how to cope

Question

Hello everyone
I am new here my husband and mum told me i should join a forum because no one else I know has fertility problems infact most of my friends are mums or pregnant.
To make a long story short I need to hear from other ladies like me who know whats its like I have just had my first ivf cycle it failed this was a month ago and I have a lot of pent up sadness does anyone have any inspiration to give me or any ideas on how i can regain my positive thoughts.
We are on the waiting list for state ivf I live in spain and on the state you get three tries but you have to wait 10 months not too long, the first cycle we paid for.
Really what I want to ask you all is how to handle the stress of ivf.
My story
i Am 32 
hubby 27
i have right tube blocked low ovarian reserve but in the high range for this group hubbys swimmers are a bit slow.

butterflybabies · Accepted Answer

Hi and welcome!
You've come to a good place for support, and unfortunetly we all know what your going through..there are no words that will make you feel better at the moment..It takes time to come to terms with what your going through.
You will start to feel better and more positive, everytime I have had a loss or every month since then that im not preggo, I get extremely sad, but I know in my heart that I can never give up, I think thats what keeps me going.
Try and take your mind off of it, I know its hard..
Take care!

lize2010 · Answer

Hi again everyone,
Thanks so much for your lovely words of surport I wish I had joined ages ago! Just A quick question I have just been diagnosed with a unicornate uterus does anyone else on here have this condition ?

usuk · Answer

you have come to the right place. just keep coming here when you need a lift. the ladies on here will help you along :)

seattleview · Answer

Hello and welcome. Even though I've been TTC for 2.5 years, I only just joined this forum a month ago. I wish I would have joined it right after my IUI last August resulted in an ectopic. Even though I do know some other people with fertility issues, no one but my husband knows about our struggle, or that we've even been TTC - we are very private people and I just didn't want to deal with nosy questions...and then after we were diagnosed with unexplained infertility, I couldn't imagine dealing with pity, bad advice, or stupid questions. We just went through our first IVF and I am technically six weeks pregnant. But because of our struggle, I am not getting my hopes up. I think you will find this forum a great place to share and be heard.

JennTTC · Answer

I feel for you and I know that we all understand what you are going through. hang in there and try not to think about it. I know that is easier said than done but maybe try a vacation or some activities to keep you busy.

good luck!!!!

Jennifer330 · Answer

Hi- welcome to the forum! This is a place where you can share your dreams, fears and hopes and you will be supported 100%! I'm sorry you had a failed IVF. Keep stong and focus your energy on the future. Stress is a part of this journey and you have to find an outlet for it. Do you have any hobbies? Take care of yourself!