From what I've read and what the doctors who I consulted told me, downs increases of course w/age but I think the one in three odds is a little unreal unless you're 45 or 46 trying to have a baby.
while the odds really go up in the 40's, if you put it in statistical or percentages, 1:50 for example is 97% for not having a ds baby. They say the common stat for a younger woman is 1:500 which is 99.97 or something like that for downs so even when the number goes significantly lower, it still is a very high percentile for not having a downs baby.
Unfortunately the age of a woman's eggs has a lot to do w/the odds of ds & other chromosonal issue but as another poster pointed out, it can definitely happen at any age. I'm so sorry for the loss of your baby - that's truly heartbreaking. I lost a baby at 18-19 weeks & I had quite a time recovering from that m/c.
I hope this helps - adgal, the community leader on the pregnancy 35+ forum, was given 1:13 odds for downs after her NT test so she did the amnio. Her boy's perfectly healthy so the 1:13 chance can look deceivingly bad. Best of luck to you!
First of all I am so sorry about your baby ;-/ I cannot even imagine that.
I have a good friend that had all basic tests done that was offered to her, at the time I believe she was 31. Anyway, all tests were "normal" (geeez, what IS normal anyway!) & she ended up having a little boy w downs. Luckily for them/him he is not SEVERE, but he definitely IS DS. I know for them, their life changed a lot. They began from a very young age going to physical therapy etc.....
But I also know they wouldn't trade him for the world!
Anyway, a number is just a number. I truly believe you/I will get what is meant for us to have. In life there is NO guarantee we will ALL live happy HEALTHY lives w/no disease. I'm not saying that I would LOVE to have a baby born w/problems, but if I did have one, well then I guess I/we can handle it.
I pray every night & day for the safety of our family...especially for my kids, our health can be taken from us in an instant.
So don't worry too much about "statistics" Life is a journey, & we all need to make the best of it, no matter what card we are dealt.
;)
ps I know another gal who also had a DS baby w/IVF & she was only 35, it can happen at almost any age. & these are the only 2 I know who have kids w/DS.
I am sorry for your loss... That's why I go against amnio... I am 38 and high risk of down symdrome... doctor wanted me to do amnio but i chose not too because no matter how my baby turn out.. i will keep this baby....
Some result turn out positive but when you actually have baby... he/she is very healthy... so don't go into the result and terminate the baby... 5 months baby can feel pain and already become a human being... it's sad to hear your friend did that... I wish she could just believe in herself and God and don't believe the result of the amnio or any tests...
Good luck to you..
A 1:3 is an extremely high ratio that I don't believe is correct. At 38 I was given a 1:90(before any testing) and I think 40 is more like a 1:70 and then it progresses for each year after 40. I wish I knew what the "real" statistics were too, I am ttc again at 39 and will be 40 in just a couple of months. I am so sorry to hear of the loss that you and your friend have both experienced, I can't imagine the pain that you have endured. ((hugs))