  I was sort of amused by the reflection on how close we were, as it came out.  (One aunt and uncle didn't know until I was in my 7th month, yet my neighbor knew at 11 weeks.  Thus proving that I felt closer to the neighbors than to my aunt and uncle.)  

[Marceyb]

Hiya congrats on the bfp!!! It's really up to you when you decide to tell people !!! We haven't told  anybody we did ivf we wanted to keep that personal. We live ina small town and I really know people would gossip!!! We have decided not to tell anyone were pregnant untill after 8 weeks cause we m/c on that !!! We may even wait till three months!!! Whenever you decide to tell make sure your 100% comfortable with it thr best of luck happiness and health in ur pregnancy xxxxxx