Male Infertility

My DH & I have been TTC since 2/07. We achieved a pregnancy 7/07 which ended in early m/c 6 days after we found out we were pg.  We have had no sucess after 3 months so DH & I went to see a RE.  DH had a SA done the same day.  I had the blood work up done on CD3 all normal.  To our suprise a week later we got the dreaded call with DHs SA results.  His count is 30 million, His total Motility is 49%, rapid motility is 20%, nonmotile 15.3% and normal morph 5% with breakdown 4% tapered, 60% round, 6% amorph, 14% tail morph, 9% micro morph based on the Kruger, Strict Criteria.  

Our RE suggested ICSI.  But DH needed to go for 2nd SA, get a physical and be seen by urologist to rule anything out.  He is 40, I am 36 so time is not on our side.  However, here it is 2 1/2 months later and I still can't get him to do any of them.  I know it is a big ego blow.  I have been sensitive to his feelings.  However when I brought it up this past weekend to see if he was going to the RE appt with me on 1/10 he got mad at me for bringing it up.  Any suggestions?  I really want him to come with me to get a better understanding of his results and the IVF process.  Mind you he hasn't been seen by a dr since he was a teen!

Does anyone else out there dealing with similar SA results and DH feelings?  I was wondering if anyone knew what our chances were on conceiving on our own again if it is even possible!  I can handle the truth.  So Thanks In Advance!!!