Ladies if you are quite ****... off right now come on and talk it out loud

to all of us ladies who are mighty pisssss... right now at the world, God or anyone else, welcome. Come here and vent all what you want. Right now I am quite upset and mad at the whole fertility thing, it just happens that while many of us try to get preggo, spending lots of money, out there there are individuals who are giving birth to babies with problems because all their drug and alcohol abuse, who says it is fair. Does anyone has an answer why they can have children and we don't?
Anyone with a good answer is more then welcome to post it here.

[lori0615]

Because life is not fair. My sister is raising alot of those babies that were born to drug abusing mothers(if we can call them that). I am with you. Why should they have babies while we don't.

I'm pissed off at my doctor who just told me that my weight is the reason that my hormones went to hell in a hand bag. I want a second opinion. I'm pissed at the 17 year old girl at work who is pregnant with no home. Why is it people that get pregnant can't afford it or are too young? Man I could go on and on.

I'm greatful that I have a 4 year old son and a loving husband who treats my little SkyGuy as if he is his biological son.

[scienceteacher79]

I am pissssssed that i have spent thousands of dollars in the last two years and only have a m/c and a brokenheart to show for it.

I am pisssssssssssssssssed that crack heads and wh ores can have babies and sell them or leave them in a trashcan, but I can't get pregnant?

I am mad because people who want babies seem to be the ones who can't have them.

I am mad at God for hurting my DH and I over and OVER. What did we do wrong? Why can't we have a child?

I am just mad.....

[blessedmomof3]

I'm PISSED!!!! You better believe I am!!!!! I know I am very blessed to have 2 children. But damit why am I limited to 2???? My sis who aborted a baby was then given a second chance just months later. WHY???? My cousin who had 3 kids by the age of 21 and no job and still lived w/ her druggie parents actualy told me she was popping them out for the walfare money!!!!! Last week I went to get my nails done to try to cheer myself up after AF came and there she was sitting right next to me 17 and pregnant and happy!!!! Her dad was even happy!!!! When I told my 14 year old about it she even had the since to ask " If she is 17 and PG why is she getting her nails done? She needs to be saving her money." All these things just feel like GOD spitting in my face!!! I know I have 2 more children than most the women on this site, but why do any of us have to go through this? IT *****!!!!!

[cure65roses]

I like the idea here...  one one hand we could vent about our frustrations, on the other we can say praises for our many blessings.

Last night my son hugged me and said he loves me and it just made me stop and think how blessed i really am.  God gave me children when He wanted to.  I am thankful for that and he's pretty smart about timing, looking back on everything --  But the point is NOW I am ready again but God doesn't seem to be ready.  Sometimes I wander is God mad at me or something?  If so then God, please forgive me of my sins and please pour your blessings on me, and ALL my friends here who want to have children. Amen.  I just had to get that out.  Until I get my BFP I am going to TRY to just Let Go and Let God.

Hugs to everyone TTC  ~~ Let's just hang in there!

[paranoidpatty]

I'm pissed that after having two kids and then for the next 17 years I tried NOT to get pregnant by taking birth control pills.  I honestly believe that taking birth control pills long-term has side-effects and that makes me pissed!! Here I am going on two years still TRYING to get pregnant without any birth control!!  

So that's what I'm pissed about!!  I'M PISSED THAT IVF IS EXPENSIVE, YET ABORTIONS ARE LOW COST!!!!  What's wrong with this picture?!!

I feel much better now - thanks for letting me yell!

Trish

[eternidad200]

Halleluyah......ladies, I am PISSEDDDDDD, about everything, I am 38 waited my whole to find a good man so I can have children and what happens then...well my DH can't have any more children.
I am f;;;;ing pissed my DH get to have a teenager daughter which he get to spend a lot of time with, I know is not his fault but honestly I am really mad is his fault I can't have any children because of him and at the end he has a daugther and I don't have anyone.
I am angry at GOD if he is responsible for this, I am mad we have sent a fortune over 3 freaking years with no result....
So overall I ammm really, really f**** mad at the whole thing.

[eternidad200]

Oh I forget to mention I HATED when people come and tell me: OH HONEY IS NOT IN GOD'S PLAN FOR NOW.
I have been a devoted religious person my whole life, doing good to everyone, I have gone through hell to make it out in a foreign country so I can support my parents back home who are getting old and tired. Never hurt anyone, done missionary work, give alms to the poor, so I think I have done my fair share.
So please God give me a break.....

