doctor called

My doctor called tonight.  She wanted to see how I was doing...she said that the placenta came back normal (they tested it)...enough amniotic fluid...but she said that the cord was wrapped so tightly around the neck that she didnt even see how his head was staying on...sorry to sound graphic.  This has been the roughest week of my life.  Genetic testing will come back next week but she's pretty sure that will come back negative.
  Do you think that this was a fluke? Just bad luck? SHe does...and said that I can start TTC in a couple of weeks...I dont want to though.  I may start a pack of BC next week and then go back in, in 4-5 weeks to try another IUI.  any thoughts?? What would you do?

[1nana]

That is something only you can answer. I understand how you would be scared to get pregnant again, but it was just that.....an awful accident. Give yourself some time and you will know when the right time will be to start trying to conceive again. My prayers are with you.

[vsentz]

I agree with wannabenana....this is all YOUR decision. If it was me, (i know i am so damn impatient) i'd be TTC'ing now...but, of course i didn't suffer what you are, in a sense it was a loss, very hurful, but I didn't see my baby or delivered him/er.

You will feel when time is right, and that will be it.

My heart goes out to you. (((HUGS)))

[Tanker Chic]

I think it is one of those things, where you will know when you get there.. take the next couple of weeks to recoupe and see how you feel after that.. I don't think there is a wrong or a write way.. just whatever you and your dh decide..  

take care.. hannah

[peekawho]

I do think it is a fluke.  One of my best friends had a cord accident with her first at 35 weeks.  It was so hard to take care of her.  She did her grieving, worked through it with prayer and faith, and has since had 3 healthy children.  

I hope you heal quickly, both emotionally and physically.  

[paranoidpattie]

I don't think that things like that happen often and the chances of it happening to you again would be VERY slim to none.  One good thing is that the testing went fine so that should put you at some ease.  Nothing will ever ease that pain but you'll have to be the one to decide when you're ready again.  We're all different and we deal with things differently.  I pray I never have to go through anything like that and I don't know how I would react.  But right now I think I would keep TTC right away but that's easy to say now because I haven't gone through it.  I'm sending you a prayer for your strength.

HUGZZ!

[marie1210]

You will know when it is right.  It may be a few weeks or many months.  Give yourself time to heal and prepare mentally for another pregnancy.  A cord accident is not likely to happen again but you will be worried during your next pregnancy and you should be emotionally and mentally ready for that challenge.  There is light at the end of the tunnel.  Best wishes to you.

[wanting4#1]

There are no easy answers to your questions!  My heart breaks for you.  It is not easy to try to move past something when there are so many lingering questions; questions that will never be answered.  I don't know if you are a spiritual person, but I believe that God has a plan and purpose for all of us and while we may not know what it is until we get there, someday it will all be crystal clear!  That doesn't help for the here and now, though and if there is ever a place that will be loving, listening and supportive, it is this site.  All of us have experienced a pain and hurting of some kind, so we can listen with ears that most don't have; yet, we also have all had our unique situations that hurt us in ways that no one can ever fully understand.  Every person's mc brings a different heartache and a new tear.

Please accept my deepest sympathies for your loss.  I will pray that God will grant you peace and comfort during the days and weeks ahead.

[shayla1]

Thank you to all who responded...it's comforting to know that you all are there for me.  Today is a record...I've only cried 3 times!