fail 3rd IUI.... what can i do to stay strong?

[areein]

hello, i am 29 years old, failed my 3rd IUI today. I feel so sad and have no motivation at all to go for another D2 scan tomorrow. Please help me, give some tips to survive this sadness in me....

[areein]

thank you guys for the support!.... i really am thankful.

[airforcewife]

Don't give up!  My first 3 IUI's failed.  My 4th one worked-my baby boy just turned one!  It really can work-just not on our timing.  Good luck to all of you and I pray you all get your BFP's soon.

[allie_44107]

Hi there-Just read your post.  Please don't give up hope.  I also have had 3 failed IUI's-I go tomorrow for my 4th.  I was devasted after each of my other failed cycles.  This cycle I decided to change things.  I changed my diet to all lean protein, fruits, veggies, lots of water and green tea.  That in itself made me feel much physically stronger.  I have also started fertility yoga every other day and I have been going for acupuncutre twice per week.  When we struggle with infertility, I truly believe it is very important to take time for ourselves and focus on HOW we feel.  This whole inferitlity thing has thrown me for a loop-I never thought we would have such problems.  So, I have tried to focus on the more holistic approach and see where that gets us.  I am sorry you are sad and you have every right to be sad for a few days.  But try and focus on yourself, your energy and the psoitive and hopefully it will have happy outcomes.  I hope this helps.  Best of luck to you.  Love, Allie

[turtle4]

Dont give up....I know how you feel and some days you sit and wonder why me? Im going for my 3 IUI this cycle and have been ttc for well over 2 years now. They say the average IUI can take up to 5 times to work. We still have hope and thats what you have to hang on to. Hang in there friend and we are here for you
Steff

[candie429]

Wow, you have all said so many things that I am feeling too!  I am 29 with unexplained infertility.  We are currently undergoing some additional testing, but at the same time, you just always worry in the back of your mind and it's heartbreaking to even try to imagine a life without children.  We are very firm believers in God's plan too, so I guess all we can do is pray.  Not only that our dream of having a family is fulfilled, but that we are given the strength we need to make it through this difficult journey.  Thankfully we all have our DH's and the love and support they give us each day.  I couldn't agree with you more, we do have many blessings and it's important to not forget about those and enjoy the things that God has given to us.  The other comment that hit home with me is that if our cycle doesn't end with a pregnancy, that just means that it wasn't the right time.  That's something that we struggle with a lot.  With so many options out there, what is the right balance?  How far should you go and how long should you keep trying before giving up?  I guess ultimately it's about putting our lives in God's hands and believing he will take care of us.  I am so sorry for you all and I will keep you all in my prayers.  Hopefully our prayers will be answered soon!  :)

[kdm805]

I am 30 with unexplained infertility. My 4th IUI failed, AF showed up today. It has been a very frustrating and emotional journey. I try to keep a strong faith in God that he will bless my husband and I with a beautiful healthy baby one day. Along those lines, my RE said something that really made me think..."You have to have the right egg, the right sperm, and the right environment. Your body knows when all conditions are safe for full term. If conception doesnt occur, it may be your body telling you that this is not the right time, and ultimately at the end what you want is a HEALTHY pregnancy and baby." So I believe that all things happen for a reason. I am also very blessed that I have a wonderful husband who is very supportive. Keep your spirits up high and dont give up!

[Pearl1980]

Hi I am 28 with unexplained infer.My 3rd IUI failed yesterday when AF showed up.But somehow this time i didnt cry as i did the first 2 times...Coz now i realize that GOd has fixed a timing for everthing in our life ..I had a miscarr.in may 2007 tht time i was so depressed but came over it  with a hope that i will concv.again and trying since then..A friend of mine had 6 iuis done no result and the month she was on break from iui's and medicines she got her BFP..so be hopefull we will get our BFP's soon..
I am also taking a break for next 2 months from med.and iuis and will be moving to IVF in sept.

Good luck girls

[Nia528]

Hey!!!    I am 32yrs old and my 3rd and final iui just failed.  My re wants us to move to ivf but we cannot afford that(10,000.00).   We were crushed and had a very emotional weekend.  But the only thing we can do is stay strong and never give up hope but I have to accept the possibility that me and my husband may never have a baby and thats the hardest.  We are firm believers that everything happens for a reason and we may never know that reason.  We trust that God knows whats best for us and will provide us what is best for us.  After it failed we were mad at God and questioned Him but then I thought about everything HE has gave me and I am grateful for that and very thankful. Even if God never gives us a child I am blesed with what he has given me and I really couldn't ask to be more blessed than I already am.  It is hard for you and I do understand the anger and the Why? questions and I don't know if it will get any easier for either one of us but hang in there and try not to hold it against yourself or others. Just try to have faith and hope and trust that it all will work out for the best.  Me and my husband had a very tear filled night last night and this was the outcome of that and I do feel alot better. I don't know the reasons why but I really believe that God does. I don't know what His plans for me and my husband are but I trust his decisions for what is best for us.  I hope this helped you b/c it really helped us. Be strong and never give up.  I wish you all the luck in the world and prayers. I hope everything work out for you.