[blessedmomof3]

I know what you mean. I go out of my way not to hurt people and have even done without so that someone else doesn't have to. I feel like I have been a good person my whole life. And as for this God's plan ****, if that's the case he has it all wrong when it comes to his plans for me. He gave me 2 kids back to back when I was only 19 barley making it, w/ an abusive husband who refused to work. Now I am 34 married to the most wonderful man in the world and finacialy set to have a baby and he refuses me this wish. Don't get me wrong, I love my kids very much and do thank God for them, but the timing does seem rather off. I had to struggle w/ them and they had to do without alot. They realy had a rough start and it was all because of GOD's timing. I will always live with the guilt that I feel like their childhoods were messed up. As for the cost of treatments, why is it we are penalised for having this need? We should get a tax break or something. Some states the insurance covers it, but not where I am. Hubby has the issues and I am the one doing with out. I can't have a child because I can't afford treatment, yet when I couldn't afford to eat daily I was given 2. man, if this is all GOD's plan, then I realy would love a sit down with him!!!!!

[eternidad200]

I totally agree with you why does it have to be so expensive, I live in Michigan and taxes don't pay for it, also my health insurance does not pay for any fertility treatment or any tests r/t infertility that ***** big time.
Yeah I would also like to have a talk with God or someone close to him who can tell me what is going on.

[alaskacouple]

I have to agree with you all..... sometimes I think the man (or woman) upstairs has a sick sense of humor.
Don't get me wrong... I was raised a Catholic, but since TTC starting in 2000, we haven't been to church a whole lot....
I am mad at the women at my work,,,, one has two young boys and can barely handle them (her words) and WHOOPS....she is preggo again, has had no prenat care and not sure how far along she is, smokes, and drinks a couple of mountain dews a day
Another gal - her daughter is preggo with her 3rd (another big Whoops), the daughter and son in law have no jobs, and live off assistance....

You bet your a$$ I am mad.....

[gokuangel]

I am beyond mad right now thats an understatement that this point!! I been TTC for a long time now and instead of getting a BFP i get bad results at the dr's office and have to go for treatments instead of pre natal care!! My MIL asked if i was prego and if i was i would happy not down in the dumps like i am about my bad pap test and the fact i may get cervical cancer and have to have everything removed from there b4 i even have a chance to have kids!! its bites the big one!! I agree with you Alaska i think the person upstairs has a sick sense of humor right about now im a baptist so i was raised in church too but i havent went in a long long time!! dont get me started on underage parents and ooops accidents my dh's cousin is 16 and going to pop next week and the main provider of the house her dad is now gone (long story) so now she will be a single mom living in her parents house with no money no job nothing!!

[blessedmomof3]

You know I have had 2 MCs this year and they both feel like sick jokes. I don't even know if I will be abled to jump for joy if I get another BFP, because I feel like it will just end bad anyway. People told me that GOD must have known something was wrong with those babies and knew I couldn't handle it, but if that's the case why did he give them to me in the first place? And if he has all that power why couldn't he just fix them??? Sorry ladies, I was not raised in church but have tried to be a good person and tried to live my life right. But this whole TTC has realy shaken my faith. I feel like GOD is attacking me. I lost my uncle 2 years ago, my grandmother last year, 2 babies this year, and just learned I might lose my dad as well. WHY???? People keep telling me I'm not suposed to question, but how can I not???? My inusrance won't even pay for my last U/S which was done do to an ectopic pregnancy and they wanted to make sure the baby had passed. But because it was a RE, they won't cover it. I know the government does not see our fertility problems as a priority, but I bet if Hillary couldn't have kids she would have been running campaigns to help pay for this. And what is up w/ Sara Pailn? Her 17 yr old is pregnant???? And she is running for Vice??? Sorry, I usualy try not to judge, but if she can't raise her own child to have morals how is she going to help run our country???? I'm Just PISSED!!!!

[alaskacouple]

now now... let's leave our Governor out of it :-))

There are young and immature people having kids, and yet again, some people at 17 are more mature than some 25 year olds.....

Even the strongest family full of morals can have 'hickups'  At least his (Levi) and her (Bristol) family's are supportive. They are a very mature couple, and this has been planned for quite some time.... only when Sara became national news did the media smear it to it's advantage.

[blessedmomof3]

LOL... didn't mean to offend you, but I think you understand my point. Here we are all having such a hard time and then this pops up. It's just another thorn.

[krushing]

Well, I'll chime right in too.  It upsets me the struggles some of us have to go through for a baby.  I'm mad because I've had 2 m/c's and they have robbed me of my innocence as far as being pregnant.  Now, I will be a nervous wreck the entire 9 months wondering if and when something will happen to make me lose another precious baby.  Also, I have a 24 year old cousin, who is pregnant with her 3rd child and she doesn't deserve any of them.  I've gone through my SIL, who was due July 22, then I would have been due in October, and then my cousin is due in November.  Now, I have to go and have Thanksgiving and watch everyone oooh and ahhh over her baby.  I'm not as ugle towards my SIL, because it took her and my brother almost a year to get pregnant and then she was put on bedrest at 25 weeks and delivered my beautiful niece, Kaitlyn at 35 weeks.  It's not fair and life is not fair.  BUT, it is what you make it.  If it weren't for DH, trying to keep me positive, then I'd be in a hole somewhere or I'd be the dog lady that never had kids and had a million dogs.  You have to believe that it will happen when the time is right.  That is what keeps me going.  I'm going to keep forking the money out and the time until I get my baby...one way or another.  Either through RE or adoption.  I've always wanted to be a mommy.  I've been married for 4 years and the time is now.  Keep your chins up everyone!!!  

