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I'm sick of hearning this!
Okay so everybody is driving me CRAZY iwth this, "if you stopped stressing out about getting pregnant then it would happen" junk!!! My dh keeps going on and on...not to mention other people. I want to know has anybody had an RE say this too them? Does stress really effect you chances of getting pregnant? I think this is bullsh@t until I see some research to prove it...anybody have any answers???
Have fun!!! I hate the tww. Last month I swore I was preg. I think I had every symptom imaginable...guess they were symptoms of AF. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!
Looks like there will be a lot of sneaking around this month? Have fun.
For me the tww count down begins today. Got big fat line on OPK tonight...."Sexy Time" for the next 3-4 days.
For me the tww count down begins today. Got big fat line on OPK tonight...."Sexy Time" for the next 3-4 days.
Lexima- Good luck with the business trip. I'm crazy but I wouldn't go if I didn't have to. I'm a teacher so luckily I don't have that to worry about. I was worried about Thanksgiving though. I figure based on last month that they will give me the trigger on day 14 which will make me have to bd Mon., Tues, and Wednesday of the holiday week. If I'm just one day off it will throw off everything. We are going to visit imy parents in Delaware and they don't have an extra bedroom for us...sooooo we might have to sneak out on Thanksgiving for a quickie.
Mom31- I also had 2 mature follicles 26 and 20.5 and one that was 17.5. They told me I was at risk for twins and I got a BFN too! My friend only had one mature follicle and she's due in 15 weeks with a little boy so I guess it's all luck pretty much.
Mom31- I also had 2 mature follicles 26 and 20.5 and one that was 17.5. They told me I was at risk for twins and I got a BFN too! My friend only had one mature follicle and she's due in 15 weeks with a little boy so I guess it's all luck pretty much.
last month i had 3 follies 17 and over, and still nothing. So frustrating in understatement.
My RE freaked out that I was responding to the meds too fast. So this month I'm on a lower dose and only had 1 mature one at 18.
My RE freaked out that I was responding to the meds too fast. So this month I'm on a lower dose and only had 1 mature one at 18.
well my follies were both mature in the 18s i think, then i o'd and they both released.
so i was nervous for twins, but instead didn't get preg. at all. it's so frustrating.
so i was nervous for twins, but instead didn't get preg. at all. it's so frustrating.
I took clomid for 6 months, I'm not sure if that's the max. My follicles were maturing but I don't think they were big enough. At that time I didn't really understand what should be a good size. I think the U/S lady used to tell me that they are 12, now I know that they have to be close to 20. So Clomid didn't really work for me.
how long can you take chlomid for? isn't there a risk after 4 months?
i'm on my second month, last cycle i had 2 really mature follies release
and nothing.......what else can i do?
i'm on my second month, last cycle i had 2 really mature follies release
and nothing.......what else can i do?
I feel your confusion. My DH has a regular 9-5 job, but works an overnight shift every Thursday night for extra $$$$. Anyway, every month I find myself totally stresssing about possibly missing the Thursday night BDing. We discussed an early Thursday morning BD, but he leaves for work at 5am, so I don't think that is happening. After his overnight shift, he does his regular Friday job, so he comes home from work at 5PM totally exhausted - usually don't see him until Saturday morning.
I am actually considering going to his office for a "quickie" if my next O time happens on a Thursday. Sounds attractive, I know. I guess we do what we have to do
I am actually considering going to his office for a "quickie" if my next O time happens on a Thursday. Sounds attractive, I know. I guess we do what we have to do
One other thing has been bothering me. I have to go on a business trip in december and it might be just around the time I'll Oing. It's only for 2 days, but what if it falls out on the day when we have to BD or IUI. At this point I don't know when i'll get my AF so it's really difficult to plan.
I'll either have to skip one month or cancel my trip. No one is forcing me to go, but it would be good if I did.
Very confused.
I'll either have to skip one month or cancel my trip. No one is forcing me to go, but it would be good if I did.
