Trying to get pregnant

I was blessed with a baby boy in February of 2010. I haven't seen or spoken to my son's, as I call it, "sperm donor" since I was about 2-3 months pregnant. Before I met the poor excuse for a man, I was in a 3 year relationship with someone else. All ready to be a parent on my own I was contacted when I was about 4-5 months along by the man with whom I had spent the many years with before. He has been by my side ever since and is my son's true father and no DNA test will ever tell me otherwise. Unfortunately, we are coming up on my son's second birthday and have been trying since the Dr gave me the okay after his birth to have another baby. During the three years we were together before our break up and during the last two years since we've been back together, we've never really used any protection. Granted we may just not be 'doing it' enough or at least not at the right time, but I have a horrible feeling that he may be infertile. However I was getting the birth control shot at the very beginning of our relationship and then once again during the first three years. So, could it just have been that my body was trying to rid itself of harmful chemicals and that I just happened to be most fertile at the point that I got pregnant? But then why havent I been able to get pregnant over the last year or so? Any comments or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!

[lennoxtryin28]

I know its frustrating trying to get pregnant and since you were before. I would say that he should maybe get tested to make sure everything is going the way it should for him. It could be too that you are not having sex enough around the time of ovulation. I think you should start with a doctor to make sure everything is going correctly for both of you. It will ease your stress and wonderment of why why why??? Best of luck and baby dust your way!

[JennyB0125]

Hey I know its really frustrating trying to get pg & nothing os happening. My husband has a significantly low count and we only found that out because my doc was not able to send me to a fertility specialist until we were trying for  a year.  So she got my hubby looked at and we found out his count is really low, so then we were able to be referred to a specialist, we go in Jan to meet with them, and then hopefully we can do IUI in March or April.  

See if you can get your man in to see if there are any blockages and get a semen analysis done that way it will either ease your mind or let you know you may need a little extra help.  It can take a normal healthy couple up to a year to get pg, so try not to worry too much!  Take care & good luck!!!!

[Jennie1211]

Yes, have your man tested for sure. I too had a sinking feeling that he might be infertile because we had been trying for quite a while and I thought I was doing everything else right. Incidentally, if he does produce a zero sperm count (mine did twice) make sure he is tested for being a cystic fibrosis carrier. Many men who are are born without a vas deferens and therefore require extraction (it's like they have a built in vasectomy). This is what we had to do. Hopefully this won't be the case for you, but I only provide this example because when my husband produced the zero count, I was absolutely devastated inside. Had I known that there could have been other ways to correct the issue, I would have saved myself some serious grief and not automatically jumped to the conclusion that it was game over.

Also, I agree that you should also have some simple bloodwork done, too, just to make sure all is well if you are confident that you are tracking ovulation correctly. Good luck!

[mbplovesjjr4ever]

Thank you ladies! He has agreed to go get tested and for his sake I really hope it's good news!! His family has a very macho outlook on reproduction and I know deep inside it would make him feel like less of a man or something if he can't have children. Keep your fingers crossed for us!!