[skipili]

I get fired up about the cost too. If I had more money then i might be pg by now. Instead I have to save up wasting months and months of time and I'm not getting any younger. My insurance doesn't cover anything. I also don't like that you have to pay even if the procedures don't work.

If I want something I can usually get it by working hard and making it happen. Getting pg is one thing I have no control over and I hate that. I hope it in the cards for all of us one day. One day soon!!!  

[eternidad200]

To gokuangel:
oh man., I feel for you big time, here we are bitching but at least we don't have to deal with big C word. I work in an oncology unit and it is pretty upsetting to see what women has to go through soemtims while dealing with Cancer, hopefully this will not be your case, and you have not to have a hysterectomy or anything like that, my heart goes to you, and yes feel free to vent all what you want in here, because I don't think anyone of us will be judging anything other  might say..

Hoping4_2:I hate what these people told you about God wanted you have a mc bc maybe there was something wrong with your babies. What kind of people will make a statement like that, they make me SICK.
People always say oh no is God's will , well f**** that bc if they really think that everything is God's will then like you ladies say he has a pretty bad sense of humor.

[alaskacouple]

Hoping - no offense taken :-))

But yes, I know what you mean......

You have to have a license to fish, drive, hunt, fly, dive,..... but any idiot can become a parent....

[ascott]

Okay my turn. Here I am 2 1/2 years after 5 m/c, one ectopic, and drum rollllllllll now my stupid HCg levels are not doubling. I mean why the h*** did God let my little bean implant if it was not going to make it. Last friday my numbers were so good, and then oh well their just not doubling. I'm balling my eyes out in my office after the phone call. I mean almost hyper ventilating, and my ***** of a boss comes in and says don't forget to your meeting. A meeting to discuss where and what we are going to do with one of the 63 kids on my caseload whose cracked out, ***** of a mother, and loser of a father chooses drugs instead of their children. I mean I am sitting there trying to keep my tears from falling, watching everyone around me carry on like who gives a Sh** about how I'm feeling. I just wanted to yell at the top of my dam lungs. WTF??? Im sitting here with the strong possibility of not having a viable preg, again for the 5th time, spending all this money trying to have one, and I am actually discussing what are plan is to try and give this 3 week old baby back to her parents. Did I forget to mention how 3 weeks ago I just terminated their parental rights for their other 3 children. WTF??? WhY Why Why?? I'm, sorry but I am losing faith. I know we shouldn't be mad at God, but I can't help it. People have told me too, God didn't give you those babies cause something was wrong with them, well I thought God didn't make mistakes. So sorry, I know I should be greatful, I gave birth to 2 great boys, and I do mean they are great. I was 18 when I had my first, and I struggled and struggled, and struggled, and struggled. I'm a damn good mom. If anything in this world I pride myself on being a mommy. I love it. Why can't he just let me do what I do best. Sorry for taking so much, just had to get it out.  
I love you ladies, you really help me get through the roughest times.

[blessedmomof3]

ascott,
I am so sorry about you baby. I truely hope this turns around for you and your numbers start doubling again. I can't believe how cold your boss is.

[GUESITO]

I totally agree!!! This IVF **** really suckssssssssss. I didnt want to try again but here we are dashing out $12000 again trying to concieve (conceive).. Im very pissed as well.

[AUNTDD]

Ok my turn.  Where do I start.  First why DO all the women who don't want to have children turn up prego with no problems?  When I know so many of us would give anything to be a mom, either for the first time, second, third or so on.  Why is it so hard.  And then When you let someone know your tring, they give you such a hard time and neggitive reactions.  At least most of us would be responsable for our miracles.  Why does GOD let women go through m/c's.  Whats the point.  WHAT DOES IT HELP, NO ONE!!!!!  I don't ever want to hear it wasn't ment to be again.  I truely believe GOD has a reason for everything.  I just wish I knew why sometimes.  LIfe just isn't fair.  My hubby is going to make the most wonderful dad ever.  We are so responsable,  why can't we just get our wish.  We would love a child no mater what it involved.   It just seems the more responsable you are the more you get screwwwed in the end.  

Ok I feel alittle better, thanks!!!!!!!

[Christine_713]

I agree...the worst thing in the world to hear is "Everything happens for a reason" or "it just wasn't meant to be"...I've lost 6 babies and NO ONE has common sense NOT to say stupid **** like that to me. COME ON NOW, have some common sense! I have lost a lot of friends due to my struggles with pregnancy b/c i don't need anyone in my life that cares so little about me. If you don't know what to say, say nothing! I had started loosing faith as well, and I am trying not to blame God for my problems, but sometimes it's hard.