Very confused.
ttc for over 2 years. First year didn't do anything special, 2nd year changed OB/GYNs, the new doc put me on bc for 2 months to restart my cycle. I was producing too many follicles and they weren't maturing. bc didn't do anything. Then did clomid+ monthly HCG shots for 6 months, then got refered to the clinic. This is my second cycle on injectables. I'm responding very well to the meds so gotta keep my fingers crossed.
I'm on CD12 and did the trigger shot today. So I guess I'll be starting my tww tomorrow or Friday. That's torture :). At least Thanksgiving is around the corner, gotta start planning family dinner, that will keep my mind of things...I hope.
I hope your BPF will happen soon and will be successful.
I'm on CD12 and did the trigger shot today. So I guess I'll be starting my tww tomorrow or Friday. That's torture :). At least Thanksgiving is around the corner, gotta start planning family dinner, that will keep my mind of things...I hope.
I hope your BPF will happen soon and will be successful.
Your dh sounds so much like mine...haha. I gave him all the info on IUI and he tells me that I'm stressed and it will happen but I have to give it time. He told me we have only been trying this time for 2 months. Really this is our third month...tells you how involved he is. Meanwhile my MIL is brainwashing him....but that's another story. We haven't been trying that long. We started trying in March or April (can't really remember) and I got preg. in May very easily. I had a m/c in June at 7 weeks. It took me 14 weeks to get af. I went to an RE and got tested for all kinds of things just b/c of my m/c I insisted he really didn't think it was necessary and I came back as compound heterozygous MTHFR. We started trying again in Sept. I didn't o so my RE put me on Clomid in Oct. I had 2 nice follicles but I didn't get preg so I started my 2nd round of clomid today....and that's my story in a nutshell, and you?
Yep my dh refuses IUI as well. But I think he finally agreed to go with it next month. I hope he doesn't change his ming. He's been good about all other tests that he had to do, but w/ IUI he thinks that the bad swimmers might fertilize the egg. basically he is saying that IUI eliminates "survival or the fittest" theory.
how long have you been ttc.
how long have you been ttc.
Lexima- Haha...you know my dh is threatening to cancel mine too. Everytime we get in a fight it's the same conversation about my gym membership. You have to have one just in case you want to go...haha. By the way, my dh refuses to do IUI...I don't know about yours...
Tahoegal- That's also funny because my dh has been trying to get me to go see a psychologist but I think this is my therapy. I keep telling him it's not like I'm not going on with my life. I go to work. I go out with friends. I know I'm not depressed...I just talk about it a lot...so I guess I have the talk therapy covered....haha
jifnif- I second that!
Tahoegal- That's also funny because my dh has been trying to get me to go see a psychologist but I think this is my therapy. I keep telling him it's not like I'm not going on with my life. I go to work. I go out with friends. I know I'm not depressed...I just talk about it a lot...so I guess I have the talk therapy covered....haha
jifnif- I second that!
This is my biggest pet peeve!!! I hate when people say relax. God, I have no trouble getting pregnant and I am not stressed out!!! These people are stressing me out!!! I wish they all could read this or better yet, go through what i go through every day, every year trying to hold on to a pregnancy!!! Oh, and btw...everyone who has a comment is either old (too old to want kids), young (too young to want kids) or a stupid man. And the handful of others.....do not know the joy of having a child. :( sorry just needed to vent. thanks
Just this morning there was a show on TV about TTC and stress. The study showed that 9 out of 10 women who under went talk therapy for stress got pregnant with in 4 months. only 2 out of 10 that didn't do the therapy got pregnant.
The show was on ABC. I don't know who's show it was... I was cleaning house and my ears sorta perked up because I heard the words fertility and I got the end of the show when it was talking about the numbers above. ( I've been TTC for 1.5 yrs now)
The show was on ABC. I don't know who's show it was... I was cleaning house and my ears sorta perked up because I heard the words fertility and I got the end of the show when it was talking about the numbers above. ( I've been TTC for 1.5 yrs now)
In these forums many girst share thoughts on their DHs, it's so funny how they are all alike. :)
He actually canceled my gym membership because I haven't been there for few years. My only excersize is shopping, it's also my relaxation whether it's in sotres or on-line; shoes and bags really help.
