husband crumbles under pressure HELP

[CKMBJM]

My Husband And I Have Been Trying actively For A Year With tracking And Charting But Never Had Protected Sex In The 7 Years We've Been Together So We've Done a Cycle Of clomid And One Cycle Of Femara. The Problem Is We Are Very Close And Very Honest And By My Telling Him Everything, I'm Inadvertently Pressuring Him And Sure Enough The Closer We Get To Possible Ovulation Time, He Can't perform. I'm Totally FrustratEd And Even Tried ToInclude Fun Activities AndThings To Take Away The Stress. What Do I Do ToTake Away The PressurE So We Can Just Have Sex?

[Perrybaby14]

Just keep your lips zipped. Just tell him its a surprise lol

[CKMBJM]

Thanks, Everyone. I Have Tried Most Of All Of That And When I Zip My Lip He Asks And Keeps Asking  So It's Hard Because I Don't Want To Lie To Him So I Have To Be Extra Creative From Now On So That I Can Keep The Mystery But Not Lie To Him. Also I Have Done And continue To Do Creative, Sexy Things But The Pressure Was Still Getting To Him So I Think We're Gonna Have A Long Road ahead.

[ariellesmithe]

I agree with the other ladies. It will be hard but you can't tell him everything...especially when it's ovulation time. Try doing something a little out of the ordinary....maybe start with quick flirts via the phone during the day to get things warmed up.

It's hard but we've all been there.

Good luck! :)

[AnnieBrooke]

If you want to have a nice, even coverage of live sperm in your system all the time (which will cover the times you have had Clomid without having to mention it to him), just have sex every two or three days from the end of your period to the time for the next one to begin.  Don't obsess over your chart in front of him or say "we have to have sex tonight!" or he will begin to feel like a cow hooked to a milking machine.  Sperm lasts 5 to 6 days in your reproductive tract, and men shoot out millions at a time.  So you don't need to feel like there *is* a particular time anyway.  If he looks grim and says, "are we supposed to do it tonight?" tell him it's not one of the nights but you wouldn't mind a tumble just for fun.  He doesn't have to know (a) it is the night or (b) that you're just laying in a good seed bank for when you do ovulate.  You say "I'm very honest and tell him everything," but what you're doing is not honesty, it's oversharing.  Don't do a core dump of your obsessive interest in ovulation and pregnancy on the poor guy.  He's going to begin to feel like you're more interested in a baby than in him.

[Perrybaby14]

When its your ovulation time, do something sexy for him, get him excited and it'll take his mind off of pregnancy and will make him just wanna do ya lol

[MammaC86]

Dont tell him when youre close to ovulation. Let him have sex to have sex :) maybe that will help get things going if the pressure of ovulation isnt on his mind