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Is anyone else tired of stressing about getting pregnant?
My husband and I havent been trying as long as i know some of you on here have, but doesnt it just get really tiring?? I feel like anymore its the first thing to come across my mind in the morning and the last thing i think about before going to bed. I know stress sometimes makes it difficult to get pregnant but sometimes i wonder just exactly how your NOT suppose to stress; especially if your having complications. Im just curious to know if anyone else feels the same way or if its just me being crazy with baby on the brain. Its just hard not to think about it when it feels like everyone around you is getting pregnant and having kids. :(
as a matter of fact im going to start saying little prayers at night for everyone..lol maybe it will work!! :: crosses fingers::
I can totally relate to the hysteria part..
I tried to seek medical help by seeing a clinical psychologist, but it just made me feel worse. The last thing i wanted to do was talk about this once a week and remember all the pain. It's like, I wanted to put it away in a box and never take it out. The only thing that helps me is talking to you ladies, because you can relate. My husband thinks i'm psycho, and that I do this to myself, and that I like feeling miserable.
I've seriously been miserable for years, I'd do anything to take the pain away.
You try to move on and be positive, then all of a sudden, it hits you and the hysteria comes back.
I hope that this is the year for all of us...I wouldn't wish this kind of pain on anyone
I tried to seek medical help by seeing a clinical psychologist, but it just made me feel worse. The last thing i wanted to do was talk about this once a week and remember all the pain. It's like, I wanted to put it away in a box and never take it out. The only thing that helps me is talking to you ladies, because you can relate. My husband thinks i'm psycho, and that I do this to myself, and that I like feeling miserable.
I've seriously been miserable for years, I'd do anything to take the pain away.
You try to move on and be positive, then all of a sudden, it hits you and the hysteria comes back.
I hope that this is the year for all of us...I wouldn't wish this kind of pain on anyone
I hear ya! My DH and I have been through a lot together (surgeries, family members with cancer, etc), but this is by far the hardest thing we've been through. I read an article about stress that said that people struggling with infertility can have stress levels that are equivalent to those experienced by people who are dealing with a terminal illness. Those that have never been through what we've been through just don't understand the toll that it can take. I know what you mean about our poor DH's. We are definitely best friends, so I always look to him to be my rock and I'm always going on and on to him. Our men try to be strong, and we expect that from them, so sometimes we don't realize that they are just as sad and disappointed as we are. Last week, one of his co-workers was driving him crazy, complaining constantly about something stupid, and he says to me that he was about ready to tell her to shut up because if she thinks she has it bad, we've been trying for 2 years to have a baby and we can't! Those are the moments when it just breaks your heart.
As soon as i find a way to relax youll be the first to know! :) I think this is possibly the hardest thing ive ever had to deal with in my life. One good thing is atleast we have eachother to talk to so our husbands get a little break from us..hehe. I know it cant be easy on them either and i feel bad for talking about it all the time but who else will listen...well other than you guys..THANK GOD!!
Oh yeah, I am stressful alright! And seeing babies and pregnant women EVERY DAY around me doesnt help..
I have gone to a point where I need to seek medical help because I start to have hysteria moods where I just cry and crash everything around me...
I can't control myself cuz JESUS, its like I have hope and then I don't!!
Anyway, we are ALL in the same boat and you are trying to shut up yourself and stop thinking negative but then again, it comes back to you..
I am killing my hubby about baby talk which I do EVERY DAY EVERY MORNING...All I think about is that I want to have a baby and I don't even see how life passes me by!!!
We all need to relax somehow, but HOW???
I have gone to a point where I need to seek medical help because I start to have hysteria moods where I just cry and crash everything around me...
I can't control myself cuz JESUS, its like I have hope and then I don't!!
Anyway, we are ALL in the same boat and you are trying to shut up yourself and stop thinking negative but then again, it comes back to you..
I am killing my hubby about baby talk which I do EVERY DAY EVERY MORNING...All I think about is that I want to have a baby and I don't even see how life passes me by!!!
We all need to relax somehow, but HOW???
you girls are great!! I had a much better evening yesterday after posting. Im going to go get some Vitex today and see if that helps any but it certainly cant hurt. Im very glad i posted because i finally feel good for once about it. Luv to everyone :) :)
I have to agree w/Rene! It just irritates me when peeps say the gods will thing i understand all that and im sure in time i will have my baby but that always makes me feel like i did something wrong so bad that i dont derserve one or something then i start thinking and contemplating on what i have done bad over the years. I have to agree too cus i really dont believe that either that it would be gods will to put a child in an abused or neglected home. Like i said b4 we just had to preserve forward and keep hoping and thinking positive!!
You are not alone!! I hear you all! I am so tired of stressing out about getting pregnant and I'm sick of noticing that it seems like everyone but me has a baby or are pregnant. It gets very tiring. I'm also very tired of seeing people who are lousy parents and lousy people in general having 3,4,5 kids. It always amazes me and I always wonder why God lets that happen. I will never know.
No its certainly not selfish. Honestly, I know your sis may mean well, but that isn't cool to say when she has a child and a baby on the way. Its funny it seems to be those already with children are the ones that usually say this.
And I don't think God works that way anyways. Is it God's will for abusers, addicts, etc. to have a bunch of children that they just neglect or abuse, while "good" people have none...I don't think so. It just happens or it doesn't.
And I don't think God works that way anyways. Is it God's will for abusers, addicts, etc. to have a bunch of children that they just neglect or abuse, while "good" people have none...I don't think so. It just happens or it doesn't.
No, it's not selfish. The next question that pops in your mind is probably "why, why me? why can they have kids and not me? what did they do that I didn't?"