He actually canceled my gym membership because I haven't been there for few years. My only excersize is shopping, it's also my relaxation whether it's in sotres or on-line; shoes and bags really help.
Well hi girls! Sorry I missed all these posts..thanks for the responses. So I did something to RELAX today...haha. I went to the acupuncturist...it is VERY relaxing for some strange reason. My dh's friend is an acupuncturist and b/c he knows I'm ttc he refered me to another acupuncturist in his office that specializes in infertility. She told me that I need to RELAX...Oh God I couldn't believe it! So...she said that my body probably isn't ready to get preg. again so that's probably why I'm not preg....hmmmmm...when in the world will my body be ready??? It's been almost 5 months since my m/c and my mind is ready! Anyway it was relaxing and apparently she has a good track record so we'll see. I go to the RE tomorrow for clomid days 3-7. Can't wait to get up at 5 to stand in line at 6:15 like I'm waiting to buy an apple I phone at Christmas....haha. Anyway...I will be there...and we will see!
Kindergal - My RE's office has yoga and acupuncture....that's what they recommend to relax.
Vsentz- I'm glad to hear things are going great. Wow you must be growing now...you'll have to send us pics of the belly!
Lexima- I haven't heard anything about exercising helping. My dh is angry that I have a gym membership and I'm not going...sounds like something he would say...haha. I'm about your size the way my dh acts you would think I was 100 pounds over weight...they just come up with their own theories.
Babyblue- Thanks for the link I will check it out!
Thanks again everyone!
Kindergal - My RE's office has yoga and acupuncture....that's what they recommend to relax.
Vsentz- I'm glad to hear things are going great. Wow you must be growing now...you'll have to send us pics of the belly!
Lexima- I haven't heard anything about exercising helping. My dh is angry that I have a gym membership and I'm not going...sounds like something he would say...haha. I'm about your size the way my dh acts you would think I was 100 pounds over weight...they just come up with their own theories.
Babyblue- Thanks for the link I will check it out!
Thanks again everyone!
Yes while stress affects getting PG I am in total agreement that all those people that keep saying to relax it will happen need to go away.. I understand that they are trying to be positive but some of us are really srtuggling. Good luck to all you baby seekers out there!
Thanks :)
And Yes I have days where I just wanna scream at him for saying such stupid things.
Other days he really tries to be supportive in his own way. I think I've talked him into an IUI for next month. This month we'll continue with Injections and BDing.
And Yes I have days where I just wanna scream at him for saying such stupid things.
Other days he really tries to be supportive in his own way. I think I've talked him into an IUI for next month. This month we'll continue with Injections and BDing.
no dear, i've never heard, nor I think so...
You are not over weight so, your chances of conceiving increase because your body doesn't have too much fat in it, which in the case of us chubbies, estrogen gets irregular... blah blah blah....
now, let me tell you, you are not the only girl who's hubby gets sh*tty with when it comes to TTC... mine used to tell me 'oh get over it! just don't obsess this much!'
I just wanted to stab him in the a$$ with a fork!!!!
People just need to watch their mouths infront of girls suffering from MC's and/or infertility!! TTC does NOT cause infertility!!!!!!! and most likely you did NOTHING to cause your very painful miscarriage!!!! so stop asking 'what did you do??!"
i had that too.... =S
You are not over weight so, your chances of conceiving increase because your body doesn't have too much fat in it, which in the case of us chubbies, estrogen gets irregular... blah blah blah....
now, let me tell you, you are not the only girl who's hubby gets sh*tty with when it comes to TTC... mine used to tell me 'oh get over it! just don't obsess this much!'
I just wanted to stab him in the a$$ with a fork!!!!
People just need to watch their mouths infront of girls suffering from MC's and/or infertility!! TTC does NOT cause infertility!!!!!!! and most likely you did NOTHING to cause your very painful miscarriage!!!! so stop asking 'what did you do??!"
i had that too.... =S
I specifically asked my RE if stress can have something to do with this whole infertility, and she really didn't think so.
