Incompetent Cervix

[hpng4babe]

Sunday, I delivered a baby girl (an Angel) at 18 weeks.  I was told the membranes had ruptured, so it was too late to receive a stitch.  I am 33 1/2 and this was my first pregnancy by way of IVF (1st try).  Physically, I'm fine, but mentally I'm about to lose it.  Has anyone gone through the same trauma?  PLEASE GIVE FEEDBACK

[lmcrt]

My friend went through this twice one at 17 wks and another at 20 wks. It emotioally draining and a terrible feeling of loss. I'm sorry this has happened to you. I see this so much that I swear when I get pregnant am going to want a cerclage(stitch) just as a preventetive measure.

[Maria2707]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my first baby beginning of 19th week. It was a beautiful girl. I know how how hard it is. When you say incompetent cervix, did you just deliver without any indications? Did you have any pains before delivering. Mine was horrible. I went into labor. I had contractions and severe pain.  

I know how hard it is. I hope you get some peace.Take care dear!

[kikki12114]

I lost my first child, a beautiful daughter, at 17 2/7 weeks in February due to incompetent cervix.  They placed a stitch after 24 hours of stopping my labor, but a little more than 36 hours later I developed a low grade fever and they felt I had an infection and they pulled the stitch out.  About an hour after they pulled the stitch out I delivered our beautiful baby girl.  It was such a difficult time for me and I searched for any answer I could find.  I went through my medical record to see if something had been missed (it hadn't) and met with the doctors again and again to go over the whole scenario again.  After finding the strength to try again, we were blessed with another pregnancy only to lose the baby a week before my scheduled prophylactic cerclage in September.  We have many questions and no answers for this loss which is why I've come to this website.  
Please try to stay strong and keep the memory of your baby girl alive.  Having memories around me everyday is what has gotten me through the roughest times.  Don't hesitate to ask my questions or just talk...  

[baby1234]

Oh, I wanted to add that you will need to sign up for ivfconnections, but it is free. I hope this helps some.

Take care.

[baby1234]

I am so sorry for your loss. There is nothing like the pain from the loss of a baby. My heart goes out to you.

There is a board on the ivfconnections.com site that deals specifically with pregnancy loss. On the pg loss board, you might find comfort on the "healing from late pregnancy loss (loss ment./child ment.)" thread. There are several women who had second tri losses from 17-24 weeks. I think you will find people there who understand all of the emotions you are going through and can offer some support.

For now, take things day by day. You will never forget your little girl, but time will help ease the pain some.

Hugs.

[jacky31]

hi!! ia m very sorry o know what  u going thru i loss my babies boys on may 23 at 18 weeks too for incompetent cervix i was pregnat whit twins at that time i feel what u feeling now, i cry everyday i have always in my head my little boys i know what u feel i am veryyyyy sorryy am ready have 3 kids and  my twins was a suprise.....iam try to conceive again...

[poupoune26]

I haven't gone through this, but I really wanted to say that I'm deeply sorry for your loss...  My doctor told me that they'll be following me more closely because I am at risk for an incompetent cervix also.  I had a LEEP procedure done 2 years ago (to remove pre-cancerous cells on my cervix)..  Had you had anything like that done before you got pregnant?