I wish I had the answer. I don't want it to be God's will for me either, or anyone in my shoes, we all deserve to be mothers.
One thing that has always helped me is this, my mother has always told me:
"the people who suffer on this Earth are the lucky ones, because they will not suffer in the after-life", God may not will for me to be a mother now, but in the end, i'm going to be blessed.
It's so easy for me to say this now, but watch, i'll be throwing a fit on Saturday if my results are negative. I've started to prepare myself, got the kleenex box ready and everything!
I wish I had the answer. I don't want it to be God's will for me either, or anyone in my shoes, we all deserve to be mothers.
One thing that has always helped me is this, my mother has always told me:
"the people who suffer on this Earth are the lucky ones, because they will not suffer in the after-life", God may not will for me to be a mother now, but in the end, i'm going to be blessed.
It's so easy for me to say this now, but watch, i'll be throwing a fit on Saturday if my results are negative. I've started to prepare myself, got the kleenex box ready and everything!
lol if you could only see me haha im sitting at work crying like a little girl but still happy to know im not alone. I try pushing it out of my mind but as soon as i hold the baby boy of a co worker here or the little girl of a friend of mine im constantly reminded of my short comings. my sister who already has a son and another child on the way, told me things happen for a reason and if for some reason i cant conceive maybe thats Gods will, trust me i believe in God but i dont want it to be Gods will for me not to have children. Is that selfish?? :/
i hear ya there I have to do the exact same thing. Admit to myself NO i CANNOT get pregnant i just cannot!! I dont have control over my situation i know that and its the only thing i can do to keep myself sane between now and the time that i can afford to go to a doctor but for now i have to keep telling myself the truth and keep taking my fertility vitamins and hope for the best!! I do that in the stores every time i go pass by the baby section and browse around im not gonna buy anything but I love to look around. But you do have good advice dont let it consume you and keep moving forward no matter what!! And ERIN if you need to scream and let it out go ahead were here to scream with you!! lol!!
No, you're not crazy. Most of us feel the same way. I don't remember the last time a day went by and I didn't think about having a baby. Every time I go into Costco, I stop at the baby clothing, pick up a few outfits, finish the rest of my shopping, turn right back around and leave the clothes behind. I was telling myself last night that i'm so pathetic! And every year at least one of my cousins spits out a baby, i swear, they must have it planned. So right now, i'm betting on a few more pregnant announcements in 2008, some in 2009, and a few new members to the family by 2010. I used to get upset, but i'm used to it now. I joke around and say "I was put on this Earth to watch them have kids, and watch their grand kids too". There's nothing else for me to say.
I told myself that if the current IVF cycle doesn't work out, i'm going to take a break. The only way for me to stop thinking about this is to tell myself that I can't have kids. I'm not even going to try, and if it happens one day, then great. You can't let this consume your life, some doctors even say that stressing about this is just like birth control, it won't happen.
Good luck to you and your husband, I'll keep you in my prayers.
I told myself that if the current IVF cycle doesn't work out, i'm going to take a break. The only way for me to stop thinking about this is to tell myself that I can't have kids. I'm not even going to try, and if it happens one day, then great. You can't let this consume your life, some doctors even say that stressing about this is just like birth control, it won't happen.
Good luck to you and your husband, I'll keep you in my prayers.
You are definitely not the only one! I think no matter how long you've been TTC, it can definitely be all-consuming because it's so hard when ultimately you really have no control over the situation. We have been TTC for 2 years now and have unexplained infertility, which is really frustrating. I agree, you see people all around you with children or pregnant bellies and it makes you so sad to be faced with what you are missing out on, especially when you feel like having a family has always been the most important thing to you. The worst is when you see these crazy people who abuse their children or don't want them in the first place. I just don't understand. My DH and I have actually decided to take the summer off from meds and try to relax and enjoy TTC again. We're on our 3rd cycle and I have to admit it feels pretty good! When you start to feel like you're being defined by your fertility and not enjoying life anymore or appreciating the blessings you do have, it's definitely time to stop and realize what is important. I hope your new doctor is able to help you. Good luck to you and hopefully we'll all be blessed with little miracles soon!
Im going to a new doctor on July 1st to get things checked out, hopefully this one will listen to me instead of writing me off. Thank you guys for listening to me..lol i needed to get that out or i was going to scream..im just glad you guys feel the same way atleast i know im not nuts!!
You are definitely not crazy, most of us on this forum feel this way.
I don't know any way to stop thinking about it....you really can't, unless you just stop TTC. But if you can relax and take some time out for yourself, sometimes that helps.
Have you been trying for more than a year? If so, try to see a specialist. Sometimes getting help or an answer for why you aren't getting pregnant is somewhat comforting.
I don't know any way to stop thinking about it....you really can't, unless you just stop TTC. But if you can relax and take some time out for yourself, sometimes that helps.
Have you been trying for more than a year? If so, try to see a specialist. Sometimes getting help or an answer for why you aren't getting pregnant is somewhat comforting.
Oh hey i just saw ur journal and i remember seeing a post about something like that but any whoo if u having trouble with your cycle you might want to try Vitex. It regulates ur cycle and some women like you i heard who havent started their AF it will get it going!! GL!!
Oh no you aint crazy!! I think we all feel this way i sure do!! And just like so say how do u not stress when every1 around is prego or has a newborn its so difficult i know cus all u can do is look and them and wish it would hurry up and be ur turn already!! Believe me i know and understand almost every1 i know bk in my hometown is already had at least one kid and i dont just mean peeps my age i heard of people i knew of are 7yrs younger than me having kids!!!! its torture!!! It's very hard but all we can really do is preserve and keep going forward and one day we will have our babies too!!
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