I don't know what it is, but there are so many people with the same problem, my OB/GYN was telling me that in all the years that he's been practicing he's never seen so many problems.
I trust the facts and if everything medically is working and I'm responding to the meds, then I have to believe that this will happen, bec medically there is nothing that's prevening it.
I have another thing, although my DH is tyring to be supportive, I always hear from him that the reasong it's taking so long is because I don't excersize. I think it's a complete BS, but also I hate excersizing. I'm 5.2, 112lb (size 4-6), so I don't see a big deal in that. He thinks if I excersized it would increased our chances.
Did anyone hear anything on how infertility relates to the lack of excersize?
I don't know what it is, but there are so many people with the same problem, my OB/GYN was telling me that in all the years that he's been practicing he's never seen so many problems.
I trust the facts and if everything medically is working and I'm responding to the meds, then I have to believe that this will happen, bec medically there is nothing that's prevening it.
I have another thing, although my DH is tyring to be supportive, I always hear from him that the reasong it's taking so long is because I don't excersize. I think it's a complete BS, but also I hate excersizing. I'm 5.2, 112lb (size 4-6), so I don't see a big deal in that. He thinks if I excersized it would increased our chances.
Did anyone hear anything on how infertility relates to the lack of excersize?
Stress is bad for your body? YES, is it clinically and scientifically proven that it causes infertility?? HELL NO!
Sweetie, I know EXACTLY what you mean, and I have to desagree with the people that says it does indeed cause infertility... I was infertile, and guess what, NEVER! NOT ONCE! gave up, I refused to give up, I didn't relax, I didn't stop, I didn't practice yoga.... instead I went to seek PROFESSIONAL help, an RE... cuz all the stupid doctors would tell me 'oh, just wait a year!' 'oh, wait till the 3rd. MC happens and then we'll see'
F that!!!! you are not the one suffering A-hole!!!
so, I got my tests done and guess what! i had all kinds of **** in my uterus!! yep, not pretty for a fertilized egg to implant!
took care of it...
I am 14 weeks pregnant with a precious baby that brought all that tranquility to my heart and soul... now, NOTHING ELSE matters as much as him/er. NOTHING. He/she is THE LOVE OF MY LIFE by far, and for this little one i'd go thru it ALL over again without even hesitating.
So, here's my advise, go seek an RE, (i know you have it...;)) and THEN relax, when all is being taken care of... then you can think, well, i am waiting, or going thru this patiently and with peace in my heart that this is the best i could be doing to achieve my dream. Then! relax, not before. =)
Love ya girl... IT WILL HAPPEN for you, because you are a strong, determined woman that noone will bring down with comments like that!
Sweetie, I know EXACTLY what you mean, and I have to desagree with the people that says it does indeed cause infertility... I was infertile, and guess what, NEVER! NOT ONCE! gave up, I refused to give up, I didn't relax, I didn't stop, I didn't practice yoga.... instead I went to seek PROFESSIONAL help, an RE... cuz all the stupid doctors would tell me 'oh, just wait a year!' 'oh, wait till the 3rd. MC happens and then we'll see'
F that!!!! you are not the one suffering A-hole!!!
so, I got my tests done and guess what! i had all kinds of **** in my uterus!! yep, not pretty for a fertilized egg to implant!
took care of it...
I am 14 weeks pregnant with a precious baby that brought all that tranquility to my heart and soul... now, NOTHING ELSE matters as much as him/er. NOTHING. He/she is THE LOVE OF MY LIFE by far, and for this little one i'd go thru it ALL over again without even hesitating.
So, here's my advise, go seek an RE, (i know you have it...;)) and THEN relax, when all is being taken care of... then you can think, well, i am waiting, or going thru this patiently and with peace in my heart that this is the best i could be doing to achieve my dream. Then! relax, not before. =)
Love ya girl... IT WILL HAPPEN for you, because you are a strong, determined woman that noone will bring down with comments like that!
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