Intrauterine Insemination (IUI)

Yesterday I recieved the results back from my tests finally.  Everything seems to be fine on my end, but DH has low motility and low morphology.  My gyno recommended me to see a fertility doctor and have an Intrauterine insemination done.  I have done a lot of research on it and the procedure itself sounds simple enough.  Although I am having troubles convincing DH to go to see this doctor.  He wants it to happen natural.  Which I don't blame him for thinking that way.  How can I convince him that it might be our only chance??  
Also has anyone else had this procedure done that is in about the same boat as me and had good results???
Thanks for any help!

[Heather5]

How long have you been trying? Maybe it will help a bit if the two of you sit down and set a date for when to go see an RE about a possible IUI. That way, he's part of the decision and he knows that it will be the next step if you're not pregnant by then. Just a thought...

[ange333]

It will be two years in March since we have been trying.  Thanks for the thought...

[Mary97]

If you've been trying more than a year then go for it now.  If not take a little time and try on your own.  In the mean time get books on this subject and educate yourself.  If motility and morphology is truly low like you say then you are likely going to need help.  I have a similar situation.  My husband is lower end of average for morphology.  We've tried IUIs and they have not yet worked.  We are going to try one more and then on to IVF using minimal stimulation on clomid. (See New Hope Fertility Center for info on mini ivf).  We would all love to go natural if we could.... but at a certain point it becomes clear that you need help and the clock keeps ticking.  

[Helen72]

I agree with Mary97.  Infertility is often a medical problem and you may need help.  If your doc recommended IUI I would follow that advice.  You should have a talk with your dh and work out a plan, lets say trying naturally till March and if no success then move on to treatments.  I myself moving on to IUI after 2 years of trying and wish I did so sooner.  Your age should also be a consideration since waiting may decrease your chances with time.  
Good luck with whatever route your decide to pursue!!!

[Mary97]

Helen, I also wish I had tried sooner.  We also held out for a long time and my DH (and myself) wished it could happen naturally.   My husband even underwent a varicocele surgery in hopes it would make a difference.  I read in your journal about going for a laporoscopy.  I wish you all the best with that!  Let us know the results.  

[Helen72]

Thank you for your good wishes!  I had my laparoscopy last month and the doc found the cause of my infertility: scar tissue.  He removed the scar tissue but unfortunately it will come back and very soon.  So, we are trying really hard for a few months and if that does not work we'll have to move on to IVF....  I guess our situations are very similar.  I started reading posts about IVF and doing some research.  I hope it doesn't come to that but we'll just have to wait and see.  
I'll be following your posts about min stimulation.  Not many ladies on this forum do that since more embryous are considered better.  I hope it works for you since you feel so strongly about that.
Good luck!!!

[Mary97]

It is unbelievable what we all go through.  Surgeries and procedures.  I know it is all worth it and we should get "Mother of the Year" awards someday for all the heartache we go through.  I will keep you posted on the minimal stimulation IVF.  We might do one more IUI with clomid before moving on.  

[kindergal]

My dh kept saying IUI was just not natural...but he realized going au naturale was not working for us after 18 months on and off of meds!  One thing that made it much easier is that he was allowed to do his "business" at home and I could run "the goods" to  the RE office and have the procedure done.  I told my dh not to think of it as not natural...but think of it as a threesome!  HA!  Me, him, and the nurse that does the procedure!  HA!  We will be doing our second one at the end of this week.

[ange333]

thanks for all the help and support.  The appt is booked for Jan. 30th.  I think he is willing to at least go and hear what the doctor has to say so he can explain everything to the both of us.  I told him nothing has to be done right away anyways.  At least this way the doctor can explain to him the procudure.

[Lexima]

DHs can be very difficult and stuborn.  I just had my first IUI done past Sunday, but I've been trying to convince DH since August.  We've been trying for over 2 years and he has very good SA.  I think he realizes how much each BFN hurts me and we have to try something different, so he finaly agreed to it.  Up until now he also felt that it should happen naturally.